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writes:so this guy has been flirting with me all summer and we have this intimate connection that i cant say i have had with other people. We like mesh in a way that makes it like nobody else is in the room. He tickles me to have an excuse to hold me an we can just cuddle for hours. He is pretty shy cuz he hasnt had a girlfriend in like 2 years. One night we ended up dancing all night an when we seen eachother at a party it was a little weird until i went up an talked to him. Then last weekend we ended up sleeping together... i freaked out a little bit cuz i was a little nervous of the morning so i left.Now he wont even talk to me. I apologized an said i was into him an nothing. Thought giving him a few days to think was ok so after a couple i just sent a casual "hey whats up" text. Still got nothing. Im a little upset. His friends been asking him if he into me an he avoids the whole topic. Is he that mad at me? The night before we slept together he wanted me to just crash at his place but my friend who i was with didnt want to so we didnt. Im not sure what to do or think
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks. I'm taking what everyone said into consideration. Its a really messed up situation in a way. He did tell some girl thats his friends girlfriend that "he felt like being a dick" by not responding to me. I really do think this is his way to hurt me by me leaving him that night.
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reader, ashaw  +, writes (10 September 2010):
First of all, as far as the apology...for what? For sleeping together? I'm thinking he was involved in that event. He could have stopped if he didn't want to. If he's having regrets, it may be with himself. I think it is immature behavior on his part not to at least respond to you. (In my old fashioned opinion, you guys got to the sex a little too quickly, but that's already in the past now. So, we can't change it, and won't waste time on it beyond perhaps affecting future decisions.) I think you need to make your position known to him, and then he has some decisions to make. I hope he's mature enough to make good ones. Good luck to you, and realize you're young, and there is a lot of life ahead of you to enjoy regardless of how this turns out.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (10 September 2010):
 If you want to, you can try and knock on his door, if he turns you down, you'll know to move on but, now, since you say that you and he had this amazing connection, I think it would be worth a shot. Don't you? Just try and visit him and talk through it, there is no reason why this cannot be resolved peacefully and happily. Good Luck.
I hope that helps.
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reader, Carriesaunderson  +, writes (10 September 2010):
There clearly was some kind of connection between you two ,
may that attraction be simply sexual attraction .
Sometimes you have to think about the fact that you had him,
after all its better to have had him once than not at all.
In my own opinion , maybe it just wasnt meant to be.
Destiny is the main source , if anything was or is supposed to come out of it , it will. Look at it this way , if he cant forgive you or have the decency to forgive you for leaving maybe he's not the guy you thought he was. dont dwell on the bad too much , everything happens for a reason , the only hard thing is finding out what that reason was , goodluck
- carrie x
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