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Archived questions from: October, 2015 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

If I chose not to have sex how do I find the willpower to wait?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3291 days ago

31 October 2015 (F)

age 22-25 - I'm 16 in my first year of college and I'm still a virgin (and proud to be one actually). But everyday becomes a little harder even though I know staying a virgin until I meet "the one" or near enough is the right thing to do. I haven't even kissed a guy or had a boyfriend ... (264 words)

How can I tighten up my vaginal muscles?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3307 days ago

31 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - I did sex before two months . Now I am in a another relationship. And we will get married in 6 months . But I don't want to feel embarrassed when we're having sex. So I want to tighten my vagina when I sex with him . Please tell me how I can d... (88 words)

Decided to take a break from each other. Will he think it's a permanent thing by April?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3307 days ago

31 October 2015 (F) age 30-35 - Okay, firstly we've only been broken up a few hours so this question is more of a future problem solving one. We broke up because life schedules mean we never see each other. I literally have work 7 days a week and it clashes with his days off so we're barely free at the same ... (335 words)

He says he has a flirty personality. Why is he giving me mixed signals? Could it be that he's scared to date?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3307 days ago

31 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Bear with me, this is a little long but he's giving mixed signals, Yesterday I had a date with the his guy, he picked me up, bought me coffee, we had a great time and he messaged me later that afternoon and we talked for an hour or so. Today, I start chatting with h... (320 words)

Is there any way to show people that first impressions of a person were wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

31 October 2015 (M)

age 30-35 - I recently started dating this girl, she's 20 and has a 4year old son. I ended up making a horrible first and second impression on her parents and I despartely need to redeem myself. Three weeks ago her parents were away when I got a call while I was hanging out with some fri... (505 words)

I'm dating my married step uncle...help? I need advice on what to do, please?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3304 days ago

31 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok hi. Completely new at this. So to get right to the point. I'm dating my step uncle so (my mothers step mums son) so not. Definitely not blood related. He is married (not separated) tho like typical situations (is going to get a device and leave etc) Never looked at hi... (195 words)

What can I do? I just can't handle watching her love someone else.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

31 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - my ex-best friend / ex-lover and i had a very complicated 7 year bisexual relationship. I was her shameful secret and i always felt rejected, used and humiliated. she treated me bad and always flaunted different relationships she had with others in my face without a care i... (357 words)

Why is he, all of a sudden, interested in trying? Is sex, the first time, sometimes not successful?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3290 days ago

31 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf never used to be very much into having sex. We've been dating for over 3 yrs now. We are both college graduates. I'm working before going to med school. He's getting ready for law school. One of the biggest problems in our relationship was that even though he would ... (316 words)

Does he just tolerate my shape due to the emotional connection? Is it wrong of me to want a man who loves all of me including my body shape?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

31 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been in a Relationship with a man for a year and a half and very happy . The time we have spent together has been wonderful . However recently he has had an issue with my weight and is treating me differently because of it. He seems extremely attracted to thin woman and I ... (129 words)

The question is, should I tell the lady how I feel after we've had 5 months apart?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3307 days ago

31 October 2015 (M)

age 30-35 - The question is, should I tell the lady how I feel after we've had 5 months apart? All night having a good time with everyone, celebrating my ex's PhD which she achieved today. (ABC) ABC says things that stay with me "I missed my chance" - "This was the good one" to me. I get ... (820 words)

How can I tell them my gf is pregnant?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

30 October 2015 (M)

age 26-29 - I'm 19 and have been dating my girlfriend for a year. We are both in university. I have a 3 year son with my ex girlfriend. We share custody with one week on one week off. I live in an apartment above my parents garage rent free. During the summer I work full time but while I'm ... (160 words)

I don't want to be her second best friend!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3307 days ago

30 October 2015 (F)

age 22-25 - Hello, I have a problem and I really need some help. Basically I have this friend and she she's my best friend and were so close, like we see eachother whenever we can. We cuddle and kiss eachothers cheeks and stuff were so close. But the problem in she had this other best ... (286 words)

The man I am dating refuses to introduce me to his family

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

30 October 2015 (F) age 30-35 - Thanks for ur replies so far concerning my previous question.i am a 25yrs and the guy is 36yrs we've been dating over a year now becos when he ask my hand in marriage as at last year i refused becos i dont know much about him before i excepted him for us to begin our ... (152 words)

I love my husband to be but I know my parents are ashamed of him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

30 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Im getting marry with my fiance next year. We had been together for 6 years. Hes caring and people can tell he loves me deeply from how he treated me. His family loves me and always include me in every event and gatherings they had. They also excited about our wedding next... (335 words)

We are looking to move in together, yet he won't be flexible! What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

30 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I have been in a long distance relationship for two years. I am 33, he is 30 and we live 3 hours apart. We are looking to move in together. He wants me to move to his house which is in the countryside. There aren't any jobs in my career there and wages are ge... (307 words)

How do I ask my lesbian friend to date me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

30 October 2015 (M)

age 22-25 - I am a junior in high school, and I have a friend that I really, REALLY like. There's just one problem: she's lesbian. Well, from what she says, she's more bisexual, just on the women's side. I do a lot for her, just because she's my friend. I recently helped take her dog to ... (235 words)

I thought we were cool but he's went MIA, what went wrong?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3305 days ago

30 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and this guy have been going to the same uni for the past three years and have mutual friends. So mutual that he hangs out with a guy I was heavily involved with. We hit it off recently. We spoke everyday non stop for a good month and a half and he's had afterparties whe... (380 words)

My husband cheated and left me and now he wants to talk. What should I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi, I was married for 30 years. My husband left me three years ago and went off with another woman who he met through as. He has been sober now for six months and I got the first text today from him saying he was sorry for all the hurt he caused and wants to meet and talk to ... (86 words)

Slam bam thank you ma'am is all I get!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi everyone! I've been with my boyfriend for around 5 months, we've been great, had various issues which soon got resolved. When we first got together we had sex constantly, he would always perform oral sex and we'd have an amazing time, but over the past 2-3 months he doesn't ... (129 words)

Should I go out on the date with second guy? I like them both!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 22-25 - Hi I could use some help please, So basically I recently moved schools in the last 2 weeks and meet this guy and we've been talking he's totally in love with me and I dunno how I feel back I want to go on a date and meet up with him before I think about dating him and he's rea... (155 words)

Is my girlfriend having sex with her personal trainer?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

29 October 2015 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi guys, I've been dating someone for 6 months now and generally it's been great. She has had a personal trainer (PT) for about 8 months. I was happy she had goals and wants to achieve them. I've started becoming concerned with the chats they have. Her PT even makes jok... (370 words)

He stopped replying to my texts! What should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 22-25 - Me and this guy- let's call him bone- sat next to eachother in a lesson last year in school during the school holidays he gave me his number after we had a long conversation on Instagram. We texted for shouted 4 weeks when I told my friends that I liked him and they said if i ... (144 words)

I have a very big problem with men who have a history of one-night stands. Am I giving myself no hope of finding love?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, I’m 23 and I’ve never been in a serious relationship. I hope it’s just a matter of not meeting the right person, but I’m beginning to worry that I’ll never meet anyone. Because of my family and religion, I have very strong values. I like the idea of being with only one pers... (290 words)

Is he cheating? He changed passwords without telling me and has been gone long hours!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 51-59 - My husband works as a sales rep, he went out yesterday 6am got back in 920pm at night. He rang at 5 pm to ask what me and our son wanted for tea and said he wouldn't be home until 830pm. He thought i would be ok with him when he got home being out 15 hours said he ... (428 words)

How to honor my parents, without shaming his?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3307 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, Aunts and Uncles. My fiance and I are tying the knot this January in Las Vegas. We've been engaged for years, but have put off getting married because, like everyone else, we've been struggling a lot financially. Knowing how badly we wanted to be married, my parents ... (187 words)

Should I stick by Him? Despite the rumours about him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Basically, there's a guy who I started recently seeing, what it is , is that we live in a small town so everyone knows each other business. Recently some rumours about him have come out such as he's been married a few times, controlling person and a cheat. The general consensu... (124 words)

No matter what I do, the face of this other guy keeps on intruding into my thoughts. How can I stop this?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3307 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - I choose to figure out what went wrong with my marriage that had led me to have an emotional affair with this guy, other than the fact that my husband and I are incompatible. I'd like to believe that I had actually loved him and that I still can which is why I've stayed f... (280 words)

No contact since our breakup. Could we date again? And what does kissing on the ear mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

29 October 2015 (F) age 26-29 - Hi I had a boyfriend who kissed my ear the first time he kissed me. He was so concentrated on my right ear with his tongue participating mostly. We broke up after i found out he had a girlfriend somewhere else and was dating us both. Though he doesn't know that i know he ... (253 words)

What can I do? I want to kiss him but I'm scared of getting hurt

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - I have this friend of mine and we've been close for some time. I went to see him some time last year and then we had our first kiss but i didnt want to go further cos i was dating at that time. Now am single again and i went to see, in the course of our conversation he made ... (228 words)

Had one amazing night with a man from another continent...should we stay in touch?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi Aunts and Uncles, I went on vacation by myself last week, and the first night I was there I met a French man and we immediately hit it off. We have the same occupation, love to travel, and I even speak some French. We spent all evening together, and kissed on the beach. We... (248 words)

How do I cope with their arguing and nasty comments?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

29 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - I have just had a massive argument with my ex and his wife and I don't know what to do. I split up with him nearly 5 years ago and we have two children together. We share custody and after they have been to see him I pick them up from a child minder after work, my daughte... (588 words)

Why can't people just accept not everyone wants children?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3306 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - My husband and I have been married for 2 years and have no children because we chose not to have any- we are both very happy with our lives and children are not for us. My cousin who got married 8 months after us has just revealed she is expecting her 1st child with h... (321 words)

I want to play the player and give him a dose of his own medicine!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, people! I've got this common yet plaguing issue. I am currently in a long-term relationship with a guy with not-so-good past (well, I too have a horrible past). Some 2 months back, our relationship hit a low phase and for the first time ever, I committed the mistake ... (209 words)

I am the parent to my teen brother - our parents are deceased. My brother is now 14. How do I raise and discuss talking about sex and all that to him?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

28 October 2015 (M)

age 36-40 - When i was 16 i held my baby brother in my arms and said to dad "god he's small, i'm not baby sitting". Well i think i changed his nappies more times then mum used to. Honestly a few years later when i went off to university my biggest joy coming home was having my little b... (375 words)

He wants our son to meet his new girlfriend. But he's imposing restrictions on our son's contact with my boyfriend. How can I move on?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3311 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi aunts and uncles, ive got a question what would you do in this situation. I was with my ex for five years, we had a child together. We got back together but in this time I didn't realise he had met someone else. He had moved away and would come to see us every weekend and... (293 words)

Do I tell my LDR what happened (a date and a kiss) during the period we were apart? Or not mention it?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi aunts. In a LDR of nearly a year Had some difficulties, especially of late, leading to us splitting up a few weeks back. I went on a couple of dates with an old friend, ended up kissing him. Spent the evening thinking of my man. Have told the friend I wont be seeing... (128 words)

My ex and I are back in touch. Will getting back with my ex work?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3297 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi everyone, So, I split with my ex 7 years ago. We'd been together 6 years, not living together or anything but still spending a lot of time together whilst raising my son from a previous marriage as well as his two young sons. We split, my decision, and ultimately I th... (148 words)

Newly single, confused and need help! Does it sound like he has any interest in me outside of friendship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi all, I'm newly single and had been in a 10 year relationship since I was 18. I'm the first to admit that I'm not sure what I'm doing when it comes to men as I haven't dated my entire adult life. I recently met a man whilst on a business trip. He is slightly younger and... (285 words)

I feel like my Bf is pulling away. He rarely instigates sex now. Am I being needy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 36-40 - I feel like my boyfriend is pulling away. We've been together just over three years. Had our ups and downs. Just the past few weeks he doesn't really respond to texts and home calls. I mean we live together but he works until after 9 pm then comes home and we go to bed. So it... (163 words)

Why now? Was it an excuse? Will we resume? He has said we need to take a break to focus on our children

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3311 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 36-40 - I am in love with a man, who loves me. I have 3 kids and didn't want him to get involved too closely with them so I made sure we started slowly. He has 2 children as well but from different partners (A little niggle). My question is he has said we need to take a break to ... (153 words)

Why is this happening now? Two years later? Now I'm plagued with dreams that remind me of his affair

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - hi everyone. Some advice would be great. Cut a long story short my partner had an affair nearly two years ago now. We had been together for four years at the time, we both weren't happy and then I found out the reason why- he had had a six week affair and was treating me ... (694 words)

My Bf is going on a trip, with his sister, and without me. Do I have a right to be upset?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months now, and 5 months ago, him and I started planning a trip together. He would come down every weekend, we would look at various places to go, kept checking prices and overall, talked about it all the time. Well in August, ... (149 words)

Both teachers have a crush on me, what do I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3308 days ago

28 October 2015 (M)

age 30-35 - First I want to say this is an adult's language school, so everybody is over 18. As part of my university degree I'm studying abroad at a Spanish language school. Somehow both teachers there have a crush on me, strong enough for all the students to notice. I'm genuinely at... (193 words)

Does this sound like a marriage of convenience?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3310 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 36-40 - Well, let's see if I can get good advice ^_^ I've known a man, he's English and living in the UK while I'm in the states, for about a year now...this September I went over and stayed with him for a month, came back to the states, and over Skype he proposed marriage. I am ... (265 words)

Why did I cheat on the perfect husband?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - Why did I cheat on the perfect husband? I have been married for 4 years with a man I love dearly, but I cheated on him for about 1/2 a year with a former co-worker. I only did it for the attention so I changed jobs. I love my husband and now I cannot stop thinking about w... (196 words)

Physician's assistant - any suggestions on how to handle the gruelling demands of this work?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey all! I'm quite confused about making career choices and really need some advice. I want to become a Physician Assistant with a focus in Psychology. It took me some time to figure it out but that's where I'd like to go. I enjoy helping people and am not bothered by bl... (189 words)

After a six year relationship, how do I get over this breakup?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3311 days ago

28 October 2015 (M)

age 51-59 - I posted something a while back regarding my long time girlfriend wanting to "move on" so to speak. When we first met she was getting out of marriage, separated, and filed for divorce. Since we started out as lovers, our relationship never followed the traditional dating ... (272 words)

Why does my married lover remain with his wife if they've stopped sexual relations with each other?

This question has 15 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 41-50 - Been with my married lover for a few years now and the other night I asked him if he was sleeping with his wife? He didn't like me asking because I have kept mentioning it, anyway he said he didn't and if he was to cuddle his wife she would be shocked as they don't have ... (82 words)

Will I ever love a man again as much as I loved my first Bf?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3309 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 30-35 - I just broke up w/my 1st "real" boyfriend for whom I wanted to give the world to, I eventually found out he didn't care for me that much (he told me how much he loved, but I could feel in my gut he wasn't that in love), so knowing this would tear me apart I broke up. No I'm not ... (228 words)

Two years into a LDR and now I've cheated. What should I do now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3312 days ago

28 October 2015 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi there this is the first time I doing this. I'm in a difficult situation right now, and I really don't know what to do. I've been in a long distant relationship for almost 2 years and I feel like things are starting to become dull between me and my partner. Before, everythi... (268 words)