Did I make the right choice by asking him to leave?
Q. My boyfriend and i got into a huge fight about a week and a half ago. For the last month i have felt that he has been acting a bit strange. He seems a little distant, kind of quiet, sleeping alot. We do seem to be more irritated with each other ...
A. 25 December 2010: You asked if you made the right choice - and I say the evidence alone says you did. Living with a man who doesn't love you is just allowing him to use you. He has proven he is not interested by moving on... and validating your suspicions.
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My boyfriend calls me a huzzy?
Q. Okay, I'm 13. My boyfriend's 14. The past two nights he's called me a huzzy. A huzzy is a whore. I'd feel kinda better if, ya know, he'd been joking, or apologized. But he hasn't. And he'd been serious about it. My friends say that they would have ...
A. 19 December 2010: If you do not feel bold enough to talk to him - dump him. Because what happens when he starts hitting you? Where do you draw the line on what kind of behavior you will tolerate?
Tolerating name calling is like asking a bully to be your bes... (read in full...)
Trouble having sex...any help??
Q. me and a guy I've been seeing decided to try and have sex last night. he got as far as putting the tip inside but I couldn't handle the pain of any more going in. we're going to try again another night, and I don't want to disapoint him. is there...
A. 19 December 2010: actually forcing it isn't as bad as it sounds.
It usually only hurts because you are not lubed and after a few minutes your body usually responds with natural lube... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend abusive???
Q. My boyfriend and have been dating for amost a month, we talked for 4 months before dating. My boyfriend and I are both sixteen... I would say my boyfriend and I are a lot more mature than most our age, being that we have both been through a lot. So ...
A. 19 December 2010: It doesn't even matter if she is lying. He called you stupid and difficult. He cannot think very highly of you if he is calling you these things to your face. Run away. These are signs... do they have to be neon and flashing. Do not be so ... (read in full...)
Return to wife or stay separated?
Q. Well, I'm still wondering what I should do now. I am in a long-term marriage of over 25 years but for many of those years felt very lonely. My wife and I had drifted very far apart and it seemed like we had very little in common any longer excep...
A. 19 December 2010: To me it sounds like you have taken the logical, rational course of action. You have tried to mend things with your wife, who is not as deeply troubled about mending things (even though you have moved out of the house). You have taken a step to ... (read in full...)
Backwards boyfriend de-evolution
Q. My boyfriend is age 22, we have been friends for about two years and in a deepening emotional relationship since last february. So it has almost been a year since we started being intimiate. My question is is that i am 28 and he is 22 and we ...
A. 19 December 2010: I agree with you - he is not ready for the same experience you are. He needs time to grow up and work on himself before he settles down. Although none of us are perfect I feel there is a disconnect between your expectations, experience and desires ... (read in full...)
What's up with this discharge?
Q. Okay well I been having a problem and I really want to know what happening to my body. I just turned 15 a week ago and like two days ago water has just been coming out of my vargina. I'm not into sex or anything so why is water coming out of my ...
A. 19 December 2010: I am sure you have heard the expression "getting wet" well sometimes women are literally wet much of the time. It usually happens at specific points of the month (during ovulation). It is your body's way of producing hormones to help you increase ... (read in full...)
Shouldn't sex last??
Q. So me and this guy always have sex well kinda we did like 3 times and when we do it's only for like 30 or 40 min .. And idk if he cummed or not or if he had an orgasim or not .. But shouldn't sex last for like an hour or 2 ??? ...
A. 19 December 2010: LOL - it only lasts that long if you have a very very experienced partner and they are interested in your pleasure as much as theirs! Typically sex lasts from 10 minutes (his orgasm) to 30/40 (if you are reaching orgasm too). 2 hour sex is for the ... (read in full...)
Did I make the right choice by asking him to leave?
Q. My boyfriend and i got into a huge fight about a week and a half ago. For the last month i have felt that he has been acting a bit strange. He seems a little distant, kind of quiet, sleeping alot. We do seem to be more irritated with each other ...
A. 19 December 2010: I think you should tell him how you feel - that you did not know if you could trust him anymore? That you did not throw him out, but he wasn't talking to you and you did not know what his intentions were. It seems reasonable your reasoning. Tell... (read in full...)
I think he's controlling and abusive. Should I marry him?
Q. I have met my boyfriend 10 years ago , but we really stayed together since 2005 in a long distance relationship.He is a really nice guy.Until on oct 11,2010,i went to Lisbon to stay with him for 3 weeks.In those 3 weeks,he constantly emotionally ...
A. 19 December 2010: OMG! This is a huge case of cultural clash - run away. This is not behavior that will change if you marry. It will only get worse. He expects you to behave like the women of his society. Locking you in the house and you have to even ask? ... (read in full...)
Can remaining single have a negative impact on a person?
Q. If a person remains single, does anyone think it can a negative impact on said person mentally? Are there positive consequences to be had? Perhaps a deeper sense of self, or greater self sufficiency? What do you think? I am not talking about jumping ...
A. 19 December 2010: Depends on what country you live in. In the US their is a high emphasis on marrying mostly because of the economical benefits of a contractual commitment.
In reality though - if you decide to have children it is easier for them to live in an en... (read in full...)
Can I get an STD by having unprotected sex?
Q. Hey so I lost my virginity to this guy that I'm not even dateing . And he fucked a lot of girls and I didn't no that till after I had sex with him .. And we used no condom twice .. Is that bad?? He told me befor he cumed tho but I dnt want to get a...
A. 19 December 2010: At 16-17 you should know the answer to this question... what is sex ed coming too these days?!?!
Yes you can get an STD by having sex vaginally or oral (that was a shock to me at your age, the oral). Their are clinics that do full checks (... (read in full...)
My boyfriend calls me a huzzy?
Q. Okay, I'm 13. My boyfriend's 14. The past two nights he's called me a huzzy. A huzzy is a whore. I'd feel kinda better if, ya know, he'd been joking, or apologized. But he hasn't. And he'd been serious about it. My friends say that they would have ...
A. 19 December 2010: Confront him on it... although I cannot imagine this having some kind of form of compliment men can be strange sometimes. If you tell him, um I don't like it when you call me a huzzy - what do you mean by that? He should then explain what he ... (read in full...)
Trouble having sex...any help??
Q. me and a guy I've been seeing decided to try and have sex last night. he got as far as putting the tip inside but I couldn't handle the pain of any more going in. we're going to try again another night, and I don't want to disapoint him. is there...
A. 19 December 2010: See a doctor! This is a condition I cannot remember the name for but it causes pain during sex - I had it for over a year after I had my first child, my boyfriends ex had it as well. The doctor will make some obvious suggestions before examining ... (read in full...)
Why does he still want to see me after I treated him so poorly?
Q. I met this guy online about 6 months ago. He lives out of town but is in town every few months. The first time we met we hit it off and as we had been speaking for about 2 months there was definately some sexual chemistry. We slept together and had ...
A. 19 December 2010: I agree with your friends - you are dating. Allow yourself to enjoy what you are feeling and do not continue the relationship as if it was permanent. Enjoy his company but do not depend on him for anything other than a mate to go out with (and ... (read in full...)
In the hospital and my boyfriend was watching porn
Q. I am in hospital (pregnancy loss related) and had an overnight stay, whilst I was in overnight,I found out my partner masturbated to porn. I feel angry and emotional over this, am I over reacting? ...
A. 17 December 2010: your entitled to your feelings but in my opinion the fact that you are asking if you are over reacting indicates that you realize you are.
Some part of you must realize the guy needed release to easy tension and stress, to relax and take his mind... (read in full...)
He didn't want to have sex while we were together but now he does?
Q. I am enganged to the love of my life. We've only been together for 4 months but everything is perfect, except for one thing and we've just had an upset convo about it. He suffers from depression and low self esteem and although we are close sexually ...
A. 17 December 2010: I have recently gotten out of a 10 year relationship... what I learned is - go slow. Don't rush into a relationship. Learning that and not doing it are two different things. The best advice I have heard is it takes 2 years for a person to let al... (read in full...)
Did I blow it by telling him I was attracted?
Q. so i have a dilemma. i met this guy about two years ago. we were both single, and he showed interest, but i didn't really take the bait too fast, i didn't want to seem easy. as time passed we hung out and went on a couple casual dates, but somehow ...
A. 17 December 2010: I would rather people stick around to see how cool I am. So I would go back to casual - like nothing every happened kinda thing. When you are comfortable and some time has passed send him a dude lets hang message - whatever you usually do. Then he ... (read in full...)
Very disturbing behaviour from my son
Q. Hi everyone, I hope you can take the time to help! I have a ten year old son, and since he was born he's been the sweetest, smartest, and generous boy I've ever known and wanted. He did his homework every night and I've never had to ask him twice to ...
A. 17 December 2010: I would sit him down for a chat. Ask him about why he is doing all this stuff. Why he thinks wearing black is cool. When did blood become interesting for him? Asking these questions will allow you to get his perspective. I have a very open ... (read in full...)
Really need a male perspective...
Q. I've recently got back together with an ex. We dated for a year, 7 years ago. (I was 25 and had ended it because I'd felt it was too intense - he was very much in love with me, proposed etc., and I wasn't ready, then.) He still feels the same w...
A. 17 December 2010: I know you wanted a man's perspective but I have been with a woman... I got curious. In reality it depends on the man - like women men can look beyond a body to a person. It just helps if the person is soft and has nice parts about them (whatever ... (read in full...)
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