Can someone love and yet lie to the person that they love?
Q. He cheated while we were dating, and I only found out about it after we got married. Thus, I didn't know he had been unfaithful when he proposed, during the engagment, or during the wedding. He cheated once, and was in touch with the person he ...
A. 24 March 2011: I'm going to go with a different perspective, only because I myself have done something quite similar to your husband. I had been dating my boyfriend for about a year when I met a man who turned my head. What ensued was a two month emotiona... (read in full...)
Confused to what he means!
Q. my boyfriend ed broke up with me today he said he wasn`t ready for a relationship but he kissed me i`m so upset. I don`t know what he means. Does he still love me but don`t want us to be boyfriend and girlfriend just yet? ...
A. 28 June 2010: The best advice I can give you is to accept it gracefully and walk away. I am not saying this wont hurt but it will mean you keep your dignity. If he wants a relationship he will change his mind with space to miss you. If he doesn't want a ... (read in full...)
Let the past be the past? Or warning sign?!
Q. I been with my girl for 1 year,we were having intercourse and she yelled out a name that wasnt mines. I was furious and asked her to explain her self. She told me it was the person she was with prior to me,but that wasnt what borthered me. It was ...
A. 28 June 2010: It is true that if someone has cheated in the past, they could do it again. I am saying that as someone who has cheated on a partner before and I do have to consciously recognise this flaw in myself to stop it from happening again.
Howev... (read in full...)
Why do I feel like I'm settling?
Q. Why is it when we're in a happy relationship we still question, is there any one better out there for us? We get the feeling that we're settling. Which is all well and good but what if we throw away what we had and end up with nothing. Is this the ...
A. 28 June 2010: I think you have just met one of the big hurdles in any relationship. The way to move past it is a simple case of applying examples.
The feeling that one is settling can be argued in two ways, it can be argued as evidence that the relation... (read in full...)
Regretting an awkward text!
Q. Hello, right, I recently came out of a rather abusive long term relationship. Just as the end (a few months ago) I met a man who I have now met up with a few times. He has textedit me every at since we met and has always seemed keen, sometime...
A. 28 June 2010: thank you for all your replies!! I have not heard a peep out of him still but I am comforting myself with the thought that he was nearly a decade older than me and that he is certainly immature if he can't reject me in a polite manner.
I at leas... (read in full...)
I need to know, maybe from a female perspective, if she loves me still or not and what is the best thing to do from here.
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for about three months. A week ago she wrote me a letter telling me that she wasn't ready for a relationship and that I should move on. She explained that this was her first relationship and that she is confused ...
A. 20 May 2010: From a female perspective there are two answers here, as I don't know this girl I will give you both as honestly as possible. I will tell you now though that either outcome means that she still cares for you, even if she doesn't want to be with ... (read in full...)
Should I stay? He has broken up with me 22 times since we first got together.
Q. Ok, I might bullet this to make it clearer I am 23, Female, been with my boyfriend for two and a half years We live and work together in a pub and I am currently finishing my degree He has broken up with me 22 times since we first got to...
A. 20 May 2010: Thank you so much to everyone who responded!! It has been very difficult but I am now ready to end it thanks to all your advice!! Tonight I got called a 'dickhead' for opening up a bag of his sweets and told to 'fuck off' for picking up his ipod. ... (read in full...)
I want to end this friends with benefits situation with my ex?? Suggestions?
Q. Hello, I've been in a physical relationship with my ex boyfriend for the past 3 months. Prior to this we had dated for almost a year, when I decided to break up with him. I did this because I felt my needs were not being met. He was thoughtf...
A. 14 May 2010: Dont say anything until he next contacts you. When he does, say that you are busy and cannot meet up. Cut him off quickly and politely. Do this until he gets the picture.
If this doesn't work, and he pesters you, explain that you don't want to ... (read in full...)
How can I stop her flirting with him?
Q. Im going through a tough time atm. My dog died, my grandad died, i split up with 2 bfs in 2 months, my mates are all falling out and im very delicate. The worst thing is that my best mate has a boyfriend who is perfect for her but he is everything i ...
A. 14 May 2010: Ok, I remember going through this, it sucks but here are a few things I did; Stop acting interested in this boy, he is probably loving the attention and you deserve better than to be pushed away. Don't let anyone push you away, you do not deser... (read in full...)
Is there hope for change or should I just let go?
Q. I found out my bf had lied to me about something very intimate. In the weeks that followed he showed no willingness to talk about it and said very clearly that talking about it makes him feel uncomfortable. The fact that after almost a year or...
A. 14 May 2010: It is difficult to answer this question as you don;t divulge what he lied about. Obviously it is something very personal so lets go on a whim; If the thing he lied about directly involved you or could effect you in an immediate way it is concer... (read in full...)
Clingy or having healthy emotional needs?
Q. How do you determine if a girlfriend is being "clingly" or is just having healthy emotional needs? Where do you draw the line?...
A. 14 May 2010: It is difficult to draw the line as this can only be drawn by you. We are all shaped by previous relationships and sometimes people start a fresh relationship with the same patterns of their last. This could mean that your girlfriends previous ... (read in full...)
He cheated! Will I always be suspicious of him?
Q. Has anyone known of couples who have faced infidelity in their marriage and worked it out? My husband and I have been married for 9 years (together for 16) and he has had a 3 1/2 year affair. We have 2 children together, ages 6 and 4. Is it ...
A. 14 May 2010: I can't comment on a marriage as I have never been married but my last boyfriend cheated on me. I am sorry for what you are going through as I remember the pain myself, as you have children I can imagine this being more complicated than what I have ... (read in full...)
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