Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 19 May 2010: She is not "using you" -- she is fulfilling her side of the bargain. As noted by others here, you are paying her for her time plus the sexual encounter. This does not mean she's "using" you any more than a therapist "uses" you by pretending to be ... (read in full...)
I know the relationship is wrong but I don't want to let go of him
Q. I dont really know where to start...I have been best friends with a guy for the last three or four years who has helped me through a previouse relationship with his friend..He has always been there for me and listened to me endlessly speak of my ...
A. 8 May 2010: Ditto -- but I would go further and say that you *cannot* be friends. As painful as that is, I don't think it is possible to be "just friends" now. I agree that he will not leave his wife. I say go and do not look back.... (read in full...)
Why does it hurt after I climax?
Q. i dont know if this makes sense so ill try my best to word it correctly lol....Okay so when me and my boyfriend have sex he always trys to make me finish way to early into it, and as soon as i finish it gets really painful and hes just there still ...
A. 8 May 2010: Is it the climax that hurts by itself or is the "friction" afterwards that hurts? I'm not a woman, but I've been told that your...you know...gets increased blood when you are aroused. I've also been told that it gets more sensitive, and that a lot ... (read in full...)
My male friend and I are close but I feel he jerks me about
Q. i'm mad at my friend but can't seem to figure it out. he will reach out, make connection, we are close at times, then he will just ignore me. i'm feeling jerked around and sick of it. when we talk he seems genuine and we have great conversations, ...
A. 8 May 2010: If you guys were just "casual friends" then his coming and going would not really be a big deal. You should have other friends and just feel comfortable hanging with them for a while. When he "comes back" and you are busy with other friends, then ... (read in full...)
Meeting online companion, AND his whole family?!
Q. I badly need advise before I materialize my plans. I met this guy exactly 5 months ago online as a way of coping up with a break-up. Anyway, he is younger than me by 7 years and at first we were just chatting out of boredom, I didn't even care...
A. 8 May 2010: My answer is still the same. Your additional reasons for being afraid are perfectly valid. I really hope you do not do this. I don't even know you and I am very worried for you. The pain you will feel for hurting his feelings would seem trivial ... (read in full...)
My husband will not have sex with me
Q. This is difficult for me to accept because I have always consider myself a hot person, very confident, and very comfortable with my physique, but in the past year my confidence level has gone done a notch. I'm married and I am sexual and I wan...
A. 8 May 2010: You should consider marriage counseling. There are likely other issues, as the other answers have pointed out. It does not mean you are not still attractive.
It may also be a sort of power play. Men are so used to being the ones led around b... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting or is it normal for guys to just text you back when ever they feel like it?
Q. Am i over reacting? or is this just generally how men/guys/lads are? i jsut dont understand i have a friend who appears to have feelings for me and i do him, i wont go into deatil but hes very shy and so am i, we havent had the best past and it...
A. 8 May 2010: Men are really like that. The frequency of his texting is not necessarily an indicator. We just don't communicate as much as women. Even after we are married (lol!) This is one of the many reasons women complain about us.
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What was he trying to say in this text?
Q. hello, i recently went on a date (first time) with a man who i met online, on the date he treated me very well, we got along great and he checked that i got home ok and also text the next day to say that he had a great time and would like to go out ...
A. 8 May 2010: He wants to take it up a notch physically, that seems clear. And he is being a ham-handed about it. He may be insecure, a hound, or both. Proceed with caution. ... (read in full...)
Struggling to get close to guys
Q. I am in my early 20s, and I am a working professional. I went from one of the most social situations (college) to one of the least social ones. When I go out, I see interesting guys that I want to meet but I don't know how to make the icebrea...
A. 8 May 2010: When you say you see guys when you are out, do you mean at a bar or something? That's not the best place to really get to meet people anyway, let alone if you are a little shy. There are better places.
Anyway, if you must go out, then why not ... (read in full...)
He has issues with my past
Q. I've read a good number of posts on the subject, but I want to see if anyone can give me a little insight on what I can do. A few days ago my boyfriend questioned my past. We had a long talk about it, not going into any specifics, and things seeme...
A. 8 May 2010: I feel that this is just something he is going to have to learn to accept. If he can't, then you guys may not work out. I know that would be very painful for you, and you hate that possibility, but imagine getting married and him still resenting ... (read in full...)
Meeting online companion, AND his whole family?!
Q. I badly need advise before I materialize my plans. I met this guy exactly 5 months ago online as a way of coping up with a break-up. Anyway, he is younger than me by 7 years and at first we were just chatting out of boredom, I didn't even care...
A. 8 May 2010: I really believe that you should *not* push through with this, as your gut seems to be telling you. I agree, it is too fast. Online relationships carry a certain risk anyway. You only see those traits that the other person chooses to display. ... (read in full...)
They tell me to my face that I'm ugly
Q. dear cupid. I have never thought of myself as pretty, but lately everyone has been calling me ugly. I get called ugly at least once everyday. Especially guys. Today, one of my friends made a flirting comment towards me and him and I was a little ...
A. 6 May 2010: Alice96, what you are experiencing is bullying -- plain and simple. What they are doing to you is not supposed to be tolerated in any school. You should get to a school counselor / vice principal or the like as soon as possible. These cases ... (read in full...)
Is equating love and sex causing me a hassle?
Q. I am looking for something that might help me-I am in a new relationship with a woman; I am her first girlfriend-and I am starting to feel frustrated with a perceived lack of sex, and with myself for being so pushy about wanting sex. My main p...
A. 5 May 2010: My apologies...Yes I am a dork for not reading your profile and gender carefully. I stand by my response, though -- thanks for generalizing to men AND women.
God, please don't try to change yourself with chemicals or anything, though. You may ... (read in full...)
My husband loves me completely but I don't love him. Should I leave him?
Q. I've read other peoples' questions and answers about whether they should stay in a loveless marriage, but no one seems to be in my situation. The fact is, my husband of 25 years is a kind, affectionate, caring, loving, reliable, attentive man wh...
A. 4 May 2010: My heart goes out to you...and to your husband. First, I would not reveal to him that you have never really enjoyed sex in the past. That really hurts and at this point is unnecessary -- it's water under the bridge. It seems pretty clear tha... (read in full...)
Is equating love and sex causing me a hassle?
Q. I am looking for something that might help me-I am in a new relationship with a woman; I am her first girlfriend-and I am starting to feel frustrated with a perceived lack of sex, and with myself for being so pushy about wanting sex. My main p...
A. 4 May 2010: Needing sex to feel love is NOT some sort of bad habit. It is called being a man. Please don't downplay the importance of your sex drive and don't feel guilty about it! Men are different from women. For us, the physical act of sex is a much, much ... (read in full...)
How long can a man stay for the sake of the kids?
Q. I have been married for 15 years. We have 2 kids. My wife has a lot of good qualities. She is a loving mom and generally a nice person. However, she has some very bad traits that have turned me off to the point of not wanting to be around her. ...
A. 4 May 2010: Thank you *so* much for the responses. If I thought that my wife would be emotionally liberated and happier if we separated, I would do it in a heartbeat. One big concern I have is that she would really be broken up. Not out of "love" for me ... (read in full...)
Men: Would you have treated a woman like this?
Q. I when out with this guy from work with his friends. We when to a couple of bars and a sushi place. We really hit it off. He bought me drinks that night. He stayed the night over at my place. We did not have sex but pretty close. The next ...
A. 3 May 2010: Easy one that. No, I would not have, and any guy worth being with would not have. So you are better off being rid of him.
Anyway, meeting folks in a bar is a dicey proposition. With the booze and the short time to get to know someone (not to ... (read in full...)
How can I make my 40 year old husband feel sexy not OLD?
Q. Hi, I'm 39 years old and my husband just turned 40. He's starting to look more like his father when his father was in his 40s and he's not liking it. He's not balding or anything but he keeps telling me that I'm aging a lot more gracefully than he ...
A. 3 May 2010: Wow -- your husband should thank his lucky stars. Sounds like you are lucky to have him as well.
Seriously, this thing about reaching 40 is hard on a lot of men. I'm thinking that the way to work on his self image is to get him to discover... (read in full...)
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