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writes:why does my fiance always go online and ignore me and then get upset with me when i say something to her about being online all the time ??? We both had yearbook and tagged and myspace accounts and always argued over them so i erased all mine but she still kept myspace and wont delete it why ??? i feel as if i have to compete with the computer for her attention and affection....
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reader, baybeegurl_x  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 my boyfriend is EXACTLY the same, i go round his + most of the day he will sit at his laptop, not talking to anybody but just on ebay. it's annoying, but i love him so i guess i except who he is and what he likes to do! and i don't think she would like you saying for her to delete her myspace just because you did, i made that mistake my boyfriend made me delete mine because he deleted his, i lost contact with a lot of friends and i now regret doing it!you have to sit down and think whether you want to be with somebody who just wants to be with the computer? or if you love her accept who she is and what she likes doing! if she won't delete it for you or spend more time with you because she's always online and it's clearly upsetting you i can't of anything for you to do other than either be with her and accept it or notgood luck x
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Tricky one but she maybe talking to people she doesnt want you to know about. My ex was insanely jealous of me talking to anyone but turned out he had 4 affairs, maybe its a case of I dont trust you because I know what Im up to x
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reader, Straight Up1  +, writes (2 September 2008):
 The computer is an escape from the reality of life... people get addicted to this false world... and especially the attention they can get and the person they can become from the comfort of home without risking anything.Its obvious she is addicted to the social network scene... so by asking her to quit that...its like taking cigarettes or crack from an addicted user!!Try to create some social things more focused in real life for you and her to get involved in... get out and do some things...meet some people etc etc.if this doesnt seem to work... look a little deeper into her reasons for being on there... perhaps she is flirting with other guys...or enjoys other guys flirting with her online...everyone loves attention from the opposite sex...and this again can be a harmless way to get attention....but sometimes it can go too far and once thatv isnt exciting enough... real life meetings can happen.....spells.... DISASTER!!
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reader, bg +, writes (2 September 2008):
There is such a thing as "internet addiction", it concerns in the same issues as most other addictions.I had a friend in my barracks who had a similar problem. We threw his computer out a 3rd story window, but since thats a little extreme I would just hide it or take the cords. With that distraction out of the way your can confront your wife on the issue.Internet addiction seems kind of like a mixture of OCD and social anxiety. You could also try to get her to go out on the weekends more, to replace interaction with the computer with interaction with friends and yourself.
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reader, Aunty Em +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Just because you deleted yours doesn't mean she should too, unless that was the prior agreement. Ask her why she does spend so much time online, and that you'd appreciate it a lot more if she cut it down ..? You're missing her.
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