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writes: Confused:I am a 34 year old with a good job,a husband of 13 years, and son, basically everything a person could ask but recently I have found myself extremely attracted to a family friend. He is also married but with just a little try I am sure I could start something with him. The sad thing is I really want to give it that try. I love my husband dearly and he does everything for me but I just can't help myself, this man is so hot, it is purely a physical attraction and that is all anything that came out of it would be, purely physical. I know this is wrong and could cause me an extreme amount of trouble but I just can't help myself. I need advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): You love yourself more than you love your husband and son.
Stop!!
Get some counseling for yourself and marriage counseling as well.
You need to start doing things with your husband. Both of you go out and whitewater raft. Go and learn how to snowboard. Take cuisine cooking classes together.
You can help yourself so don't be lame.
Listen, you make a choice now.
You either leave your husband for some married (WTH?) man ( I am sure his wife will be thrilled about that-can she kick your ass?).
Or you stop fantasizing and lusting after another man (which is a form of cheating already-ew!) and rededicate yourself to your husband and marriage.
There is no having your cake and eating it!
If you can not stand the thought of leaving your husband and child; GOOD!!
Cheating will only bring more unhappiness to not just you, but to your husband, son, and the other wife.
Be smart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 August 2006): You say 'I love my husband dearly'Wow. What lenghts would you go to to hurt him if you only loved him a little.......
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reader, jn +, writes (16 August 2006):
 Doing some thing like this can never be undone. Not only do you put your self at risk, but most importantly you put both your families at risk too. Ask your self is it worth it to loose your husband and child? Being cheated on is one of the worst feelings any one can ever live with, it follows you for life and carries into your new relationships. All the trust he has for you will be gone. The smallest conversations you have with friends will be seen as a hidden agenda. If you are really that interested and you can't live with out it, you should sit down and go over what part excites you the most, if you and your husband have a good strong marriage try and talk to him about it, don't involve names it only creates problems. Reverse the tables to see how you would feel if one of your husbands female friends wanted to have sex with him?
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