My gf is still stuck on her ex, 3 years later. What should we do?
Q. So my question is essentially expressed through the title: what can I do? This isn't a matter of security, fear, or soul searching on my part. Rather, she seems to be feeling these things herself, but doesn't know what to do. We've been together...
A. 22 February 2011: Hello again - dude, you can delude yourself as much as you want. You're right - better she say something now than ten years from now. BUT what was it that she said? She told you she finds the man she was with before you more desirable. What blow ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a twisted love triangle between two best friends...
Q. Hi everyone. So, here is my situation. For a very long time (a year now) my life has been a rollercoaster. I was unlucky enough to be drawn into a twisted love triangle between two best friends. I fell in love with the one and the other one, his ...
A. 21 February 2011: Hello again - I suggest you cut this game-player out of your life. And if you still have feelings for the ex, consider talking to him. Explain what his "friend" is up to. He sounds like weasel...... (read in full...)
After having led me on with the promise of a life together, he suddenly decides to bail out. Should I tell his wife about the whole sham?
Q. Where to start. I fell in love with a married man. He told me that he was on his way out of his marriage. He gave me horror stories about his wife. 8, 9, 10 months go by and he and I are more in love than I've ever been with anyone and I'm not ...
A. 20 February 2011: Spare us. You care NOTHING for this man's wife. Nor are you a VICTIM of any sort. In the future, don't betray the "sisterhood" like this.... (read in full...)
Desperate is the word for me
Q. Desperate is a big word for me...I have lost many girls due to being desperate or clingy. I have met a girl recently and I really like her. We first met in a swing dancing club I am in at my college and found out we have a class together. That ...
A. 20 February 2011: When "hunting ladies", just keep in mind this rule - you propose, she disposes. IOW if you ask for a date, and she agrees, proceed. If you txt her and she replies and is chatty, proceed. Etc. When it's "too much" is when you try to "take more of ... (read in full...)
I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 12
Q. Well... I'm almost 20 years old and I haven't had a girlfriend since the age of probably 12. Either it's my extreme shyness holding me back or I'm just ugly. I'm 5'8" 125lbs, so it could be the latter. In all honesty I don't think that I'm that ugly ...
A. 20 February 2011: There is nothing wrong with you, other than being cripplingly shy. STOP THAT! The worst thing a woman can do is tell you to buzz off. Be aware my friend, that it is a "numbers game" - cause no matter how many women may be disinterested in your ... (read in full...)
She's decided she's not attracted any more and wants to be friends
Q. Hello all, So my girlfriend of 2 years decided that she isn't attracted to me anymore and just wants to be friends, but she says she still loves me. She says that she doesn't want to work on things because she feels burnt out. We have had our ...
A. 20 February 2011: She dumped you. Probably has someone else already in mind. At least she broke up with you first (we can hope.) But yeah, you and her are through. Btw be VERY leary of the sticking around as a "friend" nonsense. That is usually what I call "keeping ... (read in full...)
She's not a virgin but doesn't want to have sex with me!
Q. Hello everyone, thanks for taking the time to read my question. Anyhow so I currently have a girlfriend. She is not a virgin; I am. We have been dating for 8 months now and I want to have sex but she keeps telling me she wants to wait until ...
A. 20 February 2011: Ignore the judgemental things some have posted here. You're not rotten for wanting to have sex. Some of the rants I've read in response to your posting are just deusional. But what is definitely true is that you need to respect her wishes - and ... (read in full...)
I am afraid my gf will cheat on me in the future.
Q. Why do i feel so jealous with my girlfriend? we just had a child and I still feel like someone will fantasize her with gibberish. What can I do so I can trust her more? What should I look for if maybe something does happen?...
A. 20 February 2011: Do you have any reason to suspect her? Something she has done previously? Otherwise, relax - this kind of paranoia can of itself destroy a relationship.... (read in full...)
Is it bad my new husband and I have so much sex?
Q. Hi, I am married for 6 months now. But me and my husband are having sex all the time. We don't talk to each other too much when we are alone. Is it bad to have lots of sex? We have sex at least 3 times per day. I have also found out that my husba...
A. 20 February 2011: If you don't mind having so much sex, I wouldn't worry. Nor would I be too worried about his BDSM fetish. If it's something you're comfortable exploring with him, let him know.... (read in full...)
I love my ex and always will love him, but I'm just not sure if I can face the rejection if he's over me completely....
Q. I broke up with my ex about 2 1/2 years ago after a 5 and a half year relationship. I left him, as I felt that he would never commit fully to me and that as I was only 26, that i needed to stand on my own two feet and support myself. He was very ...
A. 20 February 2011: Leave him alone. You're complaining about this other man's (the one you still desire) past inability to commit, yet here you are jumping between beds. I think you have the truth of all of this in your posting - your problem is that he may be over ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my psychiatrist!
Q. Hi I fall in love with my psychiatrist and now I am very confused dont know what to do cause I like him a lot and somethimes I think he likes me as well. He was asking me personal questions like do I have boyfriend but very persistantnly an...
A. 20 February 2011: You need to find another therapist. If you're not simply engaging on "wishful thinking" (and he is in fact encouraging something inappropriate), then he is very unprofessional and should be reported, not admired.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend slept with some guy from her office. I feel I deserve better,should I forgive her?
Q. Hai my girlfriend and i have being dating for 3 years and wants to have sex, well am a virgin i am 23 and want to wait till we get married, am so commited to her, but recently found out she has being sleeping with some guy at her office she said it ...
A. 20 February 2011: Yeah...it happenend once that you know about. Did she confess this, or did she get caught? In any case, you'll be bitter if you save yourself for someone who didn't hold up their part of the obligation. If you stay, be prepaired for this to haunt ... (read in full...)
Stuck in a twisted love triangle between two best friends...
Q. Hi everyone. So, here is my situation. For a very long time (a year now) my life has been a rollercoaster. I was unlucky enough to be drawn into a twisted love triangle between two best friends. I fell in love with the one and the other one, his ...
A. 20 February 2011: You are sketchy on the details - did you stray with your ex's friend? IF so, I don't get the "passive victim" stuff on your part. If I'm mistaken, pls clarify what actually happened...... (read in full...)
I want to watch my wife with a bigger guy
Q. I am married and have a great relationship. But I have this fantasy of watching my wife with a bigger guy. How do I talk her into it. We have stories we tell each other over the phone and they involve me watching or taping.she loves them but said ...
A. 20 February 2011: Your wife's hesitancy about this is a sign you need to LAY OFF. If she's not into doing this "for real", and you prod her into doing it, the results will be DISASTEROUS.... (read in full...)
My gf is still stuck on her ex, 3 years later. What should we do?
Q. So my question is essentially expressed through the title: what can I do? This isn't a matter of security, fear, or soul searching on my part. Rather, she seems to be feeling these things herself, but doesn't know what to do. We've been together...
A. 20 February 2011: Quit being so passive - it does nothing but breed contempt in most women's hearts. You don't need to wait for her to decide - YOU need to decisicely GTFO. The feelings you have are for your idea of someone who doesn't exist - someone whose heart is ... (read in full...)
Why do I enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man ?
Q. Why do I want to watch my wife have sex with a man, our sex life is very good, but when a man came on to her I encouraged her and it led to full sex with me watching and I got so turned on and would loved to see her take a lover. I don't understa...
A. 20 February 2011: Sounds to me like this is working for both of you. So long as the lines of communication stay open, and this stays something you enjoy TOGETHER, it should work out. Suffice it to say, this isn't for most people, including people who only fantasize ... (read in full...)
Not sure what to think about wife's spanking-fantasy...
Q. My wife wants me to spank her before/during sex. This probably sounds like every guy's dream but there is a bit of a sinister twist that is making me feel a bit uncomfortable. When I asked her where the spanking fantasy had come from, she said t...
A. 19 February 2011: Don't over think this one. It was the sensations of being dominated and the contact itself she found arousing, not her parents or such persons. IOW don't worry - spank away. If this gets her going, you only stand to benefit. MOST women become VERY ... (read in full...)
His porn watching is upsetting me.
Q. Im 19 years old and away at university, my boyfriend is 25 and is at home working, we have constantly disagreed on subjects but this one has effected me the most, he likes to use porn as a masturbation aid, downloading around 50 porn video's I have ...
A. 19 February 2011: Trying to change other people's sex habits through ultimatums or emotional blackmail/adding guilt NEVER WORKS. It'll just "push it into the closet" and lead to lies, broken promises, and hurt feelings.
While it is good to be honest and express ... (read in full...)
Do we try again?
Q. So long story short, my last girl and i broke up and i suspected her of having feelings for her ex thus causing our break up. but she said she would never date him or feel that way about him again. and too my suprise...they started dating a month ...
A. 19 February 2011: Sure, you can "try again" - if you like "eating someone else's left-overs." You are WAY TOO young to be SETTLING just to stay in your comfort zone. She's for others now - not you. You can do better.... (read in full...)
Once a cheat.....?
Q. Last year i came out of a long term relationship (i got married to the man towards the end) before i got married i met a man at work - who turned my life around! We fell completely in love! he was dating the secretary and obviously i was diue to get ...
A. 19 February 2011: Hold on a second - I hope I'm misunderstanding this - but YOU are worried about someone else' ability to be faithful...namely the guy you hooked up with while YOU were already with someone else? I hope I'm getting this wrong, since otherwise you'll ... (read in full...)
Speak up or stay quiet about this man's cheating ways
Q. I don't want criticism because I feel bad enough for what I've done. Just a simple question. If you were almost at the point of having an affair with a married man because he seemed just wonderful and made you feel wonderful too but then mutually ...
A. 19 February 2011: I agree with "the walkin dude" - your indignation here is not AT ALL "moral" - it is SOUR GRAPES! Knock it off, butt out and consider yourself fortunate. ANY move against him now will just undermine any claim of conscience that you "chose" to stay ... (read in full...)
I'm so lost and confused without her, will she ever come back?
Q. I had a fight with my girlfriend because I suspected she was cheating on me with several men and I put her out of the house. Then she called me saying that she loves me very much, wants me back and wishes to marry me. But I traced this phone call a...
A. 19 February 2011: If your suspicions were correct (seems they were), then you really are better off with her. It may sound odd, but I say these are ONLY feelings that you're having about her - "feelings" can be misleading, and themselves misled. Stay strong, keep ... (read in full...)
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