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writes:i need some help! i have been best friends with my friend since we were 3. attached at the hip.. through everything together. So we went our seperate ways after school, still as normal hanging out the odd day or night to keep in touch. so then, for the last 4 months i hear not a thing from her... she's going out with some total maniac! i'm very worried for her. she has been with him for 5 mins and he has moved in. everyone around here knows he is vicious, hit a few girls and does drugs. she herself knew this, but now denies it and says he is great and everyone is lying. i am so frustrated! she is like my little sister and i have always been there to support her and help her. i am so worried that she is going to get hurt! she wont listen to a word. i'm hurt that she chose to hide from me and ignore me for months but i just don't know what i can do now. should i back off and let her find out for herself? i just want her to be happy and i know she can do better! she doesn't want to go anything now, has quit her job to spend time with that loser who also has no job!!!! she has unprotected sex with him, sooooooo silly!! how can i try and talk some sense into her?
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reader, Cutter  +, writes (18 July 2009):
All you can do is be there for her. You are still best friends, and she will probably come around. At school people go their separate ways and try new things/rebel etc but in the end she is still the same girl.
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reader, QuirkLady  +, writes (18 July 2009):
 I'm sorry but you have to let her be. I know it's difficult to watch someone that you love mess up their life, but you can't live her life for her nor can you save her from something she's intent on doing. It sounds like you've already tried to talk to her, and as long as you gave it a good try that's the best you can do. Hopefully she will come to her senses soon, and when she does, be there for her and support her.
Good luck.
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