I hid the 'girl' side of myself from her and now I think it's coming back out!
Q. Hello everyone, I'm 22 and I'm in a healthy and happy 2 years relationship with a girl. Everything is fine, but I hide something to her: at 16, I started to crossdress and I created that other side of me. I gave that side a name, buying myself gi...
A. 25 September 2011: Hi, I can relate to your problem, I used to male cross dress and at the time had a boyfriend. I explained it to him, and he was bi so he didn't mind at all, it just depends on your partner. If your girl side is an important part of you, you should ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin with a normal sex drive but the moment I meet someone I just freak out and my libido goes out of the door!
Q. Hi everyone, I have an ongoing, nagging problem that won't go away and it keeps getting bigger and bigger. I'm scared of having sex, even oral etc doing anything sexual with another person. This is long so bare with me, I'm going to get therapy t...
A. 25 September 2011: Thanks for the replies people, they really help. I'm in a job at the moment until Christmas which means I'm travelling all over the country and just the other day I met someone at a night club and he offered to walk me home and it turned into the ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a guy cannot find someone he clicks with no matter how hard he tries?
Q. What does it mean for a guy who has never had a girlfriend and he is still a virgin and no matter how hard he tries he just can't find that woman he can click with, even just for the time being nothing is happening in his life, no one can give him ...
A. 24 September 2011: I don't know what it means, but I'm a virgin and I'm 22. You're age is 18-21 so you're still young. She's out there you just haven't found her yet.... (read in full...)
My mom controls the way I dress!
Q. Know that i am a teenager in high school. So I like the way I dress. I basically wear jeans and a baggy shirt because they are comfortable. I enjoy this, but my mom is now FORCING me to wear dresses and skirts. She says that I walk like a man. Now ...
A. 1 May 2011: Sounds a bit like my mum back in the day. Ignore her, she can't physically make you wear anything. She'll get over it in a few years, she has to learn the hard way that she is not your boss.... (read in full...)
She keeps walking in on me masturbating!
Q. Need help? My sister walked in on me masterbating last month, now she keeps doing it. And i've been super carefull, but its like she knows i'm doing it and my bedroom door flys open, she's even walked in on me twice wheni've been in the shower. What ...
A. 1 May 2011: Throwing away pornos and never wanking again won't work, I used to be ashamed of masturbating when I was about 11 and tried to stop it completely but it just built up and I couldn't hold it in. Find a neutral place if you have to, public toilet or ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome these feelings and hold my head up high and carry on with my life?
Q. Ok so this is a little complicated but I will explain best I can. Lately i'm questioning if I can be friends with this girl and guy that i live with. We met as she was friends with a friend of a guy I was seeing. While seeing him she would someti...
A. 30 April 2011: Hello, very sorry to hear about your situation. If I was you, I'd move out! Move away from him and the girls and all that stuff you don't need to put up with. Start anew, move into a new house/flat/apartment with people you don't know and you never ... (read in full...)
She keeps walking in on me masturbating!
Q. Need help? My sister walked in on me masterbating last month, now she keeps doing it. And i've been super carefull, but its like she knows i'm doing it and my bedroom door flys open, she's even walked in on me twice wheni've been in the shower. What ...
A. 30 April 2011: Tell her to butt out, it's nothing to do with her. Do it at night when you go to bed and she's sleeping. Funnily enough I had that same problem being in a small house with a big family and I'm a girl...night was the only option.... (read in full...)
High sex drive, need Help.
Q. So yeah, I have a high sex drive and my girlfriend doesn't. I see her 3-4 days a week (every two days). We have been together for a year and a half. We usually make love every time we see each other, but when we don't I get really moody, upset and I ...
A. 30 April 2011: Hello,
I don't know if this will help, but I'm a girl with a sex drive that fluctuates from hero to zero depending on time of month. If you want an answer from my perspective, just because she doesn't want to make love to you all the time doesn't ... (read in full...)
How can I put on more weight as I hate being called skinny?
Q. im a 14 year old and i weigh 86lbs. before you call me bulimic,anemic,or anything else let me tell you i do none of those things. i dont know what to do people at school make fun of me and tell me im skinny. it really bugs me cuz i eat but i dont ...
A. 30 April 2011: I was in your position too at high school and I hated being called skinny by the other girls when I was your age. I was tall and thin and it was usually larger girls who'd laugh at me and say 'are you anorexic?' just out of point and call me 'the ... (read in full...)
I am caught between 4 guys, and don't know what to do
Q. I sent a question recently, but it's been lying around and no answers yet. That's good, my situation has changed since then. I am caught between 4 guys, and don't know what to do... what would all of you do in my situation? I don't know how I get ...
A. 12 October 2010: Thank you, CindyCares. C has asked for me to come and join him at yoga tomorrow night, it's new to both of us so might be interesting! Thanks again for your reply, much appreciated.... (read in full...)
I am caught between 4 guys, and don't know what to do
Q. I sent a question recently, but it's been lying around and no answers yet. That's good, my situation has changed since then. I am caught between 4 guys, and don't know what to do... what would all of you do in my situation? I don't know how I get ...
A. 11 October 2010: Thanks, CindyCares. No of course it's not mandatory, I have just been single for a while and now there are 4 guys and I don't really know what to do. I am excited about C, I just wasn't sure if it was just me being a bit worried about the others.I ... (read in full...)
He touched me, now I feel guilty! What should I do?
Q. Well, I am 14 years old I am know as the good girl in my school straight A's all that but i had a boy friend and he tried to touch me where I didn't feel convertible. I rejected him the first few times... But then i gave in. I feel so guilty. Should ...
A. 12 July 2010: I had the same problem when I was your age (now 20). Like the other guys say, you're not a bad person or anything, if you don't want to do anything you just gotta know how to say no and mean it. The right guy won't pressure you into doing things you ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him to bugger off - nicely?
Q. Hi all...I am stuck in a sticky tangled mess :( I met this guy once last year and talked to him twice or so, but a few months ago he invited me over to his place. We got along really well even though i didn't really know him. We started watching...
A. 20 July 2009: Thanks again guys, i mean it.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him to bugger off - nicely?
Q. Hi all...I am stuck in a sticky tangled mess :( I met this guy once last year and talked to him twice or so, but a few months ago he invited me over to his place. We got along really well even though i didn't really know him. We started watching...
A. 20 July 2009: I did, and i told him about how he is really sleazy and annoying and he said he just got over confident thinking i liked him. He said all he wanted to do was make me happy but failed miserably. He was really upset, and i basically just crapped all ... (read in full...)
How do I tell him to bugger off - nicely?
Q. Hi all...I am stuck in a sticky tangled mess :( I met this guy once last year and talked to him twice or so, but a few months ago he invited me over to his place. We got along really well even though i didn't really know him. We started watching...
A. 19 July 2009: thanks guys. I needed the confidence... (read in full...)
How do I tell him to bugger off - nicely?
Q. Hi all...I am stuck in a sticky tangled mess :( I met this guy once last year and talked to him twice or so, but a few months ago he invited me over to his place. We got along really well even though i didn't really know him. We started watching...
A. 18 July 2009: Look, satindesire, if i could then i would but i don't know how to... (read in full...)
Why do women place such importance on the emotional side of sex?
Q. Okay, I have a question for both men and women. My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year. When it comes to sex, she claims to love it with me and tells me that I make her feel better than anyone has before - physically but then she ...
A. 18 July 2009: I think you really need to pur ur arse into gear if you want to keep her for much longer. ... (read in full...)
Best friend won't see sense!
Q. i need some help! i have been best friends with my friend since we were 3. attached at the hip.. through everything together. So we went our seperate ways after school, still as normal hanging out the odd day or night to keep in touch. so then, for ...
A. 18 July 2009: All you can do is be there for her. You are still best friends, and she will probably come around. At school people go their separate ways and try new things/rebel etc but in the end she is still the same girl.... (read in full...)
I am happy because he is happy but I cant forget him! Help!
Q. Help! During uni last year I met a guy studying here from overseas, Abdhul. I initially talked to him a little bit and didn't think much of it, but as i got to know him better, i fell deeply in love with him. We got along really well, and although...
A. 19 May 2009: thanks for the help guys:)... (read in full...)
Every time I start to get feelings about a guy they run away!
Q. I'm so pathetic I can't even get a boyfriend. When i finally do, everything always turns bad. I am 19 and have aspergers syndrome so people generally think i'm wierd, although i have no problems talking to guys as friends. My best friend just got ...
A. 17 April 2009: thanks guys for the support. Not many people know that i have aspergers, it's usually something i keep to myself.
i guess i do get a bit obsessive and need to learn to back off.... (read in full...)
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