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Concern for others is my defining quality, has been since I was a kid. I got it from my grandfather (who raised me from a baby) and practice it with consistency, I genuinely care about other people.
I am a proud American serviceman, that runs in the family too. My dedication to my country is the new biggest distraction to my personal life. |
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My girlfriend forbids me to see her at all when that's not possible!
Q. There is this girl that my girlfriend doesn't like, basically, she hates her due to first impression. The problem now is that girl happens to be my roommate's girlfriend, while at the same time my girlfriend forbids me to see that girl at all, ie. I ...
A. 10 January 2009: Wow, thats rough. You need to tell your girl to relax, this is her personal issue and she has no right to use you as a proxy, especially when contact with this woman is unavoidable. She needs to resolve this argument with your roommate's girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Troubles with my ex, his ex and my tongue piercing...
Q. Im sorry its long but please please read!After a year and a bit my exboyfriend has started getting alot closer to me, to the extent where he always wants to get my attention, talk to me, touch my hair, tickle me, be playful, cuddle me and expect to ...
A. 10 January 2009: What he may be looking for is reassurance. Many people rebound aggressively after being hurt, they seek confidence through other people's attention. The best thing you can do for him is to be friendly but ask him to wait for you, just a few weeks. ... (read in full...)
Authority figure: How can I get to know him without crossing the line?
Q. I'm attracted to this guy, not that I'm thinking about doing anything (I don't wanna get that exam at the gyno when they use that scary tool thing lol). The problem? He's my "authority figure" you could say, though he isn't much older than me. How ...
A. 10 January 2009: What kind of authority figure is he?
This really depends on what kind of "authority figure" he is. In the armed services we cannot have personal relationships within our own commands (especially with a superior). If your situation is somethin... (read in full...)
He hit me again today but I still love him. Please, someone tell me what to do...
Q. Hey, i'm 19, I have been with my boyfriend for more than a year. About 4 months ago, he started hitting me. Nothing really to start with but it got worse. Today he burst my nose and strangled me, I think that it was probably the most terrifying ...
A. 6 September 2008: You need to contact police or a domestic violence hotline. This man has no right to hurt you, and you should never have to fear for your safety in your own home. It can be hard to make that step, but you need to do it for yourself.
Never allow yo... (read in full...)
How do I stop being horny all the time?
Q. Ive been single for about 5 months, which has ment no sex, the problem is im horny all the time, its driving me crazy and its all im thinking about How do i stop thinking about it? and how do i stop being horny 24/7? Should i just go and have a on...
A. 2 September 2008: DON'T attempt the one night stand. Really. That's no good. Basically every male, ages 13-45 feels your pain right now. From experience I can recomend work. Immerse yourself in a new hobby or part-time job, that will keep you distracted at le... (read in full...)
Should I talk to this girl about my old guy or just leave it?
Q. Should I message a guy's old lover to find out the whole story of what happened? Im currently in the process of getting over a guy I've liked for a while. I found out he's a jerk and was seeing other women while we were a thing. He now has a new...
A. 2 September 2008: I would just leave it all for a while. The need to pry into an ex's life for closure reasons is a produt of anxiety. If he was seeing other women then you ARE better off without him, what occured between him and his ex is between them, what will ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I had to compete with the computer for her attantion...
Q. why does my fiance always go online and ignore me and then get upset with me when i say something to her about being online all the time ??? We both had yearbook and tagged and myspace accounts and always argued over them so i erased all mine but ...
A. 2 September 2008: There is such a thing as "internet addiction", it concerns in the same issues as most other addictions. I had a friend in my barracks who had a similar problem. We threw his computer out a 3rd story window, but since thats a little extreme I... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but keep thinking me and this other boy could have been amazing together, had we had a chance!
Q. I don't know how complicated this is but I know it's wrong. I have been with my boyfriend for two years and we always have an amazing time together. But before I met him I was falling for another boy who I used to always see round school, I realised ...
A. 1 September 2008: Its rough, life is full of regrets. However, you need to ask yourself "would leaving in for a chance with A really be worth it?" You sound pretty happy with what you have now, if it were me, I'd focus on what is instead of what could have been. ... (read in full...)
Why can't I find anyone?!
Q. I'm not sure what to do, I just can't find anyone! Its been about 3 years since I've had a relationship, in the time between I've filled that void of my life with work and study. Now I just feel empty and lonesome, its not even so much a sexual ...
A. 1 September 2008: To be honest I never really found clubs that interesting, the women always seemed distant or fake, but I guess I'll just have to keep at. Heck, in another year I won't even have to sneak in through the back door!
Maybe in clubs located closer t... (read in full...)
My sister made a comment about guys in college and that has made me re-evaluate my love life!
Q. In a conversation with my mother, My sister laughed when Mom made a comment that maybe someone at her school would ask her out if she takes a break from her current boyfriend. In response, my Sister explained that nobody askes anyone out on dates ...
A. 1 September 2008: NO... NO NO NO. Don't become that kind of girl! That kind of thing breaks my heart. There are guys out there interested in more than sex, I'm one of them. The hard part about meeting potential mates is how distant society has become today. It... (read in full...)
I pushed him too far and he's heartbroken. How can I fix this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for ten months. It was perfect, but not for long. We fought. It was generally his fault, him saying the wrong things, and I would get so hurt that I would break up with him, promising myself that I would lea...
A. 1 September 2008: This may not be what you want to hear, but I'll say it anyway. He doesn't have a clue what he wants. We were all 15yo at one time, but I'm also not so old that I can't remember those times. I'm sure he was happy when you were together, but at... (read in full...)
Why would my friend not mention his family anymore while deployed? Should I ask if his family's OK? I'm worried about them.
Q. I have a friend who's military, He's on assignment away from home (here in the US but far from his current base). I asked him if his countdown for going home started since he's finishing the time assigned. He said that his duty is indeed coming t...
A. 1 September 2008: I know how this can be, as a sailors in the US Navy I find that guys (and women) have different ways of dealing with being away. I tend to put my family out of sight and out of mind, I focus entirely on my work becuase it eliminates tempt... (read in full...)
He stubbornly insists we should be friends but I know he's much more than that to me! Help!
Q. What do you do when you and a man just CANNOT be anything but significant others? There is no "friends" step where we are concerned. It is all or nothing. He wants to build a relationship with me again, but he says he doesn't want to jump right in...
A. 1 September 2008: I've dealt with this before on the behalf of a female friend. Her boyfriend had thrown her on the "back burner" in order to chase other women while having her easily accessable as a fallback. He toyed with her so many times that I ended up removin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has profiles on on-line dating sites. I don't know what to believe.
Q. We've been together for 3 months and a half. We met online and I found some time ago the profiles he had before we met, and asked him to please take them off, since anyway he was not logging in them (I saw his last log ins and he had stopped) and he ...
A. 1 September 2008: He needs to understand that it won't fly in your house, make that clear as day. If it continues, get clever. Make your own account on the same site and harrass him if need be, show him how you feel so he knows first hand.... (read in full...)
I can't control when I cry and have tried everything...can anybody help??
Q. Ok, I have a very hard situation to solve. I can't control when I cry. I remember that even as a kid, I cried a lot. My mom used to tell me to be stronger and not cry about everything. Sometimes I'd cry when it wasn't even something hurtful....
A. 31 August 2008: I know what you mean, as a preteen I was not too different. I think it may be worse for a man, but certainly feel for you. My advice would have to be distance. The crying for me was a fear of doing or saying something I couldn't undo. Its more o... (read in full...)
He's not the same now that I'm pregnant.
Q. I'm 7 months pregnant and feel like my relationship is falling down around my ears. My parents didn't react to well when then heard the news, but they are looking forward to meeting their new grandchild, even offering to buy the pram. When I told ...
A. 31 August 2008: For a guy this is a really big step, fear IS a factor. I've seen burly sailors turn into weeping wrecks over the arrival of a child, he may just be spooked and trying to hide that fact. Deadbeat dads are a huge problem in the USA, if it comes down... (read in full...)
He's chatty on line but quiet in person. I'm not sure he likes me.
Q. I'm really confussed about a guy who i think likes me but im not sure....i used to work with him he was really quiet so i thought he didnt like me? then ive seen him every now and again as we live in the same area and mix witht he same people. he ...
A. 31 August 2008: I've been accused of this before myself, my best guess is that he likes you, maybe more than you think. As men we keep some childish habbits all our lives, we'll sometimes ignore or snub women we're really drawn to even as adults. Don't read into ... (read in full...)
I feel awkward in social situations. How can I overcome this?
Q. hey, i really need some advice on how to boost my confidence. i find that i get very uncomfortable in social situations. i feel awkward and don't know what to say. how can i overcome this?...
A. 31 August 2008: A good smile is all it takes! Men compose the more outgoing side of socializing and courting (and have for a long, long time). You need only get out there and demonstrate a willingness to meet and mingle. Seldom will men turn down a spontaneous co... (read in full...)
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