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writes:I don't know how to tell my boyfriend I don't want to take birth control anymore. I don't want to get pregnat. I'm no where near ready for that. I been taking for a year and a half and its starting to make me feel sick. And weak. In reality I never wanted to take it. He didn't want to uses condoms so I, the idiot, agreed. I'm taking birth control pills. I am lucky the pills haven't changed me much. I haven't gained any weight. I just have sleep trouble and am always tired which I really hate. My problem is how to I tell him this. I am afraid of his response. I am afraid. He won't agree to go back to condoms. And go find some one who would agree to not use condoms. he claims it feels better without it. Personally I feel no difference.
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reader, chloeapple  +, writes (1 March 2010):
Talk to him about it, tell him that the pills are really effecting you and you don't want to use them any more. That this doesn't mean you won;t have sex and he'll have to use condoms forever, just that he may have to be patient until you find something that works for you. i understand why he wouldn't like to use condoms, but at the moment, he doesn't have a choice. Yes, the sensation is dulled, but if he'd rather do nothing, thats an option too!
If you do plan on having sex through out your life, it is a good idea to seek out other child protection methods. There are many different kinds of pills you can take if one doesn't sit right with you. There is implenon (the implant) there is an injection, there are modern alternatives to the pill. Lots of women suffer similar side effects, and talk to your doctor about them. Some force the pill down out throats because its the easiest way to protect against pregnancy. Stand your ground, say that you and your partner want to look into alternative birth control options and in the mean time he has to wear condoms. As long as he knows it isn't forever, he shouldn't act like an idiot.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (1 March 2010):
Just be honest with him. If the pill is making you ill, then it's not for you. You just have to be honest, and if he says anything other than 'that's all right' (i.e. moans about it), then perhaps this is not the man for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Do not be afraid talk to him about it your health is what matters.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Just tell him straight to the point and in simple English that you do not want to take those pills because of the inherent side effects that it has upon you .
Be firm about it.
Do not be afraid. If he loves you and cares for you , he will accommodate your request. If he looks for another woman then he is not deserving of you.
Wearing a condom is like taking a bath wearing a rain coat.The sensation is different to a man.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (1 March 2010):
If your boyfriend is a jerk enough to get it from someone else because they're okay with not using condoms, then you really don't need someone like him in the first place. I think you're probably just worrying too much and he'll be a baby about it but he'll get over it. The condoms they're coming out with these days are better than what they used to make. The new ones that are supposed to feel like nothing are the Trojan Ecstacy's and Lifestyle's Skyn condoms.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Just be honest with him. You need o do it now rather than later. If the pill is affecting you this way then stop using it.
He will be disapointed but he will get over it. btw yes it does take away alot of feeling for men, but thats nothing compared to what you are going through.
Id just like to add that the pill isnt guarenteed to work, you can still get pregnant, he really shouldnt be orgasiming inside of you. Its asking for trouble
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Point out that you are being made to chemically mess with your hormones and body which is making you unwell because he wont have a bit of latex on his. Compare what is being asked of each of you and that alone is plenty of reason why any guy who gives a shit about their woman should not be objecting. Never mind the whole protection from STD's issue that should have been reason enough.
If he can't agree to wearing a party hat and spare you the ill repercussions then tell him he is not invited to the party. Simple! If he won;t do it he is not respecting you and is not someone you should want at your party anyway.
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