She now knows I'm older than I said. Shall I leave it a couple of days and drop a note, explaining all to her, under the door or knock?
Q. Thank you for reading. I have been with my girlfriend a year and we have had a great time. My family moved away and they have pretty much been family to me. We have done trips and I really have spolit her and we have been to some great places / g...
A. 31 January 2015: I think she and her family overreacted. Age is just a number. Like how many previous sex partners have you had. Let's say you told her two, she comes to find out a year later you actually had 20? Does that change who she has come to love. Most pe... (read in full...)
When Will the Rose Colored Glasses Come Off?
Q. About 2 weeks ago I posted a question about my son cutting his friends and family out of his life because of a new gf. The verdict was just to give it time and he would come around. Now, here we are, with something that is even more perplexing ...
A. 28 October 2013: I think as a parent you are naturally concernend about your son's choices in life. Be it career path, relationships, friendships ect ect.
I can tell you from personally experience children will grow up and make good and bad decisions in all area... (read in full...)
After two years, he doesn't want kids. This is a different kind of rejection--I am devastated.
Q. I've been in a serious relationship for two years now. The topic of kids has been a back and forth issue for us--it's a stereotype, but here we go- I want children, and always have--he doesn't. He recently made that abundantly clear. After two...
A. 11 October 2013: First you are not being selfish. This is a major life decision. To have children or to not have children. You are not wrong for wanting to start a family, expecially at your age now. Most women approaching 30 feel the same way you do. Now he is... (read in full...)
Happily married men: when did you know you wanted your wife to be your wife?
Q. Question for the happily married men out there : when did you know your wife was "the one?". Did she have to push you to take the next step - or did you ask her? (whether it be moving in, marriage, or baby) I brought up the "next step" (moving ...
A. 4 September 2013: Everybody is going to a different opinion on this question. I have a friend who moved in with his girlfriend after about 6 months, he is 30. The same guy moved in with a different girl back when he was 24 or so after dating her for 3 years. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has cheated on me several times. Is it acceptable for me to have an affair of my own to show her that there are consequences to her behaviour?
Q. My 28yo GF has been with me for 5 years. This is the best relationship either of us have ever had. Its not perfect but we enjoy each other and we are good for each other most of the time. My GF openly says she used to be a huge cheater. Then...
A. 31 August 2013: Break up with her Today! End it once and for all. She has no respect for herself, and has no respect for you. She proved that when the relationship started by cheating on you several times. Then she stopped cheating on you for 4 years, which can... (read in full...)
She forgot that I'd booked a trip for us and made other plans
Q. In March I booked a weekend away for me and my girlfriend, as a gift for her birthday. Now, she knew about it when I booked and apparently wrote it in her diary, the weekend away is next weekend...she's just told me she is now going out that weekend ...
A. 30 August 2013: Confront her, and dump her, she has zero respect for you.... (read in full...)
My husband's friend is coming on to me
Q. I have a big problem and don't know how to handle it. My husband's best friend is putting his moves on me, I don't know what to Do, I already keep my distance but he finds ways to talk to me, he knows exactly how I feel but he doesn't stop harassing ...
A. 13 April 2013: You have already told him how you feel and he still won't take the hint. Time to tell your husband. After your warning to him, if he refused to go away, then you need to tell your husband.
He will deal with this disrespectul friend, who is reall... (read in full...)
Some thoughts on retroactive jealousy
Q. I was thinking about my wife's past (again) and experiencing retroactive jealousy. I'm trying to root this out of me. It is the wise thing to do. Anyhow, I want to know what others going through this think of what I'm about to write. Recen...
A. 16 February 2013: Personally, I don't really believe in retroactive jealousy. But hey, that’s just me. People can be jealous for anything and everything it’s just labelling one more emotion. Humans have emotions for all kinds of reasons. Based on our personal bel... (read in full...)
Is my wife having a mid-life crisis? Is she headed for cheating?
Q. My wife seems to be becomming more and more of a party girl. We both did our fair share of partying, drinking, hooking-up, etc in Highschool and college (before we met). Then came the dog years of building careers and pregnancies. Now that we are ...
A. 5 February 2013: First off let me say that I have been in your shoes before with my wife. She is also very attractive and her entire adult life prior to me had no problem getting attention from men. Without going into long winded detail about it, when we started ... (read in full...)
Should I be more hands on or?
Q. is it better to be a more controlling type bf or a more 'freedom giving' bf ? I ask this because sometimes i get sick and tired of guys flirting/commenting/ and generally being rude disrespectful to my relationship and to my girl (if they flirt o...
A. 20 June 2012: You don't ever want to be controlling. You want to find someone who shares your same viewpoints on the boundaries of a relationship. You are not being insecure in my opinion by not likeing your girlfriend flirting with men. You can not kee... (read in full...)
Guys, how would you feel if an old flame sent you a message on facebook?
Q. This is a question for the guys.. how would you feel if an old flame sent you a message on facebook? just to ask if they had the right person? (am pretty sure it is the right person) Would it be a shock to see an ex after 17 years? I sent a messag...
A. 3 June 2012: I went down this road with my wife. She was contacted my an ex from High School on Facebook after 18years, it actually got innapropriate. At first just a little catching up then the emails got a little flirty him bragging about himself, and then she ... (read in full...)
Best friend hitting on my g/f. Now that she's told me she doesn't want me to confront him
Q. Hi Guys,i am 24 years old and my girlfriend she is 22. My girlfriend of 3 years told me that my best friend lets call him J(who is also a very close friend to my girlfriend,the 3 of us have been friends since we were kids) has been hitting on her,b...
A. 10 May 2012: I would confront him. Let him know! This is completely absurd. Your good friends with him, he tries to hit on your girlfriend so he can hook up with her. He does not value your friendship at all. Dump him now! He is trash....... (read in full...)
My wife got in touch with her first sex partner and sent him a pic of her's in a bikini
Q. My wife and I have been together for 6 years, married for 4 years. My wife has been with between 60 and 70 men between the age of 18 and 30. She had one 3 year relationship during that time. About 90% of her past sexual experiences were just ...
A. 5 April 2012: Thank you to everyone for responding with some great insight. We talked for several hours today and basically got some answers from her. Basically, this was her thinking. He contacted her on Facebook, she would never contact him or anybody els... (read in full...)
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