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writes:k... here's the story. Me and this guy have been going out for a while now. He really loves me and i'm not sure if i feel the same way anymore. It is starting to get really boring and he is starting to get annoying sometimes. the only problem is that i have thought about what will happen if we broke up... i cant seem to see myseld without him and i definatly dont want to loose him as a friend. He is always there for me but sometimes i need my own space, its like he is trying to hard. I am his second girlfriend and he is my forth. He doesnt know much about relationships and stuff to do and he is so sweet but it doesnt always feel right when im with him. he is so paranoid that he is going to mess everything up and he keeps saying that he doesnt deserve me and everything. At first it was sort of cute but now its just annoying cause one moment he will be himself and the next he will be deep into thought thinking about how something is going to happen. I keep saying that nothing will happen and he needs to stop worrying about it. Then like half and hour later he is ok again and says he's srry and expects it all to go back to the way it was. but... there is more... there is this guy that i used to like before we started going out.. lets call this other guy Tom. Tom likes to play around with my feelings and stuff. he says that he really doesnt like my current bf. and one day he sends me a text saying that i still like him. i was telling him i didnt and stuff and then he texts back saying "who are you trying to convice me or you?" it got me thinking again. i was really trying to tell myself that i didnt still have feelings for "tom" and that i love my bf and nothing is going to change.The whole point of this life story lol is that i dont know what to do about any of this... i dont know if i still love my bf or im just letting old feelings get in the way. If anyone could help me it would be appreciated and thank you in advance.
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reader, starlight_puppy +, writes (25 May 2009):
starlight_puppy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Everybody :)
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 Tom is "running game" on you. He is testing you to see if you will dump your boyfriend and come running to him. He is doing this to feed his ego, so don't fall for that crap.
I suggest you have an honest talk with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you love him, but it bothers you that he feels he doesn't deserve you. Tell him that it is pushing you away. I can't say it will work though, because insecurity is a hard thing to get over.
Good luck.
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reader, NinetiesKid  +, writes (24 May 2009):
I think that you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel but keep in mind, there's not many nice guys like him out there and this "Tom" guy.. I recommend not going near him if he's just going to toy with your feelings and probably drive you to do things that you'll one day regret.
And if your boyfriend is maybe shy because he's somewhat new to this couples thing, maybe introduce him to new stuff? Like go on a few dates, just you and him e.g. cinema, beach.
Good luck, and w/b if anything's up x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): whatever you do do not hurt your boyfriend by cheating on him. best that you tell him how you feel. telling us wont solve it completely. You need to communicate
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