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... Send *n a private message | | *n's profile:I am a former soldier in the US Army, now a stay at home mom, of three beautiful children. I have one soon to be step son, and a fiance I love very much. I love to do the best I can to try and help those around me even when it bites me in the butt. My lawyer tells me I am not supper woman but I still try! I live in Indiana USA. Things that make me tick... Helping some one out for 12 years and then have them turn around and walk all over you. |
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He won't connect with my kids, and he calls them names! What do I do?
Q. hi, I have been in a relationship for 4 years but my partner has never really connected to my 2 children, at first I ignored this but as time has gone on I no longer can, Our relationship: he has his money and I have mine (his choice) he pays ...
A. 8 September 2006: You have an abusive relationship and need to get out it will not get better. patterns of abuse verbal or physical always escalate over time. He resents your children, that are a part of you and this is not fair to them. Soon your children will ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so insecure and expect him to cheat ?
Q. I moved to another country 3 months ago for my boyfriend. Since my arrival, I keep expecting him to cheat on me. His best friend keeps telling me about his previous girlfriends and even makes jokes about him and the girl he works with. I have dreams ...
A. 8 September 2006: The power of suggestibility is a strong one. You need to replace a negative thought with a positive one or soon it will take over your relationship. Also you should consider talking to the friend about his comments and tell him it's affecting you ... (read in full...)
Is his request normal ?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to call out my ex boyfriends name when we are having sex. i find this uncomfortable. is this normal? ...
A. 8 September 2006: If you feel uncomfortable with it don't do it. Never feel pressured into doing some thing you are uncomfortable with. I would start off with asking him why he wants you to do this? Maybe he has sexual fantasies about the situation or maybe he likes ... (read in full...)
I asked her to tell me a secret, she did but was it a joke ?
Q. Was in bed with my gf last week and we were chatting. She then asked me to tell her a secret, after being pushed for a while I told her something that happened to me in my childhood, I then asked her the same her reply in a stone-cold serious face ...
A. 8 September 2006: Honesty is always the best key. Write her a letter if you feel timid about confronting her. ... (read in full...)
I read her diary, and now all the stuff about her sex life bothers me!
Q. Hey I've been seeing this girl now for about 5 months and have recently moved in with her (quick i kno but if we didnt we would have to break up). I recently read her diary and found somethings that greatly disturbed me and one thing in perticular ...
A. 8 September 2006: Jealousy is the number one thing that is going to kill your relationship faster than any thing. You need to trust and respect her. You can't hold some ones past against them. If you live in the past you will never have a future. If you are feeling ... (read in full...)
Sex was fine but now it hurts too much!!
Q. I am gay and in my early 20s. I had been having receptive anal sex for about a year without any problems at all, however then all of a sudden I have hemroid/s. I am quite sure that the sex wasn't the cause as they came about in a time when I wasn't ...
A. 5 September 2006: Colonoscopy allows examination of the entire colon. With the ideals of gastrointestinal problems, cancer, polyps, etc. any time there is blood in the stool there should be a colonoscopy done. This is probably one of the most uncomfortable procedures ... (read in full...)
He suddenly asked if I would be ready for a baby ? He doesnt know im still a virgin!!!!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my b/f for 5 months.He told me he loved me 4 months into the relationship. We have not been 'intimate' yet, shall we say and I realy want to but the thing is he does'nt know I am a virgin.(He isn't) Anyway.... Yesterday i...
A. 1 September 2006: The pain you are experiancing could be caused by and unusually thick hymens, if so that may require a hymenotomy to prevent further pain. Have you ever had a pap or do you use tampons? ... (read in full...)
She treats him like he does not exist, how do I tell him she's not right?
Q. hi my friend was dating this girl but she dumped him for someone completely different. he still likes her but she won't go near him she treats him like he don't exist. his mom is friends with her mom and she acts like she really don't care. is there ...
A. 1 September 2006: Sadly you can only think from a far. Telling her the truth will be like talking to a wall. My sister treats her husband like complete garbage, and he is the best thing that ever could have happened to her. But you know what? The more I tell her the ... (read in full...)
Sex was fine but now it hurts too much!!
Q. I am gay and in my early 20s. I had been having receptive anal sex for about a year without any problems at all, however then all of a sudden I have hemroid/s. I am quite sure that the sex wasn't the cause as they came about in a time when I wasn't ...
A. 1 September 2006: I can't stress it enough, get a colonoscopy. It may be hemorrhoids, or it could be some thing worse. If it is hemorrhoids, you can take ANUSOL, you can get IT over the counter also take a stool softener such as COLACE. Watch what you eat. Eat soft ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband doing this to us??
Q. Dear cupid, My husband left me and the children last week for another woman who is 20 years younger than me his excuse was he did not love me anymore. I had no warning this was to happen he took all his things this week he came to see the children...
A. 1 September 2006: Betrayal is the hardest thing in the world to get over. It's not your fault he wanted to run off on you and your children, It doesn't matter if the woman is 20 years younger than you, it's still wrong. It just hurts more to think about her age. ... (read in full...)
We have both cheated, she with the same person, me as one offs... we are still in love what to do ?
Q. I ve been married for 5 1/2 years. My wife cheated on me 5 months after we were married and we worked it out. I m madly in love with my wife but started cheating because I was insecure. I went to Iraq for 2 out of the past 3 years to find ...
A. 20 August 2006: You are both wrong and need to open a strong line of communication. Develop fair rules for fighting and stick to them. Keep the argument focused on a subject, not a person. Only debate things you know about. When someone does start to yell, go ... (read in full...)
How can I help my wife overcome my cheating and lying?
Q. My wife and I have been married for ten years. This last year I had an affair for one year and lied to my wife. I want to fix everything I have destroyed with my wife because I truly love her. We both want to start over again. How can I help my wife ...
A. 18 August 2006: There is no "Ctrl Z" in life. Once done there is no undoing. The strongest thing you are going to have to work on is gaining that trust back. Good luck, My ex cheated on me and 10 years later I am over it, but will never forget that feeling, the ... (read in full...)
How can I get past these feelings?
Q. hi, i wrote in on the 11th about how my boyfriend wouldnt give me oral sex because he said i smelt different from his ex girlfriend. im still with him amd i do want to work it out but i still cant let it go. i feel sick when he comes near me and i ...
A. 18 August 2006: It sounds like your boyfriend needs to do a whole lot of growing up. Maybe if you read this article you might feel a little better. http://www.dailycal.org/sharticle.php?id=4058... (read in full...)
I feel like people only like me because they think I'm rich or they like my Dad!
Q. Hi I sent in a question a few weeks ago (How can I prove I'm not inferior to my dad???) and asked for help. Well things haven't really gone well since. I found out yesterday (on A-Level results day) that one of my closets friends had a big party an...
A. 18 August 2006: Meet a group of new friends, don't speak of your finances or whom your father is. Let people get to know you for who you really are. No one knows what is in my bank account that is always to remain private. ... (read in full...)
Am I just being Paranoid about him wanting to meet his ex for a drink ?
Q. am i being paranoid? before i met my boyfriend he was engaged to a girl, he has told me that he never loved her and that it he loves me very much. the other day he was wearing his engagement ring on his wedding finger, i told him that as he was w...
A. 16 August 2006: If his relationship is over with this girl there are no reasons for him to go back and fix any thing. Fixing things only mean he wants to "FIX IT". Put your foot down and tell him how you feel. Tell him this. "If you are going to do some thing let ... (read in full...)
Am I just being Paranoid about him wanting to meet his ex for a drink ?
Q. am i being paranoid? before i met my boyfriend he was engaged to a girl, he has told me that he never loved her and that it he loves me very much. the other day he was wearing his engagement ring on his wedding finger, i told him that as he was w...
A. 16 August 2006: If his relationship is over with this girl there are no reasons for him to go back and fix any thing. Fixing things only mean he wants to "FIX IT". Put your foot down and tell him how you feel. Tell him this. "If you are going to do some thing let ... (read in full...)
I know I can start something with my hot friend but I love my husband - help!!!
Q. Confused: I am a 34 year old with a good job,a husband of 13 years, and son, basically everything a person could ask but recently I have found myself extremely attracted to a family friend. He is also married but with just a little try I am ...
A. 16 August 2006: Doing some thing like this can never be undone. Not only do you put your self at risk, but most importantly you put both your families at risk too. Ask your self is it worth it to loose your husband and child? Being cheated on is one of the worst ... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking that a threesome would ruin us?
Q. is a 3 sum out of the question??? my boyfriend has recently admitted he wants to see me with another girl, at 1st i was unsure but sed i would consider it. now he says he wants a 3 sum where he can join in. this has made me insecure as i fe...
A. 16 August 2006: I can tell you that having an open relationship requires more than just the fantasy of the action. 100% Open communication is a must! If one or both of you are jealous, insecure, or in doubt it's only going to cause problems. Sit down on your own ... (read in full...)
Is 18 considered late to still be a virgin ?
Q. I'm 18 never had a proper girlfriend and never had a proper kiss with any girl and obviously never had sex. I'm getting fed up of all this pressure to have sex (there was this thing on BBC Radio 1 about sex) and it just brought back all this pre...
A. 15 August 2006: No, you should be proud of your self! My children's father and I wanted to wait till we where married, lol we made it until my 18th birthday before we did any thing. (two months after he turned 18. If I could go back and change it I would have ... (read in full...)
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