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writes:Why do I want to watch my wife have sex with a man, our sex life is very good, but when a man came on to her I encouraged her and it led to full sex with me watching and I got so turned on and would loved to see her take a lover.I don't understand why I get so much pleasure from watching her with a man?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2011): i think watching your wife have sex with another guy is the greatest turn on as long as there is trust ps have you tried it yet
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reader, epicureansage  +, writes (20 February 2011):
Sounds to me like this is working for both of you. So long as the lines of communication stay open, and this stays something you enjoy TOGETHER, it should work out. Suffice it to say, this isn't for most people, including people who only fantasize about such things. But it LOOKS like you've beaten the odds.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): I have watched her with four different men. I loved it. I know why...Because I know that I desire a strong intelligent and very sexual woman. When she does another man, I see her as powerful and more desired. One guy was very very thik and she orgasmed right away without being touched and squirted all over because he was so think. Afterward, I cleaned her and him up. Coolest thing that ever happend. I banged her 10 times the next day!
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reader, tallguyphcc  +, writes (16 February 2011):
Watching your wife with another man is a great turn on for me. She doesn't see it that way...but, when she is with another guy (or girl), she is not really concentrating on who is watching. When I make love to my wife, I am too busy trying to please her and myself that I can't really enjoy the movements, sounds, etc. that are happening. By watching, I can get the full impact of the love making...and masturbate as I do. So, for me personally....as the male half speaking....I like it. And...our success has been with married couple...so, I get to make love to his wife while he makes love to mine. We have often held hands while "doing" others. A real turn on. Plus....nothing turns me on more than to eat my wife to climax...after a long night of great sex...with another guy and/or girl. Everything tastes great!
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reader, Doctormn  +, writes (5 January 2011):
To see the pleasure she experiences when she is haning sex with her friend just turns me on I experience fantastic pleasure watching I cant wait for the second time
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Man, believe me I know what you're feeling. My wife had an affair on me 2 years ago and it lasted for about 7 months. I was absolutely crushed and yet I would get "turned on" at the thought of what she was doing with him. It's twisted I know because I was genuinely hurt by her affair and wanted nothing more than for her to stop (which she did) but damn I just can't help but get excited about her activities when she cheated. I never saw her with him so I basically go with fantasy. Every now and then when we have sex I talk dirty to her about what she probably did with that guy and it is a turn on for both of us. But please understand, I would never want to go through the pain of an affair again and I know deep down I would never take her back if it did happen. I think it is the idea that my wife is a bad girl deep down and that's what I am attracted to. Just like most women like "bad boys". Had my wife just had sex and no emotional attachment I think it would not have affected me the way it did. Like I said I am probably "twisted". That's probably what is going on with you. You like the idea of a bad girl but believe me if it comes down to it the additional baggage that comes along with it may be too much to take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): Man, believe me I know what you're feeling. My wife had an affair on me 2 years ago and it lasted for about 7 months. I was absolutely crushed and yet I would get "turned on" at the thought of what she was doing with him. It's twisted I know because I was genuinely hurt by her affair and wanted nothing more than for her to stop (which she did) but damn I just can't help but get excited about her activities when she cheated. I never saw her with him so I basically go with fantasy. Every now and then when we have sex I talk dirty to her about what she probably did with that guy and it is a turn on for both of us. But please understand, I would never want to go through the pain of an affair again and I know deep down I would never take her back if it did happen. I think it is the idea that my wife is a bad girl deep down and that's what I am attracted to. Just like most women like "bad boys". Had my wife just had sex and no emotional attachment I think it would not have affected me the way it did. Like I said I am probably "twisted". That's probably what is going on with you. You like the idea of a bad girl but believe me if it comes down to it the additional baggage that comes along with it may be too much to take.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2009): My husband did not tell me that he had this problem before we got maried. he just talked about his slut ex wife that got pregnant by another man...I found out from her...he talked her into having sex with his best friend...she got preganant..they had an affair, don't know which came first. It destroyed their marriage even though they remained married for 3 years. here omes me...I get very drunk guess what I did it..he wathed..it destroyed our marriage..bottom line any man that truly loves his wife would never allow another man to touch her..Do i feel loved,and cherished NO i do not. Its been over for a long time, but we sleep in different bedroom. before that happened we had an awesome se life.
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reader, MrTom +, writes (10 May 2009):
MrTom is verified as being by the original poster of the question It is true I love the wifes lover to make her so aroused that she yields herself completely to him an his pleasure.
It is the wife who says what she wants from the bull, an the wife will do all she can to help him.
But if he can not deliver she will end it very fast.
It is the wife who is the alpha, she will use the bull for his sexual powers only.
Thank you for your reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2009): The why of it is simple, you are a beta male and it is a deep set personality characteristic. The mechanics of it are more complex but a lot of it comes down to perspective, it is difficult to watch yourself sliding in and out of your wife and concentrate enough to perform well. You cant appreciate the way she looks when you are viewing from exactly the right angle. You even seem to appreciate the noises she makes more when it is another man causing her to make them. Even the jealousy you feel inside your stomach is as exciting and addictive as any drug to you. As an alpha male and a bull I am your exact opposite ant the same thrills you get watching her are the same thrills I get from having you watch. To me sex just does not seem complete unless I have a husband or boyfriend watching. Knowing that she is precious to you and that your own jealousy is exciting you, excites me and makes me perform even better.(Mod note: it was edited as the comment was too explicit)
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reader, MrTom +, writes (9 May 2009):
MrTom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe wife has now taken a lover who she meets every two weeks an we all go out together for dinner an on to a club, after we all go back to a hotel where the wife enthusiastically has sex with him as I watch.
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reader, MrTom +, writes (9 May 2009):
MrTom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replys, yes I love seeing the wife being aroused by another man. It is her passion an amorous desire when having sex with a man, that is an aphrodisiac to me.
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reader, MrTom +, writes (9 May 2009):
MrTom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replys, yes I love seeing the wife being aroused by another man. It is her passion an amorous desire when having sex with a man, that is an aphrodisiac to me.
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reader, garcypher +, writes (9 May 2009):
If you are like me you only get turned on if your wife gets turned on by it; if she gets turned off, Do you get turned off? If so, it is probably watching your wife reaching a climax with another man and enjoying it that turns you on so much. Maybe things were getting a bit boring and you needed a fetish to liven things up. Some people go outdoors into public places to do it. Some have threesomes with women. Some go to swingers clubs. Maybe one day you will get bored with what you doing now. As for why, there could be a number of reasons. And is complex or simple. It really doesnt matter. If you enjoy it then do it. You are doing no harm to anyone.And for those who fantasize about it but never do it, is only because you feel to afraid to.
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reader, garcypher +, writes (9 May 2009):
In the seventies hippies shared thier women with each other and called it freedom of love. They may have a point. When you read the papers these days about men coming home drunk and killing thier devoted wives in fits of rage through paranoia and jealousy fuelled by thier own insecurities. I think if husband and wife enjoy open sex and can live happy together from it then why not. If it makes their marriage stronger then it's right for them. And if it works there would be no jealousy, no paranoia and no insecurities. Whats normal for one may not be for another. we are living in an age now where most sexual taboos concerning adults are gone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2009): my wife cheated on me before we got married. I really lost it but settled down to talk to her about it. Se said it was just sex nothing in it and that I'm the one who really matters. I asked her if she enjoyed it and she was honest and said "yes, very much." I realized at that point I was turned on and we made love for hours that day and following days after just talking about it. Now I let her do it in front of me or go out and sleep with someone while I listen on the phone. Niether of us is using the other. We both get a thrill out of it and have been doing it for four years now with no problems. We love each other and are happy together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): I have a secret fantasty of watching my wife with another man, but that's it... a '"fantasy" and would never want it to really happen and I know it wont. I enjoy it and wonder if other women have fantasies of having sex with another man while doing it with their husbands? I'm too afraid to ask my wife this question, or tell her of my fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2009): we haven,t done it yat iv,e tryed to talk her in to it for years but not yet i no i would enjoy it but i don,t no about after it was over i don,t think i would get mad i had her talked in to it a couple of times and she wanted to but no one around to do it but it really made her horney we had great sex after we talked it over but she always had to be drunk and i wanted her to be sober but sober she would not talk much about it i think she wanted to but was afraid of the after wards i all way wanted her to lay on my shoulder and some one screw the shit out of her then i would do her is that the shit or what
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reader, MrTom +, writes (21 April 2009):
MrTom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply, yes the wife an I agree, the first time was so good we fantasise about it during are love making so much that the wife asked if I would be ok if we could do it again.The only real regret the wife had was using are male friend just for sex.He always fancied the wife an as he was about to leave our party an with a few drinks taken the wife kissed him an he responded an I watched as they had wild sex, three times in all.But the wife felt so bad about using him she insisted we go an an apologizes to him.He said he was more that ok with having sex with the wife as it was the best sex he ever had. An he look forward to next years party.He did not have to wait that long for three mounths later the wife phoned him to ask if he would like to have sex with her again. Half an hour later he was at the door, an this time they took their time an had sex most of the night, which I enjoyed watching very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2009): Its great, happened once to us and it was fantastic, we fantasise about it over and over again.
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reader, MrTom +, writes (19 April 2009):
MrTom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your replys, The wife was very happy to have sex with another man, an enjoyed it very much. It was both are fantasy for her to do so an so far we have no regrets.
Watching her have wild sex was fantastic, an another time watching her make passionate love to a man was magnificent.
We both do not think are marrage is under threat, an she does not feel belittled.
Are sex life has got even better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): When we started swinging it was with groups no singles so that we would not have problems. Now we have MFM 3somes but I'm blindfolded so I don't know who it is. It's just sex.We have been married 26 years. I was a stripper before we got married. Still madly in love.TXLassy
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reader, rumncokecanada +, writes (3 April 2009):
Me and my g.f did 3somes before, Hurts us both but one thing i get from it. I get turned on fantasing about my buddy screwing her and her luving his big tube steak. We both gang banged her but after it was over,it pissed me off. Same as when i banged her cousin and she was watching and at the end she got upset about it too. So my advise is just to join an orgy club and you both will have a couple,so one cant get jelous of another.;
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): ooooops think you forgot that women get more emotionally involved with men they have sex with. I think you like it because you 'own' your wife and you get an ego boost when other men enjoy her and yet you know you get to keep her afterwards? Just an idea. Otherwise its just live porn in which case would you get as turned on by simply watching other couples have sex - maybe you should both try the swingers scene?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): yeah, now she's got a taste of touching other men's bods. Yours just won't do anymore. Once you open this door, she'll be pushing you out, maybe not today or tomorrow, but it's to come.Whatever happened to men in shining armor--challenging any man to a duel if they touch their wife?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): tme to consult a divorce attorney. your wife is already thinking of the grass is greener on the other side, not long now but she will be totally in lust with the other person. really, that man will be satisfying her more than you ever could so why settle for poor you. you just opened up a can of worms, you only have yourself to blame as your marriage heads out of the window.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): hmmm...
my husband is like that too
i have no idea why
i hope she only follows through on this if she really wants too
and not because shes feels pressured into doing it because she wants to please you.
i think its quite a dangerous territory
all i can suppose is its a visual thrill for you perhaps a voyeuristic tendency though the possibility still exists that there is an element of control about it that you enjPr
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2009): Dont know why you would want your fantasies played out on your wife. How does she feel about this? Do you not realise how you are undermining the trust in your marriage. How do you know that your wife is not having it off with other men when you are at work??? I think that you have opened pandora's box!
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 April 2009):
 I don't understand either. How does your wife feel about all this? Let's think about her shall we?
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