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writes:i dont know if this makes sense so ill try my best to word it correctly lol....Okay so when me and my boyfriend have sex he always trys to make me finish way to early into it, and as soon as i finish it gets really painful and hes just there still going at it, i dont understand why it hurts so much i dont say anything cause i know him and hell probbaly end up feeling bad? So i guess my question is why does it hurt after i climax? Reply to this Question
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 May 2010):
 Why does he force you to orgasm? You should orgasm when you feel ready to orgasm, not because he's pressuring you into it. Once you've orgasmed your body feels done and the same way he goes soft after he finishes, your vagina becomes tight again and stops producing lubrication. You wouldn't expect him to keep going at it once he's come, would you? Tell him that if you're going to finish early he needs to at least put on some lube if he wants to continue. I think the big issue is that he's telling you when to orgasm. He needs to respect you more than to tell you when to finish and to keep having sex with you when it hurts. Sex shouldn't hurt.
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reader, bournedout +, writes (8 May 2010):
Is it the climax that hurts by itself or is the "friction" afterwards that hurts? I'm not a woman, but I've been told that your...you know...gets increased blood when you are aroused. I've also been told that it gets more sensitive, and that a lot of thrusting during that time can hurt.
It's a tricky subject to bring up with your boyfriend, but you might as well try I think. Just say it in a more positive way like -- "Hey, you know I really like it when {insert desired behavior}" so it does not sound like he's doing something wrong. He really wants to please you! I think why he's trying to make you climax early is that so he can be assured that he has "done his duty" and can himself climax without feeling guilty. My two cents.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2010): It happens to a lot of women. It hurts because you get dry and your not in the mood anymore.
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