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Caught my wife giving a BJ to an older guy at a party... !

Q.   I have been married for 6 years and my life is pretty good, I am 29 and my wife is 26, we have an 18-month little girl. We got married when she was still at University and I run my own company, which is more than profitable, so no financial worries. ...

A.   28 March 2011: Do you guys still love each other? She should tell you the real reason she did it, and decide if she wants to continue. You mention that the man wasn't attractive, but it may have been a thrill for her to bring that much pleasure to someone. Does ... (read in full...)

The sight of my pregnant girlfriend just doesn't turn me on

Q.   Hi. Got my g/f pregnant about 6months ago. Really pleased to be having this baby, always wanted to be a daddy. Problem lies in that i love this women but since finding out about the pregnancy i no longer feel attracted to her. Our sex life used to ...

A.   23 March 2011: I think that if you were attracted to her before, there will not be a problem. But, get ready for the sleepless nights and tired wife. You need to help her out as much as you can. I'm an old married guy with four kids, and there have been dry ... (read in full...)

Should I be patient with my boyfriend?

Q.   I've been dating my boyfriend for 3 months. He is really sweet and absolutely wonderful to me. But he keeps telling me he's confused about his life. He was married for 15 years and it ended last year. She was well off financially so he never worried ...

A.   27 September 2010: I don't think it's fair for him to keep you "on hold" without any commitment on his part. I think you should give him a little more room to figure things out. If he gets upset, it had better not be with you. HE needs to decide if HE wants to ... (read in full...)

I want my virginity back!

Q.   i had premarital sex wid my xbf.he used me to said he ii marry me.now i get a guy who luvs me and marry me.but i dont want to marry him like dis .i want my virginity back plssss help me...is there any treatment for that?...thnk u ...

A.   27 September 2010: I agree with the previous post. I think the new guy will accept your situation if you tell him the truth, unless there are other cultural issues that I'm not familiar with.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend lied to my face& up to now he is still hiding it from me

Q.   Just this summer, I saw that my boyfriend had one of this girl's number on his recent texts, meaning he was recently texting with her. Oh and he knows that I hate this girl so much. So I asked him about it and he told me that "probably someone was ...

A.   27 September 2010: If you're attached to him, tell him you like/love him, but you need truth and open communication, or it's walking time. That is not an unreasonable condition for a relationship. Also, make your expectations regarding this other girl clear. I know ... (read in full...)

Will she ever be ready, or is she just teasing me?

Q.   Ok I dont want to come off as a jerk so please don't hate on me. My gff is 19 and a virgin, am I 22 and not one. We have been dating for 3 months and she says she still sin ready. I DONT pressure her, I don't want to hurt her in any way BUT it is ...

A.   27 September 2010: I'm not "hating on you", but you need to wait as long as she wants to wait, or move on. Three months is nothing...just wait until you're married. I'm not making fun of marriage either, but there will be times with pregnancies, health issues, etc. ... (read in full...)

I don't like my family!

Q.   My father has 4 elder brothers - 1 brother and 3 sisters. They've always been united and got along excellent. They're really supportive when one of them has problems, they're always THERE, "one for all and all for one". I honestly appreciate this, ...

A.   27 September 2010: I think that if your dad feels the same way, he should let them know that there are hurt feelings, and if they really do have good intentions, they'll respond to it. If they want to cause hurt feelings, or don't care, then who needs them around? I ... (read in full...)

Is it too early for those three special words?

Q.   So I've dated and had my share of hookups. I've only ever loved one person and he was my boyfriend for about 8 months. I started hooking up with this guy about 2 months ago. He says he likes me a lot and I believe him. I'm starting to love him. He ...

A.   27 September 2010: ...just my humble experience...I got to a point where I couldn't help but say it to her. It just had to come out. Are you there yet? (Not that you can't tell him some of your feelings before you're completely in love.)... (read in full...)

I slept with my husbands friend! What do I do now?

Q.   So yeah last night i went out with a mutal friend for mine and my husband. Granted there has always been some sexual tention there, never intented to act on it but did entertain the idea on occastion . We go to the bar and have a good time just some ...

A.   27 September 2010: You need to talk to him. You both need to discuss your needs from each other and how they can be fulfilled. If you love each other enough, things could still work out OK. I think you could be amazed what a husband could forgive, and even ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend can't cum from oral...

Q.   I have a good deal of experience in sex and have been told by all my past partners that I give a great blow job. The thing is I haven't been able to get my boyfriend to come from one. He wants to, I would love him to, but I just can't seem to get ...

A.   20 September 2010: Be creative. Use your imagination. I can't imagine he wouldn't enjoy a little experimentation. You could mix it up a little with using your hands, or him using his hands along with it. Spend time just playing with each other, not caring whether ... (read in full...)

Would he never consider dating her,because she is a bit taller?

Q.   Me and my best friend just started high school last week and we try to befriend our classmates, but it seems she already has taken an interest in a guy. he looks and stares quite often at her, and when she catches him, he doesn't look away, he just ...

A.   20 September 2010: I doubt he cares if she's taller or bigger. I realize you're still in high school, where trivial details like that can still get blown out of proportion, but in the real world, that is just a small detail to most people.... (read in full...)

How to stop the boredom?

Q.   Hello Dear Cupid, I just had a quick question for everyone, who may be able to help me out? We all know how once you've been dating someone a while stuff in the bedroom can get overplayed, and boring. I was just wondering if anyone had any i...

A.   20 September 2010: If the rest of your relationship is really strong, start discussing fantasies. Be careful though, as insecurities can come out of nowhere. Maybe start off by trading just a couple of your simpler fantasies.... (read in full...)

Wife's story doesn't make sense

Q.   should i belive my wife when she tells me she only had sex with one other partner than me, but let 4 other guys put there penis up to her vagina and just rubb the outside, i am having concerns she is running around now ...

A.   20 September 2010: I wouldn't think she'd tell you that much if she wanted to hide it from you. And I agree with a previous post, that she may have kept the 4 penises on the outside to justify what she was doing according to her own definitions. I don't think it ... (read in full...)

How should I react to her comments?

Q.   Not sure what to do, I have been married for over 20 years, and recently witnessed a co-worker of my husband try to hit on him. Bringing this up has led us to a huge argument, and now we are not talking. Not sure why he is mad at me for bringing it ...

A.   10 September 2010: He could just be irritated that you don't trust him. But, not knowing any more than the short information above, I don't know. I personally wouldn't worry too much if the above comments are all you're going on. There are a lot of people like her. ... (read in full...)

Could a virgin train themselves for better sex?

Q.   I may be a virgin but I don't want to be ill prepared for my first time. So I have been doing research onto sexual techniques and what could make sex better. Since I want to make my first time fun for her as well, I thought this site would be a good ...

A.   10 September 2010: Just worry about the love part first. Part of the fun of sex is discovering together. I'm not saying that you can't learn some things from somewhere else, but that shouldn't be your focus, and porn certainly could teach you some inaccuracies.... (read in full...)

Am I crazy or is she cheating?

Q.   hello me and my wife have been together 8 yrs and have 2 kids. I recently caught her in a few lies and now I'm having trust issues and thinks she is cheating on me. we have agreed social networking sites are immature and cause problems so we both ...

A.   10 September 2010: It sounds like you guys need to get a lot closer if you want to keep going. The trust issues alone can be a relationship killer. Remember though, that if you want her to be open and honest with you, you need to create a non-threatening environment ... (read in full...)

Should I shave my chest hair?

Q.   Hey ladies, and gentlemen if you can provide good info, should I shave my body hair? Is that something that women like or not? I know I'm over generalizing here but I would like some insight onto this. I'm not insanely hairy, but I have the standard ...

A.   10 September 2010: I know women with both preferences. You'll have to ask the ones that matter to you. As a man, I would be glad to get rid of my chest hair, but my wife likes it.... (read in full...)

We flirted, we had sex and now .... nothing!

Q.   so this guy has been flirting with me all summer and we have this intimate connection that i cant say i have had with other people. We like mesh in a way that makes it like nobody else is in the room. He tickles me to have an excuse to hold me an we ...

A.   10 September 2010: First of all, as far as the apology...for what? For sleeping together? I'm thinking he was involved in that event. He could have stopped if he didn't want to. If he's having regrets, it may be with himself. I think it is immature behavior on ... (read in full...)

If this were your partner's past, would you be as upset as I am?

Q.   I met my girlfriend on a popular on-line dating website. Her story was this - she had been doing on-line dating for 5 years, but had never been out on more than 2 dates with anyone she met on the internet. She is a divorced mother of one child, and ...

A.   10 September 2010: If you are judging her, then first, you will make it harder for her to be honest and open with you, and if it really makes you sick, then maybe she's not the one for you. Personally, I wouldn't care if it was in her past. And, actually, even if it ... (read in full...)

Why do married men ogle other women?

Q.   Why do men when they are married 'lech/ogle' women and flirt with them? Are they insecure, are they trying to boost their own ego, are they not happy with their own marriage?...

A.   10 September 2010: I am happily married, and have never even come close to cheating. However, my eyes are drawn to beautiful women, (and nice cars, amazing animals...) Women are very beautiful. There are very few exceptions to this. I am sure your husband thinks ... (read in full...)

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