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*inetiesKid
writes:I'm 18 and I'm still a virgin but I'm not very bothered by this, except when my friends make jokes about me and when I get the horn on.So, I'm coming to realise that I know absolutely nothing about how to get into a girls pants. I understand that I suffer from a complete lack of confidence and I'm quite to-myself about most things, but that's just me and I'm not prepared to change that for anyone.It's not like I'm not trying or anything - I took a lady friend of mine (not a close one) out for a couple of drinks a week or so ago, and there was some healthy chemistry there e.g. dancing, grinding and stuff, which is all there was but yet she seems to have been quite off-ish with me since, I've since realised just how much I know about women, therefore I'm relying on you lovely people to help get me out of a sticky situation, it would be much obliged. How does an 18 year old virgin introvert get laid?
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reader, NinetiesKid +, writes (3 May 2011):
NinetiesKid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers, they've given me a better understanding of how to handle the situation. I do not in anyway intend to use a lady for sex, only if we had a mutual understanding that it is just a bit of 'physical release' or a bit of fun. I offer my deepest apologies if I came across as your typical sleaze, there is a lot on my plate - college, home, illness etc, so I am unable to focus on a relationship.
Once again, thanks, both of you, you've been very helpful.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 May 2011):
 You get a girlfriend and stop focusing on using women for sex. With a girlfriend typically comes sex naturally. If you just want to get laid and use women for sex you need to develop sleazeball techniques, and I'd rather not teach you how to do that as I'd not be doing you, or the ladies, and favours.
But one good tip I will give you: read between the lines. Say yes to things. When a woman asks you to go somewhere with her, or do something, no matter how little interesting you personally find it, say YES. Because quite often when a woman asks you to come along to, for example, a gallery or art museum, she isn't asking you to come and enjoy the art. She's asking you on a date, to get to know you, and if the chances are you two will be alone somewhere together she is also asking to be private and intimate with you. Which could all lead to a flirt/relationship/sex.
So say yes to any invitation or chance to be with a girl, no matter what it is.
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reader, towapa +, writes (3 May 2011):
 Look, don't just have sex because your friends are taking the piss out of you. It's hard, I know, but if you just have sex with someone for the sake of it then you're just going to regret it afterwards. You might even think to yourself afterwards, 'Was that even worth it?' You seem lovely, wait until the right person comes along and then who knows :). And about this girl, maybe she just got the impression you only wanted to have sex with her? But than again, you're not going to ever find out unless you ask her, so talk. Communication is the key ;)
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