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| | *cottmartinez2012's profile:i think my experience of being in and out of many relationships qualifies me help people. i used to have huge crushes and very frequently. Like cupid was sitting on my shoulder just to shoot the arrow every time i saw a pretty girl. it was crazy. I have grown since then and have understood to some extent how things work.To help myself I've been observing relationships closely and I have learned a lot to help myself make and take appropriate decisions.
I live in the US of A , in New Jersey
What makes me tick is how i apply my experiences of the past to the present.
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Boyfriend is going on online dating sites. Do I have a right to be upset about this?
Q. I am having had a bad time again with my boyfriend. We have been back together after we broke up because of his online dating sites. Over the course of a year, we had argument after argument over his lies and refusal to accept that I had the right ...
A. 9 January 2013: absolutely! you have the right to be angry and upset. And he checking out other girls is definitely going to make any girlfriend insecure. You should probably give him a taste of his own medicine and check out some dating websites too and probably ... (read in full...)
Does being "up front" about wanting a FWB relationship means you are now a "decent" human being?
Q. Why is it that men (and women) think that just because, they are being "honest" about wanting a FWB type of relationship in the beginning, that they are somehow a "decent" and upstanding human being? For instance, if someone who was going to rob...
A. 9 January 2013: totally they are mutually in a way helping each other, you can put this in other words as using each other but the fact remains that they are only interested in sex and are willing to have it without a relationship. In this case both are benefitting ... (read in full...)
I packed my bags and left after he hid me from his mother.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2years going into our 3rd. We have been living together for 2years straight. Last year he cheated on me with his ex-girlfriend and i forgave him. Earlier this year we went for an HIV test and discovered he was HIV+...
A. 27 December 2012: It's the perfect decision. you've been through a lot for him. But he doesn't value you. It was best for you to move. You seem like great girl to be with a guy even after all that. You deserve better. Hope you meet a guy soon who would love you the ... (read in full...)
I want somebody to love.
Q. I feel like I will never be able to be successful with women. The only girls I have ever been good at flirting with are ones I am not actually attracted to deeply. I'm a virgin at 19 and am going through medicine. I had an ex who I was with for 2 ...
A. 27 December 2012: it's absolutely normal man. this is just a phase and you'll be through it in no time. Don't put much pressure ion yourself. just get back in the game, you've done it before, you'll do it again. you need to take it casually and things will role.
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I want a relationship with trust and honesty!
Q. I have caught my boyfriend on dating sites 5 times this year. He has promised to stop doing it from now on. He said that all the other times too. I find all i do lately is look for evidence of him doing it again. Just like i have done in the past ...
A. 27 December 2012: relationships are like business deals where 2 parties come together to do business which is profitable for both. i say business cause in business you want least investment and largest profit. you would always wanna be around a person with whom you ... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband or not? I don't know how he will survive if I leave him....
Q. I have to make a decision regarding leaving my husband. We have been together 18 years and have no children. Life prior to marrying was magical. I could not fault him in the least but on returning from our honeymoon he became grumpy and sulle...
A. 18 December 2012: Some men are worth enjoying time with and some men are worth marrying. This is a clear case of you marrying a party guy who can't live a married life. You just chained a tiger to yourself and fed him grass against meat. But its not your fault cause ... (read in full...)
She posts everything we do on facebook!
Q. im with this girl that is say young enough to be my daughter. i love her very much and i even ended a long term marriage for her. but lately i have been thinking about things she put on facebook when we were dating. i told her one night when we were ...
A. 18 December 2012: You cooked it you eat it. It seems that the con side of age gap relationship in your case has just started surfacing. I think you should either live it or think about something extreme.... (read in full...)
My head is telling me that I have to stay with my wife for the sake of my daughter. My heart is telling me that I have found my soul mate with another woman.
Q. Should I follow my head or my heart? I have been married for five years now, but for the last year things haven't been going to good in my marriage. I am in the military and since my last deployment my wife has withdrawn herself from me. We have...
A. 18 December 2012: If you and your wife agree that marriage is falling i guess you can plan out child support and all along with separation until you two do not feel for one another.... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband of 12 years for cheating?
Q. Should I leave my husband of 12 yrs? My husband has cheated on me numerous times only 3 times I have proof of. Back in 2005 he had an affair that lasted for 7 months. I never knew anything was wrong it was a huge slap in the face. The reason for it ...
A. 18 December 2012: According to me Serial Cheaters are like people with a psychological disorder, its like Kleptomaniacs frankly. So if you can forgive him endless time i think you may stay with him. But having a personal experience i am sure its a condition.... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with my brother in law's wife.
Q. Dear Cupid! Sorry to bother you. My problem still sustains there and now i need your help very desperately please. In my previous questions i asked you about a lady but almost all answers were very good and i tried my best to control myself b...
A. 18 December 2012: Only and only if your wife and her husband agree to an open marriage agreement. May you then do the rest.... (read in full...)
Crush on my history teacher!
Q. i think i like my teacher , hes a history teacher and i love history but im too shy in class to talk to him hes tall and good looking i think hes about 35 i dont know what to do i cant even look him in the eye i know its just a crush but i really ...
A. 18 December 2012: Take it as a childhood crush which you shall keep it forever and when you grow old you would rethink about your childhood memories and laugh about it. ... (read in full...)
I was abused in the past. Do I have the right to become celibate in my relationship?
Q. After years of having sexual problems, I have decided to become celibate. This is due to extreme anxiety and depression before and after sex that stems from emotional and slight sexual abuse. I was never forcibly raped, however, no matter how hard...
A. 18 December 2012: I think this relationship has no room to flourish and you must take a break and analyze about what you really want. While every person has the right to embrace their sexuality and celibacy so has your boyfriend his right to continue with his sexual ... (read in full...)
My crush hasn't responded to me on facebook. Do I give up?
Q. I have a crush on my PE classmate that I only meet every Monday and I think he likes me because he shows lot of signs (like always looking at me and when I look back, he looks away, always near me, saw him talking to a friend while looking at me). I ...
A. 18 December 2012: Patience is the key for any relationship to start. You initiated, but have you ever talked verbally, what do you think he should response, did you make him feel you are interested or did you friend zoned. See if you can over think over this trivial ... (read in full...)
He showed signs that he liked me, but when he found out I felt the same he has gone cold!
Q. He showed signs that he likes me but when he knew I like him too, he just seemed not to care anymore, why? Am I that easy? I'm afraid if he continues doing this, I'm giving up on him, there's a lot of guys out there. But why? He knows he's a hottie. ...
A. 18 December 2012: Most men tend work their whole time during the chase, once the chase is done then they relax and chill often coming out to be dis-concerned or even inconsiderate. Either this or he is a player.... (read in full...)
I've been leading this guy on, and now I'm afraid he's going to ask me out.
Q. Soo, I have this guy friend that I met about 4 months ago, and were really good friends. Only problem is, I enjoy chatting to him and stuff, but he really really likes me and I don't like him in that way ay all. He's a cool guy, but just not my ...
A. 18 December 2012: The dilemma of being friends or just moving away from the guy is something all girls are unable to decide. Its the oldest mystery that girls have never found a solution to resolve. I would suggest that you either go on dates with random guys just to ... (read in full...)
Ex was peeing while talking to me?
Q. Ex bf of many years talking to on the phone often. he has now married. the other night i was talking to hime on the phone and he was taking a leak while he was talking to me. Is this a way some married guys get off?? or does he just feel comfortable ...
A. 18 December 2012: I don't know why you are making such an issue about it, but men generally do talk like that, ever wondered if in all these years he may had developed bladder problems of some sort.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't tell his parents we already slept together.
Q. My boyfriend won't tell his parents we already slept together. As addition to this, he will never sleep at my house if he needs to tell his parents so, he will only sleep at mine if he can get a good excuse to do so. I just find this extremely ...
A. 18 December 2012: If he is making excuses with his folks about sleeping over at your place then i am sure that his parents know or have a hint about you two sleeping together. It is just that some family react differently when it comes to sex, either they would be ... (read in full...)
Her kids are treating me like a Dad.. But I don't see this relationship as being forever. Am I looking into this situation too much?
Q. Soooo im just gonna get straight to the point here. I met a girl about 5-6 months ago, went on a few dates and we got on very well. About a month into seeing her she tells me she has 3 kids, 4, 6 and 8. Now at the time this didnt bother me, ive...
A. 18 December 2012: Firstly, I agree with dylan1 that you are really lucky. & Secondly i think you should continue hanging out with her kids and her cause
a) Even though her kids would look up to you as a father figure. But you being a BIG KID would actually make the ... (read in full...)
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