How do guys fancy a girl who they don't know much about?
Q. I'm interested to know how guys can fancy a girl without knowing much about her or her interests. I know there's physical attraction, but i'm talking about them actually being attracted and fancying you as a person... Because a few of the guys ...
A. 6 June 2011: Here's the perfect quote to explain, from the book The Unbearable Lightness of Being, by Milan Kundera (great book, by the way):
"The brain appears to possess a special area which we might call poetic memory and which records everything that cha... (read in full...)
I'm married but want to have sex with an older woman
Q. I am married and I love my wife. the problem is that I feel horny all the time plus I like older women? what should I do? I don't want to betray my wife? why do some guys (like me) are sexually attracted to older women? I wish I can have sex ...
A. 6 June 2011: Just wait until your wife is older. If you really love her, you won't cheat on her. Actually, you shouldn't even have a desire to sleep with another woman.... (read in full...)
I'm running out of time to let him know how I feel. What should I do?
Q. ok i'll try to be brief here. theres this guy i fancy who's 18 years old but i'm only 16. first off if we ever did end up going out would it be wrong? anyway he's going back to college on wednesday, which means that if i exclude the newyear an...
A. 1 January 2011: Oh, I like the letter idea! But instead of mailing it to him, maybe you could give it to him while leaving and tell him to read it when he's gone? That gives you a couple of days to figure out what you're going to write.
Good luck! :)
PS: the a... (read in full...)
He may be confused, but now he's confusing me, and is he emotionally blackmailing me as well?
Q. Hey. I am 17. I met a guy on a gaming website 6 months ago. We played games and there was a chat box there too.. So we chatted and played for a month. He is 22. I told him where I lived after a month and found out that he lived in the same area as...
A. 1 January 2011: It's very easy to lie on the Internet. You're absolutely right not to trust him, and if you want to pursue the relationship, tell him you want to get to know him better in person before doing anything physical. If he refuses, then he was really only ... (read in full...)
17, nearly 18 and I've never had a girlfriend - should I be getting worried?
Q. Less than five months ago I was a complete loner – I had never been to a party, only been out with friends and peers a few times, mostly on events organized by my school. I had a revelation in the summer that I myself would have to do something ...
A. 1 January 2011: Well... I don't think you should let the fear of being stigmatized hold you back; not everyone is judgmental enough to reject someone because of how their social standing used to be. I was more thinking along the lines that you shouldn't try ... (read in full...)
17, nearly 18 and I've never had a girlfriend - should I be getting worried?
Q. Less than five months ago I was a complete loner – I had never been to a party, only been out with friends and peers a few times, mostly on events organized by my school. I had a revelation in the summer that I myself would have to do something ...
A. 30 December 2010: Wow. I'm seriously impressed. Your story has given me hope that I can climb over that wall that separates me from my peers and finally connect with them! I'm the same age as you, never had a boyfriend and don't really feel the need to find one that ... (read in full...)
My boobs are small and I don't know what to do!
Q. Hello, i am 15 and i have small boobs. i am going on holiday in July with my boyfriend and his family and i am inbarased about them. I was shopping not that long ago with him and we were talking about bras and he asked what bra size i was and i ...
A. 30 December 2010: Honestly.
Just don't worry about it, and if your boyfriend says something about your breasts not being large enough, laugh at him and ask him if he's dating YOU or your boobs. You have no reason at all for being ashamed of you bust size; it's det... (read in full...)
He's not Christian but I am. Does it matter?
Q. Hello. I don't have feelings for this boy who is anti-christan we only get to we to see each other for a great while and he gets lonley when i am not around plus he lives far away like 2 hours. So i was wondering if anyone can fall for with an...
A. 30 December 2010: It could be possible for you to fall for him, but if you really want to follow what the Bible says, you can't have a romantic relationship with him: "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend troubles - gay/not interested/not sexual?
Q. Is my boyfriend gay/not interested/not very sexual at all? He and I have been together for about a month and a half, but we've only made out like 1 1/2 times. We made out once on Halloween, then about 3 weeks later we left school during break and we ...
A. 22 December 2010: Um, you might be going a little too fast for him? As you said, it's his first relationship, so I don't think he's ready to get sexual with you after only a month and a half.... (read in full...)
What do I say to the girl that I really like?
Q. There's a girl i have a massive crush on in University. We're both comfortable with each other and we dance together whenever we go out and she doesn't mind me touching her at all. Thing is though, i'm really scared to tell her how i feel. I wanted ...
A. 13 December 2010: Very good answer from CaringGuy. To add to it, try not sounding desperate. What you need to make her understand is that you're interested in her, not that you NEED her in order to be happy or that you'll never get over it if she refuses you ... (read in full...)
My entire family say I am a bad mother even though I am trying my best! How do I deal with this until I can afford to move out?
Q. Okay so I have a huge problem that effects me everyday. Ill start out with the background information. It all started about two years ago when I got pregnant at age 18. My sister was 16 at the time. Anyways, I lived at home then and still do. The ...
A. 13 December 2010: Okay, seems like your family's expectations for you were deceived and now they're taking their frustration out on you. It's understandable, but completely irrational. I don't know how you normally react when they verbally abuse you, but try keeping ... (read in full...)
We always called each other best friends but I'm not sure anymore?
Q. This girl and I have been best friends for nearly seven years. We met in elementary school, and have since then called each other best friends. We've been through so much together, know each other so well, hung out too many times to count...you get ...
A. 11 December 2010: Well you don't have to ask her directly if you're still best friends, but you should talk to her. Just show her your true feelings, tell her you miss her and feel hurt and insecure when she stays silent for so long, or something along those lines. ... (read in full...)
Should I ask the singer of my bad out? Would she say yes?
Q. Hey guys, let me try to explain my situation as best i can. I'm the lead guitarist and singer in my 4-piece band, we do proper gigs at pubs and blues clubs. My co singer is a lovely lady by the name of Megan, and she's the problem. You see, from the ...
A. 11 December 2010: Yeah, I guess you should have some kind of a talk... I see two possibilities that could happen from it: either she ends up dating you, or she accepts to back off a bit because what she does is too much for you to handle.... (read in full...)
How do I answer the doctor's question?
Q. before i ask my question i really need to ask you not to consider my age, i just need help on the question thank you. I want to go on the pill soon because i have very heavy periods and every month they kill! I know some of the questions that the...
A. 1 November 2010: Just in case no one else knows...
I don't know exactly what "sexually active" implies here, but you can always ask your doctor...... (read in full...)
Doubts about God and his laws regarding my relationships with partners
Q. Hi guys, I need some relationship advise concerned with Christianity. I am a protestant Christian, but i'm having trouble getting a relationship with god. Sometimes i'm afraid that he's not real and i am wasting my time and the whole bible thin...
A. 18 October 2010: I understand that the answerers here have good intentions and want to help you, but I guess they just can't wholly grasp the notion of being Christian and trusting your life to God.
So you seem to have trouble making decisions for your life bec... (read in full...)
We're both new to this and now I'm confused about what he actually thinks!
Q. Me and my bf are both 16, we ve been going out for 4 months. Recently things have started to get alot more physical, previously when storys of other people we know doing stuff have come up he would say that they're too young. Last week he was lying ...
A. 31 March 2010: Maybe what he says does reflect what he thinks, but things got a little out of contol and he went farther than he would have wanted... Anyhow, you should have a talk about it and set some boundaries if you feel the need to.... (read in full...)
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