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writes:In September i travelled to Thailand, and met a Thai girl who is 28 (im 22) and the chemistry was there right away i spent the 12 days of my holiday with her and fell in love. A lot of people get perceptions of thai girls who want money and move out of there country. But she has never asked for money nor is desperate to leave thailand. The next 4 months we were constantly in touch every day either by phone, email or msn without fail. The parents were happy for me but didnt really approve. She became pretty obsessed with me, which i kind of like because ive never had it before. Dont get me wrong im not ugly or lonely or desperate for a girlfriend, but this girl i really did fall for. I recently went back to see her for 3 weeks which was amazing, thailand is an amazing place anyway but seeing it with the girl you love really tops it. Everywhere we went people we saying how in love we were and what a good couple we made, i felt great (we did have our times and a few arguements but they were quickly over come). I felt truly in love this holiday. But... before i left she dropped a bomb, she told me she was 38. i was devastated, 22 with a 28 year was a stretch but this felt ridiculous. She is 16 years older then me, but i love her soo much i dont know what to do? So i stuck it out with her for the final days. When we went to the airport there were lots of tears and i have never cried over a woman before. Now im home i cant stop thinking about this. My heart wants her soo badly but my mind keeps reminding me of the age gap. Please i need advice asap.
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reader, chloeapple  +, writes (27 February 2010):
As long as you don't feel betrayed about the initial fib, then go for :) If you feel that you trust her and understand her reasons behind it, then good luck and enjoy the relationship! (my partner is 8 years older than me and we're doing fine:)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso she look quite young........
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are still in contact everyday without fail. She only lied to me because she didnt want to lose me. We have been together for 5 months now, you should see her bedroom wall its plastered with my photos. Thank you very much for your answers i just need some advice, my family are always there but i dont want to lets them know. thanks for the answers.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 February 2010): Sorry, but this is a complete no brainer. If the distance between you and Thailand isn't even an issue, why should age be? Falling head over heels in love is a gift, take it and run with it!
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reader, chloeapple +, writes (26 February 2010):
mmm, i'd be a little concerned at why she fibbed to you, i understand she may have been concerned that it may have scared you off, but doing that robbed you of making your own decision about her from the get go. It may not have altered things at all, but now you'll never know. I would be very concerned about the lying aspect- and what it actually entails.
16 years is a big age gap, and 22 and 38 are at two very different points in life. I would wait it out a little, and see what attempts and efforts she puts in to contacting you. Lying is not a great way to start a new relationship, and while the age gap will mean nothing if you both love each other, its the deception (and a big deception at that, saying you are ten years younger than you are!!!) that should be making you question whether this is a good idea or not.
best of luck :) x
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reader, Faraday +, writes (26 February 2010):
 Don't be so silly! Nothing about her has changed since you found out her true age; you still love her, and a 10-year gap is trivial.If you are that compatible and you think that you can spend the rest of your lives together, then do so.
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