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writes:I'm 7 months pregnant and feel like my relationship is falling down around my ears. My parents didn't react to well when then heard the news, but they are looking forward to meeting their new grandchild, even offering to buy the pram. When I told my boyfriend yesterday, he made snide and rude comments bout my parents and we haven't spoken since. We were even meant to get some stuff this weekend for the baby and instead he went out drinking with the lads....Any time we have an arguement it is always me who makes the effort to work things ou and I feel he expects the same this time, but yet it was him who madethe rude comments bout my family.what does anything think I should do?? He told his friends last weekend he's excited bout the baby, but yet I'm not seeing this happiness. Reply to this Question
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reader, Madam +, writes (13 September 2008):
Madam is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok guys so we had a good week this week, laughin and chattin away and things seemed back on track till he brought his sister's pram home last nigh and all hell broke loose. My reaction was "its not ours". He slept last night in the spare room and went out agin this morning with pram back to his mam's. I subsequently found searches on google bout why I am pushing him away, yet I've always included him and discussed things wtih him re preparing for baby beforebuying things.
Is he scared? Has he fallen out of love with me? Baby is due in 6 weeks and I'm freaked out.
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reader, Madam +, writes (1 September 2008):
Madam is verified as being by the original poster of the questionguys, thanks for coming back to me. 1 question, if he is so scared about becoming a dad would he not be better of discussing it with me and I might have the same fears. I did ask him tonight if that was part of the problem and he denied it.
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reader, cthulhuhugs  +, writes (1 September 2008):
 Men get like this when they're facing fatherhood. It's a veritable cauldron of ridiclous and conflicting emotions. I'm sure he's excited and happy, but he's also terrified. That being said, make it clear that you're not going to put up with his shit. Let him know that he WILL keep promises and responsibilities to you and your child or you'll leave. Having no father for your child is better than having one who is sub-par. Though in your situation it just sounds like first time dad jitters, and I'm sure he'll get over it. Most women opperate under the assumption that their man will get over it when they first hold their child, but it usually takes about 6 months for it all to sink in. Hang in their sweetie.
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reader, bg +, writes (31 August 2008):
For a guy this is a really big step, fear IS a factor. I've seen burly sailors turn into weeping wrecks over the arrival of a child, he may just be spooked and trying to hide that fact.Deadbeat dads are a huge problem in the USA, if it comes down to it remind him that only a coward runs from duty, that would light a fire under my ass.
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