I deliberately cheated, but now regret it!
Q. I recently made the biggest mistake of my life. A girl I've known since forever (seriously, our mothers are best friends and our grandmothers knew each other). Pretty much by default, it was expected we would eventually get together. Well, we did. ...
A. 12 September 2012: Why are you blaming that "other woman" for something YOU did? The fact that you feel it necessary to call her a "hoe" tells me that you are still deflecting the blame for your own wayward intentions. Admit it - you are not ready to commit ... (read in full...)
I want him to be my first, but I don't want to be too pushy about it. Any suggestions?
Q. Ok, so I've been spending the night with this guy for almost a month now, but we've never had sex. Everything was a very slow process (other than starting to spend the night, which was done just for innocent cuddling). I hadn't even given him head ...
A. 12 September 2012: I notice that you haven't said that he has ever said that he loves you back. That probably means something....something that is very painful and hard to accept. I'm sorry, I really am.
You sound like a very sweet, genuine, caring person who has ... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with a guy who has a girlfriend. I want a bit more but not a relationship, I don't know how to tell him without scaring him off. What do I do?
Q. I just got out an 8 year relationship about 6 months ago and I cant separate my feelings from sex. Ive always considered myself to have a high sex drive, but majority of the time I was in relationships, so I didnt have to have casual sex but I have ...
A. 12 September 2012: It sounds to me like what you want is chaos. Your current situation seems to actually make you happy especially since it isn't very tenable. I suspect that when the s*** hits the fan and your "friend's" girlfriend finds out - and she will - your f... (read in full...)
My wife is more like a room mate
Q. I guess I'll get right to it... I have been married for 6 years and have a 4 yr old daughter. I have known my wife for 18yrs. We started dating when we were both young (21 me, 23 her) and broke up 4 yrs later. Then 6 years after that she was passing ...
A. 10 September 2012: I understand the feeling, I really do. When you feel like there's not much emotional connection to your spouse, but you also know that you're capable of feeling so much more, it's hard to understand how things got to that point. You have been ... (read in full...)
I love my Gf not my ex. What can I say to my Gf when she objects to me talking to my ex?
Q. Ok, a little back story of my ex and I. We practically grew up together starting from middle. We were best friends and soon gravitated to being something more. We've been through a lot together and could never really let eachother completely go. She ...
A. 16 August 2012: Good luck to you then. I know it's not an easy thing, and I feel for you. But I think in time you'll see that this is the best approach. You're not giving up on the friendship with the EX, you're just storing it away for a while until you both can ... (read in full...)
Can you help me understand this?
Q. My ex-husband and I split up he reached the mid-life crisis and went to town, I mean the whole nine yards ....went on dating sites, new car, new clothes, abandoned his family after 21 years of marriage....he has never been the same again, needless ...
A. 16 August 2012: I still don't understand what you are really asking about. The man you describe is clearly being a deadbeat dad, and yet it sounds like you are letting him get away with that. I can't understand why you haven't created any consequences for his ... (read in full...)
We haven't had physical contact since we married, could he be cheating?
Q. i have been married for eight years love my husband to bits but we have not had any physical contact since we got married, is this normal? do you think he is having sex with someone else, i feel like i have turned into his mother, i really feel i ...
A. 16 August 2012: 8 married years with no sex? And no sex since your wedding day? That's not normal. Not only is that not normal, that is downright bizarre. Have you ever had sex with him?
Unless you provide more information, there's no way I can offer any advice. ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but I cannot stand his personality any longer!!
Q. I love my boyfriend so much but I cannot stand his personality anymore. When we first met, it was like a match made in heaven. We are so passionate with each other and I have never been in love with anyone else the way I am now with him. The problem ...
A. 15 August 2012: Very easy - you tell him that you don't want to be in this relationship any more, and that you need to find someone who appreciates you and treats you with respect.
If by some chance he argues that he does appreciate you and treat you with res... (read in full...)
Is hubby into a threesome for us or for him?
Q. Ok so I have been with my husband 6 yrs and loving it. Well our love got a lil boring and we spiced it a lil which worked btw. We had a lil fun with another couple and I think were both ready to just do it with a. Single girl (threesome). I like her ...
A. 15 August 2012: Well of COURSE he's doing it for himself. And you're giving him everything he wants along the way, so no wonder he turns it into a battlefield if you question him on it. If he had to answer honestly, he'd show himself to be as much of the douchebag ... (read in full...)
I love my Gf not my ex. What can I say to my Gf when she objects to me talking to my ex?
Q. Ok, a little back story of my ex and I. We practically grew up together starting from middle. We were best friends and soon gravitated to being something more. We've been through a lot together and could never really let eachother completely go. She ...
A. 15 August 2012: When you say you still talk to your ex "now and then", it's hard to know what you really mean by that. How often is it? A couple times a month? Once a week? Twice a week? If the situation was one where it was clear to both you and your EX that you... (read in full...)
He wants to support me while I job search, Should I let him?
Q. My boyfriend and I lived together, then he got a better job across the country. We miss each other a lot and the distance has been rough. I have only been able to start my job search this month (we've been apart a year). We just signed a lease on an ...
A. 15 August 2012: When I first read this, I wondered whether your concern about being financially dependent on him temporarily was a way for you to hide a deeper concern about whether moving across the country to be with him was really the right decision for you to ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset about planning an abortion?
Q. I just found out I am 4 weeks pregnant. I'm going to have an abortion. I don't feel guilty about it at all, in fact im actually happy about it. Shouldnt I be crying?...
A. 15 August 2012: You feel what you feel. You might ask yourself what the circumstances would have to be which would make you have doubts about going forward with an abortion, if you're really curious.
But I'd say just trust your feelings, and do what you gotta do... (read in full...)
Is it too early to ask my friend turned lover how they feel about me after one week?
Q. Is it wrong to ask where a potential relationship is going after a week...? I've been hanging out with a girl for 6 months and she became what I consider to be my closest friend. Then a week ago we slept with each other after a night out. W...
A. 27 July 2012: You're in this situation where your mind is racing and you don't know what she's thinking, and you don't know what she thinks *you*re* thinking. It's compounded by the fact that you see her at work regularly and you can't broach the topic there, but ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so weird about him?
Q. Its like when were not together i really want to be with him and then when we are together I really don't and I'd rather be everywhere else and partying and with my friends. Sometimes I get this weird feeling and wonder why I'm even with him an...
A. 11 July 2012: It sounds to me like you aren't so much interested in him as you are interested in being in a relationship. Otherwise I think you'd be more enamored of him when he was actually around than you seem to be.
What you long for is simply being able to ... (read in full...)
Will I ever be able to forget what he's done to me?
Q. My boyfriend has beat me more than a couple times before and hasn't in a period of time and has told me he wouldn't ever again but I am scared of him im scared a lot of the time and if he gets really mad at me he threatens to choke me or beat me but ...
A. 11 July 2012: Get out of there, NOW. Do NOT make excuses for him. His promises mean nothing if he hasn't been convicted for his crimes against you AND gone through intense therapy for it. Anything less than that is meaningless, so don't believe him. He is a very ... (read in full...)
I've moved to be with my boyfriend and now I'm depressed thinking I've made a big mistake...help!
Q. Please help! Feel like i'm losing it all :( I will try and make this short. Been together with my boyfriend 11 years we have had our ups and downs. We are compatible for the most part and sex is not an issue. But I have put up with a lot and have...
A. 11 July 2012: You said that he promised to totally commit to this relationship if you moved back in with him. If that's true then he has violated that commitment by making you feel like you are now is indentured servant in the very house you live in. That's not ... (read in full...)
Do men enjoy passionate kisses after marriage?
Q. I've been married for 10 years and when we were dating my husband would kiss me passionately and frequently. Then after the wedding I have spent the last 10 years letting him know it is a part of foreplay that gets me into the mood and that I need ...
A. 9 July 2012: I understand your situation and feel for you. I have likely been a culprit in a situation like this, as I was married for a number of years (it ended in divorce a couple years back). I was probably guilty of not being overly passionate in foreplay ... (read in full...)
Since we got back together the sex isn't as hot!
Q. my gf and I has a passionate beginning for the first year and a half we just couldn't get enough early on I thot I'd die from trying to keep up seemed I was her best lover ever tho, and I learned to build my appetite we had sex 3 or 4...
A. 9 July 2012: You two have resumed the relationship, but it takes time for her to regain the trust in you that she once had. Sure, she can *say* she trusts you again, but deep down it's not so quick and easy, and her actions illustrate that. If she felt truly ... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 really not want to have sex?
Q. I am very concerned about the amount of sex or lack of with my boyfriend of 1.5 appx. he recently moved back home his mom is sick, but I am her caretaker..we dont live together and he didnt really want to move back home he likes his privacy. we ...
A. 9 July 2012: Plenty of men over 40 have healthy sex drives - I'm one of them! By that I mean several times a week...and sometimes a couple times a day! If that's not what you're getting that could mean a number of things. 1) Your guy sounds very distracted by ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hasn't contacted me in three days
Q. Dear Cupid My bf usually never calls. i am the one who always initiates the call. lately he is often hanging up the call saying he is busy when i call him. I got pissed off and told him i wont call him anymore unless he calls me, Its been ...
A. 9 July 2012: It sounds like he's not there for you when you'd like him to be. If he knows how you feel about him not calling you (and it sounds like you've made that plenty clear), and yet he still blows you off like this, maybe it's time to let him go and find ... (read in full...)
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