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writes:I have a friend who's military, He's on assignment away from home (here in the US but far from his current base). I asked him if his countdown for going home started since he's finishing the time assigned.He said that his duty is indeed coming to an end but he's making the most of it as he can. I thought he was going to say he missed home and family but he didn't said that when he used to do so. I mean, did I asked him wrong or why would he said it like that. Many GI friends are counting the days to go home, so I thought I would get that reply.This is his 2nd marriage and I wouldn't like him to go over a pain again. Should I ask if family is OK or not get into there?Because every time something wrong happens he comes crying to me, and it's not like I won't help but he's life's been pretty messy and I hope this time he got it right.
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reader, bg  +, writes (1 September 2008):
I know how this can be, as a sailors in the US Navy I find that guys (and women) have different ways of dealing with being away.I tend to put my family out of sight and out of mind, I focus entirely on my work becuase it eliminates temptation and prevents me from feeling lonely (for a time).If I were you I'd probe a bit just to make sure. Don't be upfront about your concerns, but friendly and communicate as an uninvolved party. If you feel something is out of place DO NOT directly involve yourself, but instead contact Fleet Family Services or an equivalent military support agency, they will know what to do!
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (30 August 2008):
There is a chance that his home life isn't that good but if i understood you right he is almost done with his tour and he will go home for good. Maybe he will miss the idea of feel so important. He might be missing the idea of being a soldier. I would ask if his family is ok but I would also ask if he is going to miss serving his country.
Also thank you for your service!
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