I've put up with this for nearly 3 years, have I really been that unreasonable?
Q. my partner and I have been together 2 and a half years. there is a big age difference but everyone has accepted our relationship... everyone except his daughter who is out to destroy us and has been since day one. I appreciate the fact she is a year ...
A. 20 May 2011: Hi there,
No, of course you're not being unreasonable. It's unreasonable your partner thinks this is acceptable behavior. He is making this situation very difficult for you and his daughter. By allowing her to 'make the rules' as it were, he... (read in full...)
I don't think its fair to stay in a relationship with her if I'm not in love with her or feel close.
Q. I have been married for 12 years. For about the last 2 years I have felt more as if I married my sister. I love my wife, but I'm not in love with her. I dont feel close to her and I don't like to be intimate with her. Since I have been out of ...
A. 3 March 2010: Marriage has the texture of a rubber band- sometimes you're close, sometimes you're stretched as far from each other as possible. When i read your question it didn't sound like- I'm not in love with my wife anymore and i love another woman, I... (read in full...)
I found another man's underwear under the bed!
Q. I just found men's underwear under my side of the bed. I'd like advice on what to do. This weekend, I was searching for a pair of old sneakers and they were shoved way under our bed on my side. I have no clue how long they've been there, I usually...
A. 1 March 2010: I don't mean to be blunt, but if you're prepared to film you wife's movements by putting a camera in her bedroom... do you not think that perhaps you don't trust her anyway? Ask her about the underwear. To be honest, if you re-read your questio... (read in full...)
Is there any chance I'm pregnant?
Q. Hi, I lost my virginity 2 weeks ago, and we didnt use condom, we wanted to have sex without condom, but what is the chances of getting pregnet for the first time sex and not using protection. I last my rirgenity but he didnt stay to long in my ...
A. 1 March 2010:
Go to your doctor, get a pregnancy test. There is a very high chance you are pregnant. You must use contraception- trust me, even if you're not pregnant, its not worth the risk or the stress.... (read in full...)
What should I do? My boyfriend might be getting a job with the girl he slept with while we were on a break, and they are texting every day!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months we have finished twice for stupid reasons in between this and while we finished he slept with some. We have been back on for 4 months now and it's going brilliantly, but I found texts from the girl he slept ...
A. 1 March 2010:
You don't trust this boy, and, from what you've said have no reason to.
The thing about having a "break" is that they don't really work. Let me put it this way- when you were apart, did you sleep with anyone? You can't have a break from loving f... (read in full...)
My partner wont stop ogling other women even though he knows how much this hurts me!
Q. my partner and father of my 2 children for the past 25 years ogles women but he does it in such a sneaky way and i have caught him many times he has cheated on me in the past and it really hurts me. i have spoken to him about how much this hurts me ...
A. 1 March 2010:
Men will always look at other women, but it sounds like he is obviously disrespecting you. I would be seriously pissed off. Is this man a nice loving partner? If not, I would ask myself why I was with him at all.
Tell him that its fine to chec... (read in full...)
Why would he need pills for erectile dysfunction when he is away from home?
Q. My husband travels for business. When he returned from a recent trip, the two cialis pills in his pillbox were gone. Should I ask him what happened to them? He keeps a password on his phone and laptop so I can't check those. We've been married 32 ...
A. 1 March 2010:
Would he be using them to masturbate? that may be it. Has he ever cheated in the past? Has he always travelled for business? How close are you two at the moment? And finally, why don't you ask him? Be gentle about it, and tell him that you you'... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to take birthcontrol anymore.
Q. I don't know how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to take birth control anymore. I don't want to get pregnat. I'm no where near ready for that. I been taking for a year and a half and its starting to make me feel sick. And weak. In reality I never ...
A. 1 March 2010:
Talk to him about it, tell him that the pills are really effecting you and you don't want to use them any more. That this doesn't mean you won;t have sex and he'll have to use condoms forever, just that he may have to be patient until you find some... (read in full...)
If I don't have sex with my boyfriend will he go elsewhere?
Q. I'm afraid that if i dont have sex with my boyfriend he will go somewhere else.Help?...
A. 1 March 2010:
Have sex when you are ready too, and because you want to, never, ever decide to sleep with someone out of fear that they won't love you otherwise. I promise, it is far better to have him leave because he isn't getting any, than for him to leav... (read in full...)
What should I do? give him space? wait for him to reach out?
Q. My boyfriend and I were discussing past relationships when he stopped me and started to yell at me stating that i did NOT tell him about one of the guys. I know for a fact that I did, i remember the conversation clearly but he is so set saying that ...
A. 1 March 2010:
Ditto. Who cares if you did or didn't tell him anyway? I've been married to my husband for three years and every now and then i find out about ex girlfriends and past dates i've never heard of. If it was a friend or something that you both see all ... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her age...
Q. In September i travelled to Thailand, and met a Thai girl who is 28 (im 22) and the chemistry was there right away i spent the 12 days of my holiday with her and fell in love. A lot of people get perceptions of thai girls who want money and move ...
A. 27 February 2010:
As long as you don't feel betrayed about the initial fib, then go for :) If you feel that you trust her and understand her reasons behind it, then good luck and enjoy the relationship! (my partner is 8 years older than me and we're doing fine... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her age...
Q. In September i travelled to Thailand, and met a Thai girl who is 28 (im 22) and the chemistry was there right away i spent the 12 days of my holiday with her and fell in love. A lot of people get perceptions of thai girls who want money and move ...
A. 26 February 2010:
mmm, i'd be a little concerned at why she fibbed to you, i understand she may have been concerned that it may have scared you off, but doing that robbed you of making your own decision about her from the get go. It may not have altered things at a... (read in full...)
Should I go out on a date with my friend in spite of being married?
Q. i am married but i want to be with my friend and he wants to be with me but i don't think it will lead to sex should i go out on a date with him or not? I mean i am not saying I don't want have sex with him I do but we are both a bit more mature ...
A. 26 February 2010:
It sounds like you have little to no awareness of how your husband might feel about this. I'm sorry if i come out blunt, but its your happiness thats on the line here too. Do you think you've already opted out of your marriage?
I'm just trying t... (read in full...)
I moved into my friend's dad's house, and I'm starting to become really uncomfortable. What can I do?
Q. Hi Im Blue, Its my first time asking a question on here so bare with me. I am 20 years old and have just recently moved into a friends dads place, I am studying. He saw a note on my nannas table that said I was moving out to the Caravan Park. He ...
A. 25 February 2010: GET OUT. Do not risk being put into a horrifying situation for convenience- if you told your gran about this would she hesitate at you moving back in? What about the caravan park? on a friends couch, a shelter would be better than your curren... (read in full...)
My parents are separated and I don't wish to see my mother, she is the only bad thing in my life!?
Q. Ok i know what everyone is going to say but i genuinely hate my mum. She walked out on my and my sister about a year ago to be with another guy leaving my dad with all her mountains of debt and responsibilty for the both of us. She apparently ...
A. 25 February 2010: You are right to feel this way. It's natural, its normal. I know you know that there is stuff between your mum and dad that you will never know, try to understand that relationships never fall apart because of one person's behaviour. But that is ... (read in full...)
Will the tearing of restored hymen hurt?
Q. I am sexually active for 1 year with my ex-bf. I told my current bf that I am a virgin and I gone through the hymen restoration surgery 3 months ago. We plan to have sex next week after a party and I worry he will hurt very bad like my first time. ...
A. 25 February 2010:
Oh honey- If you felt strongly enough about the issue to have surgery, are you sure it is the right thing to have sex with this boy so quickly after getting it done?
Also, I would be very surprised if, after only three months, your body has ful... (read in full...)
Is her water infection problems due to me somehow?
Q. My girlfriend keeps getting a water infection. I know its very common and easily treatable but i was wondering if it had anything to do with me. She first got one in december shortly after we started having regular sex. This was cleared quickly ...
A. 18 February 2010: Hi there- so funny, haven't had one in years but Im off work today because i have a water infection :) Water infections are Extremerly common in girls, and yes, unfortunately, they can be caused by sex. Also stress and dehydration can cause them ... (read in full...)
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