Is it right to change who you are in the search for a partner?
Q. I often feel very alone and have this need, almost, to have a girlfriend, someone I can listen and talk to and feel completely immersed in conversation without being just friends. A thought occured to me this evening, I don't have to be anyone but...
A. 20 April 2012: Some very good advice here, for that I wish to thank all of you for being a tremendous help. Thank you. ... (read in full...)
I want to be with my ex but I don't know how to go about it.
Q. I've been speaking to and hanging with my ex after 1.5 years of no contact and we've both agreed that an old spark has been rekindled (or however the expression goes). In the last 2 weeks or so she has been quiet, she hasn't been replying to writt...
A. 17 March 2012: Hi there, strongfp. Many thanks to the advice you have given, I will take it on board. Also, the primary reason we broke was that I was having mental health issues and I've since got a control of things in the noggin. Cheers. ... (read in full...)
Extreme loneliness. Can I please have your opinions, before I discuss it with my therapist? I tried but her reaction hurt me
Q. As much as I try to suppress the feelings of loneliness, it always comes back to haunt me when I like someone. I'm 19 years old and I am an at home carer. I suffer from frequent periods of low mood, I have what I believe to be social anxiety d...
A. 30 October 2011: A fantasic piece of advice. Thank you. You definitely sound like you know your stuff.
Again, thank you.... (read in full...)
Extreme loneliness. Can I please have your opinions, before I discuss it with my therapist? I tried but her reaction hurt me
Q. As much as I try to suppress the feelings of loneliness, it always comes back to haunt me when I like someone. I'm 19 years old and I am an at home carer. I suffer from frequent periods of low mood, I have what I believe to be social anxiety d...
A. 26 October 2011: I see what you're saying, I am very uncomfortable with being myself, I care way too much about what people are thinking and will think of me. It all seems irrational, even to me, but I'm stuck in a vicous circle, therefore I sought for advice. Thank ... (read in full...)
Extreme loneliness. Can I please have your opinions, before I discuss it with my therapist? I tried but her reaction hurt me
Q. As much as I try to suppress the feelings of loneliness, it always comes back to haunt me when I like someone. I'm 19 years old and I am an at home carer. I suffer from frequent periods of low mood, I have what I believe to be social anxiety d...
A. 25 October 2011: Thank you for the replies but I'm actually a dude, Chickpea.... (read in full...)
What to do when she is the more experienced one?
Q. So there's this dude, we'll call him, simply, Dude who likes this girl, we'll call this girl Lady Friend. Now, Dude has never gone 'all the way' whereas Lady Friend is more experienced than Dude. Lady Friend and Dude have been friends for a wh...
A. 19 October 2011: Thanks for the help, Dude has more confidence about the situation now.
Lady Friend and Dude will be having a non-alcoholic beverage together soon.... (read in full...)
Where do you get self-esteem from?
Q. I've found my low self-esteem to be a very undesirable problem in my life and I'm getting pretty sick of it since I can't talk to anyone without worrying that they're looking at my hearing aids (for example). I know myself how stupid it sounds and ...
A. 26 August 2011: Hello ChiGirl! I recently got a grade zero to my long hair which makes my hearing aids very revealing which brought about something quite surprising, I no longer feel the need to wear hats that cover them up.
Reading your advice made me think ab... (read in full...)
Where do you get self-esteem from?
Q. I've found my low self-esteem to be a very undesirable problem in my life and I'm getting pretty sick of it since I can't talk to anyone without worrying that they're looking at my hearing aids (for example). I know myself how stupid it sounds and ...
A. 26 August 2011: Hello anonymous! I've tried the whole acting confident thing, it does work, for a short while but I don't feel happy with the person I'm trying to be, like I've had a few to drink, like if I get something I want I'll feel guilty about getting it ... (read in full...)
Guy I like asked me to stop texting him and that he would hang out when is life is more together. What does this mean?
Q. Hi ive been talking to a guy. We lost contact from high school,but started talking again when we found each other on facebook. we have even hung out a few times. although a few times we did plan but never happened because he was working late. ...
A. 15 August 2011: Have you thought that maybe you're worrying about the wrong thing? He said he's in shambles, maybe he has a lot on his plate at the moment and knows he can't be the reliable person he expects himself to be.
Don't take my words as absolute truth as... (read in full...)
How dos an 18 year old introvert get laid?
Q. I'm 18 and I'm still a virgin but I'm not very bothered by this, except when my friends make jokes about me and when I get the horn on. So, I'm coming to realise that I know absolutely nothing about how to get into a girls pants. I understa...
A. 3 May 2011: Thanks for the answers, they've given me a better understanding of how to handle the situation. I do not in anyway intend to use a lady for sex, only if we had a mutual understanding that it is just a bit of 'physical release' or a bit of fun. I ... (read in full...)
Do I need to cut my hair to increase my luck meeting girls?
Q. Hi, I've been single for nearly a year now and I want to get out there again but I don't want anything too serious as I have a very bad track record of relationships, therefore I am severely put off for the time being. I have told my friend that...
A. 6 April 2011: I assure everyone that my hair us clean, I wash it 4-5 times a week. By messy. I meant that's how my hair grows, it's not from lack of maintenance, I have somewhat curly hair which looks kinda messy.... (read in full...)
How can I be less predictable?
Q. Hi, i've been seeing someone for 3 months and recently, we've been more honest with eachother; like noting flaws that the other has. She told me I can be predictable, i've been told this before, and I want to work on it because i'm determined to ...
A. 31 December 2009: Blod, I'm gonna talk to her a bit more about this, just to clarify what she meant. I try to be as spontanious as possible, like last week, we'd just woken up and I took her out for breakfast (not planned, was just a sort of on-the-spot thing), which ... (read in full...)
How can I be less predictable?
Q. Hi, i've been seeing someone for 3 months and recently, we've been more honest with eachother; like noting flaws that the other has. She told me I can be predictable, i've been told this before, and I want to work on it because i'm determined to ...
A. 31 December 2009: CaringGuy, thanks a lot, I find it difficult being the nice one all the time because i'm always the one getting hurt. Also, just for your info, we're both virgins. I'm gonna surprise her with some flowers, and I want to take her out again soon but ... (read in full...)
How can I be less predictable?
Q. Hi, i've been seeing someone for 3 months and recently, we've been more honest with eachother; like noting flaws that the other has. She told me I can be predictable, i've been told this before, and I want to work on it because i'm determined to ...
A. 31 December 2009: RAINORFIRE, thanks for the help but she's a decent girl, she's a virgin and by choice, which I like most about her, she has respect for herself. I see where you're coming from though, i'm a nice guy and she's gonna have to get used to it if she ... (read in full...)
Am I letting old feelings get in the way?
Q. k... here's the story. Me and this guy have been going out for a while now. He really loves me and i'm not sure if i feel the same way anymore. It is starting to get really boring and he is starting to get annoying sometimes. the only problem is ...
A. 24 May 2009: I think that you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel but keep in mind, there's not many nice guys like him out there and this "Tom" guy.. I recommend not going near him if he's just going to toy with your feelings and probably drive you ... (read in full...)
My friend told the whole school about the girl I like!
Q. Im 13 and my friend asked me who I like, I told him and the next day at school he tells everyone! I asked him why he did it and he said it was about reverse physcoligy and that would make her go out with me. He said he'd ask her out for me and when ...
A. 22 May 2009: Try not to worry too much. She probably only said that because she was embarrassed and was probably in front of her friends when she was approached and asked.
Also, try not to get all depressed - there's not really any need to, the worse some of ... (read in full...)
How to make something good out of my terrible grades?
Q. this isnt relationship. But im desperate for a job now! i left school a year ago, and then did a year at 6form but its shocking. basicly im half way through my CV, and i have absolutly no idea what to put! i got shit grades basicly. i got D's and ...
A. 22 May 2009: Ok, I know exactly what you mean. I finished school with a few D grades, and I got half way through my first year of college and dropped it as I couldn't see myself being stuck in front of a computer in a sweaty office all day. And now I'm looking ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be in control at all, I want him to control me.
Q. I'm definitely a girl with a rather large submissive streak, I can understand the reason he wants me to be more 'in-control' dure in sex....because, obviously it adds variety and spice to the relationship and it's a fantasy most men seem to have. ...
A. 20 May 2009: I suggest telling him that you want to be controlled during sex. In my opinion, he's being ignorant towards your feelings but I'm not sure what words you put together to explain how you feel because he may be sensitive..
Maybe try a bit of dirty... (read in full...)
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