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writes:Hi. Got my g/f pregnant about 6months ago. Really pleased to be having this baby, always wanted to be a daddy. Problem lies in that i love this women but since finding out about the pregnancy i no longer feel attracted to her. Our sex life used to be great and i have quite a high libido. I tell her am tired our worried about the baby. In actual fact am wanking away constantly to relieve myself. Do you think the attraction will return or is that it? Cant live like this - am getting mad horny but the sight of her just doesnt do it. Help
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reader, AnimeGrl  +, writes (5 December 2011):
I can tell you from personal experience that this is the most painful thing in the world. She is bigger than usual because she is making a baby for you. That should be the sexiest, most feminine thing in the world. I have a baby, almost five months old, and my boyfriend posted on this site about how he found me totally unattractive while I was pregnant because I gained 55 lbs to give birth to our beautiful daughter. His post was devastating to me. It's been almost 3 1/2 months since I was given the "ok" and we still haven't been intimate. Tonight, he told me that the thought of it gives him a feeling "like nausea." He says that the reaction is both to my physical appearance, and to an emotional disconnect between us. Maybe if you still care emotionally about your girlfriend and the mother of your child, there is still hope for you. There is none for me.
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reader, ashaw +, writes (23 March 2011):
I think that if you were attracted to her before, there will not be a problem. But, get ready for the sleepless nights and tired wife. You need to help her out as much as you can. I'm an old married guy with four kids, and there have been dry spells at times, but things are better now than ever. Don't give up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Hmmm, this is a tough one lol but I'll do my best. First of all, don't feel guilty or view yourself as a bad person for this, because you can't control what does or doesn't do it for you. If people could choose who they are/aren't attracted to, I think every married person would shut off attraction for anyone other than their spouse. Anyway, I've heard a lot of men experience this, and I think it actually could be a natural instinct. I think Charlie Sheen said what I'm trying to say right now best in an episode of Two and a Half men, "Once there's a bun in the oven, I don't feel the need to butter it." (It's a funny episode by the way, don't know if you've ever seen it, but it could make you feel better about your situation.) Yes, I think the attraction will return. Maybe not immediately after the baby is born, but shortly thereafter. You didn't start losing attraction at all before she got pregnant, did you? If not, I believe the attraction will most definitely return.
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