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*agie
writes:HiI fall in love with my psychiatrist and now I am very confused dont know what to do cause I like him a lot and somethimes I think he likes me as well. He was asking me personal questions like do I have boyfriend but very persistantnly and also he was giving me compliments few times as well which he shouldnt do as profesional. I never told him how I feel but I tried to stop teraphy and he didnt really let me. What do you suggest me to do?Is there any hope for me, what would happen if he would cross a line?
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reader, magie +, writes (12 March 2011):
magie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi GuysI am going to see him this days and I am so afraid to tell him how I feel and I will not. But I was thinking a lot of all he probably doesnt know I like him cause I was avoiding him and I behave strictly professional. He also doesnt wear a ring which is a good sign. I dont think this is transference because I fall in love after maybe 4 treatments which is not a lot and I was seing another doctor before him but it was fine never felt this way. He also behaves strange as he was giving me compliments either that is against rules and he was calling me home and writing to me. I love him so much cant stop thinking of him. I done a lot of research about him but I cant find is he married or divorced. Do you suggest to give him a more chance maybe something can happen
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reader, magie +, writes (12 March 2011):
magie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi GuysI am going to see him this day and I am so afraid to tell him how I feel and I will not. But I was thinking a lot of all he probably doesn't know, I like him, because I was avoiding him and I behaved strictly professional. He also doesn't wear a ring which is a good sign. I don't think this is transference because I fall in love after maybe 4 treatments which is not a lot and I was seeing another doctor before him but it was fine never felt this way. He also behaves strange as he was giving me compliments either that is against rules and he was calling me home and writing to me. I love him so much cant stop thinking of him. I done a lot of research about him but I cant find is he married or divorced. Do you suggest to give him a more chance maybe something can happen
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reader, magie +, writes (21 February 2011):
magie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you guys for answers I am so confused I like half want to stop it another half wants me to continue so I will see when I see him next time. The only thing which worries me the most is he can loose his practice if something happens and to be honest there was a few occasions when he would be giving me compliments and even making physical contact just by shaking hands but I know he shouldn't do any of this things. I like him a lot but you made another point of view maybe he just plays with me as he could do. Cause he was even writing me a letters it looked like he was worried for me but still.
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reader, epicureansage  +, writes (20 February 2011):
You need to find another therapist. If you're not simply engaging on "wishful thinking" (and he is in fact encouraging something inappropriate), then he is very unprofessional and should be reported, not admired.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2011): Hi,
What you are experiencing is called transference, thy googling it. My parents are both psychotherapists, so I know quite a bit about this, through them. Transference is a state where you feel move emotions that you have or have had, onto the therapist because they are a safe and trusted place for those emotions to be felt. it is subconcious, so dont feel bad about it. And these are real emotions, but you have to recognise them for what they are and control them.
There is also a situation called reverse transference whereby the therapist can mistake transference love for real love and develop feelings (they are only human too!) towards a client. Again these relationships are not healthy and are not to be indulged in. Im not surewhat your governing bodies are like but there is a good chance that if your therapist became involved with you he would lose his license to practice. I know that in America, there must be formal termination of the client/therapist relationship and then a year must pass before the couple becomes romantically involved, for the therapist to retain his license. (At least in some states, I dont speak for the whole of the USA i dont know!)
I hope this helps! All the best and good luck!
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