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writes:So me and this guy always have sex well kinda we did like 3 times and when we do it's only for like 30 or 40 min .. And idk if he cummed or not or if he had an orgasim or not .. But shouldn't sex last for like an hour or 2 ??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Now2258 +, writes (21 December 2010):
I lasts as long as it is feeling good! Anything after that is just exercise!!! (LOL)
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reader, Mr Clark +, writes (20 December 2010):
The only thing that really matters is if you like it. But, here's what one survey of sex therapists had to say:
"ScienceDaily (Apr. 2, 2008) — Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from 3 to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists. . . .
The average therapists' responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: "adequate," from 3-7 minutes; "desirable," from 7-13 minutes; "too short" from 1-2 minutes; and "too long" from 10-30 minutes.
'A man's or woman's interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner's relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society's messages, formal and informal,' the researchers said. 'Unfortunately, today's popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse.'"
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2008/03/080331145115.htm
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 December 2010):
I'm afraid you just kind of have to take his word for it. There's no real way to tell
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reader, Onedeadlylove +, writes (20 December 2010):
Onedeadlylove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHow do I know when he has an orgasim ??
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reader, Illithid +, writes (20 December 2010):
 I think this is a problem of definitions. "Sex" meaning actual intercourse isn't going to last as long as you're thinking. 10-45 minutes is a fine run. Hell 45 minutes would be a marathon. When people talk about "sex" lasting hours, they mean ALL of sex, including making out, undressing, engaging in foreplay, exploring one another, taking their time, and then yes eventually having intercourse. In some cases, they even mean having sex, then cuddling and going back to foreplay and having sex again later without leaving bed in the middle.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (19 December 2010):
 2 hours ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha .........ha ha ha ha ha ha ha. You are awesome and I needed that. Movies lie. Cosmo magazine lies. 30-45 min is outstanding but to be honest I would not enjoy it after an hour anyways. It's like enough already I'm sleepy and I have a cramp. Lol
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Ummm sex itself could go from 30secs to a couple hours. Depending if the guy is drunk also.. But normally sex wouldn't even last 40mins. I think you should learn a bit more about sexual activity before engaging in it, please tell me you're using protection?? Generally, sex shouldn't last that long. It can start to hurt the girls (sometimes the guy) and unless he's drunk it means he's got a problem orgasming. Generally. If you have the idea of lasting hours from porn, please understand that porn is false. Whats depicted in it shouldn't transfer across to real world (apart from the 'normal' aspects.) Oh, and some guys orgasm within seconds of sex, so be thankful your first was a long laster
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reader, Sweety Pie +, writes (19 December 2010):
 Jesus...
No no no! I'd say about 20 minutes is the norm! Usually not even that :/!
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reader, marcia99116 +, writes (19 December 2010):
 LOL - it only lasts that long if you have a very very experienced partner and they are interested in your pleasure as much as theirs! Typically sex lasts from 10 minutes (his orgasm) to 30/40 (if you are reaching orgasm too). 2 hour sex is for the extra creative and sensual.Pick up Cosmo - they have lots of suggestions for talking about sex with a partner. The best advice I have read has been starting with what you like about sex, sharing your fantasy, what you would like to try and all when you are not having sex... maybe teasing him by whispering it in his ear when he is not expecting it - turning him on in a place where he cannot have you so he is thinking about it... until he can. Etc - but like I said - cosmo great for all kinds of tips in this department!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 December 2010):
30 OR 40 MINUTES!
You have a lot to learn about sex, I'll tell you that. I don't know where you got the figure of an hour or 2 from, but if sex is lasting that long, usually it means that the guy has problems, or that neither is turned on. Maybe if you include lost of foreplay you can make the hour mark, but that's really it.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (19 December 2010):
The length of sex is completely varied, could be as little as 5 minutes or be a marathon session of a few hours
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