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writes:A good friend of mine let’s call him S is going through a very tough, emasculating time. A girlfriend of his made comments to her friends, stating that while she really enjoyed being with him, and that he was a great guy both emotionally and physically, his penis was good bit smaller than her ex’s and that “no amount of orgasms could make up for the fullness.” (the bit that really bothered him. They are still together, he approached her and she denied it saying he was ok, typical girl deflection stuff) I’ve always been the brainer, more scientific one of S and I’s relationship; we’ve been close since early childhood and are currently rooming together at our U. We’ve been through some really tough times; he’s helped me through the death of a family member and some parental abuse, so I feel obligated to help him now. I’ve told him he should just to get therapy, but decided that I could just do some research to help ease his mind. The research I’ve dug up, both online and through some of my biology professors, shows that the average penis is 5-6 inches in length, and between 4.75-5.25 inches in circumference. S tells me his, through his own measurement since becoming self-conscious about it, that his is 6.25 inches in length and exactly 5 in girth. He thinks that, low-balling it, his gf’s ex was 1 inch longer and an inch or so thicker. (7.25x6). I figured that vagina size also played a factor, and though studies on it were scarce, it said that the average “depth” was 5 inches, though, that sex was rather a strictly horizontal or vertical affair, so that if fully aroused, an average vagina could accommodate about 9 inches if filled to capacity. The organ is also 2-2.5 inches wide fully aroused, meaning that a girth of 7 would be about the maximum. I’ve seen tons of posts on here about guys being “too big”, but according to the numbers, a girl, if fully taken care of, can comfortably handle 8x6 relatively easy. When conducting basic Google searches, I noticed that penis size comes up very often on this particular site. I notice that the answers have been largely designed to make the poster feel better, rather than address the question. I have no qualms about my size, being slightly above average, I have no intention of my letting my girlfriend fall into the hands of someone who is equally unselfish, but just better endowed, however, my friend, and after some research me, want some definitive answers. Do not take into account our egos and feelings, I know that this question has an answer that females do not want to give, but that guys, no matter how badly you think we don’t, do need to hear. Putting all socio-sexual norms aside, disregarding any possibility that you will be called a “size queen”, if you went from a nicely above average, but not necessarily huge guy, (7.5x6) to an average guy (6x5), and the sexual skill and emotional attention and attachment were exactly the same, would the sex be better? (I understand that this probably never occurs, just answer it in theory)Please provide an honest answer, no hypotheticals, answers from people who have done this going from average to big, or big to average, provide an answer on your experience. I understand that its ultimately a matter of personal preference, and that everyone has a “fit”, but please, address the question honestly, without regard for my feelings because I assure you, they will be unhurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): OP, you have had enough answers on this thread. Size matters if your penis is 2 inches (i think) but that's it. Being good in bed isn't about penis size! If you know what you're doing and know what your boyfriend or girlfriend wants then you're all set. Can we drop it now?
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (17 February 2011):
 My goodness, why no earth are you men so worried about penis size? There aren't half as many women concerned about their breast size and that's something that everyone can see without getting naked! Frankly, i have never measured or been told the actual size of any of the guys i've been with. I can't even remember the size or how they looked on most of my ex's. Perhaps because i dont want to. As far as i'm concerned my hubby has the best penis for me and we've had the best sex compared to anyone i've been with. I have no idea of his measurement except that its likely above average as my two hands can grasp it. Sometimes it feels too big but mostly its perfect. I'm pretty sure he's the biggest i've had but like i said i have never measured. I know one of my exs was below average, couldn't feel a thing. Didn't help that he wasn't interested in trying. Beyond that, i dont know and nor do i care. Your friends gf is clearly a shallow b#@ch who cares nothing for him and hence he should break up with her and find someone a bit nicer. And as for your question if two men were equally good in bed but one was bigger, i'd probably pick the guy that i got along with more then caring about dick size. Your mate sounds like he 's got enough to please most women, he's not tiny so whats the big deal. If his gf is so interested in feeling ' full' perhaps she should get a large dildo or try two guys. From what i understand that would certainly 'fill' her. Generally speaking from my perspective and my good friends, if its average and he knows what he's doing it'll be good. Seriously stop worrying about it
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reader, Nime +, writes (17 February 2011):
 "my chiefest question went totally unanswered: If two men have equal performance, is the man with the significantly larger member better? Do most women feel less pleasure going from big to average?"Ok, I'll answer you. It's not a good question, because every woman is different. Some women need to be touched, even touched roughly, in a place (clitoris, nipples, g-spot, for instance) to orgasm whereas other women can't stand more than a feather-light touch, or to be touched at all in that area. What feels good for one woman doesn't necessarily feel good for another. How does this apply to penis size? You, or Birdman, I'm unsure who the OP is, made an assumption that all women love to be 'filled' by a big penis, just because they are physically capable of taking one. Me, I'm uncomfortable with a larger than average penis. My lower abdomen is in too much pain the next day; sometimes I'm even a little sore with my boyfriend, who is exactly average. I PREFER an average penis to an above average one. Many women also have trouble lubricating naturally, especially if they're on a hormonal birth control like the pill, so for these women a bigger penis can be very painful and chafing, in addition to causing cervical pain. There are plenty of reasons why a woman would prefer average to large, or large to average, but the take-home point here is there is no way to tell what will feel good for a woman until you've been with her. But of course you're not going to listen to what any of the women here are saying because you only want us to confirm YOUR beliefs about how women feel. You don't want to know what we really think, you just want to be right.
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reader, Quirky One-Eye +, writes (17 February 2011):
A couple of things:With regard to addressing (I'm a guy and cannot "answer" within the confines of the criteria given) the OP, whether size matters or not is kind of a yes-and-no territory.To some women it's ALL that matters.Others really couldn't give a rat's backside about his size (within reason) so long as it's attached to a good man.What your pal's girlfriend did and said was deplorable and he needs to get rid of her ASAP because no, this particular demon is not going to go away, it's just not. Further, she's demonstrated her utter lack of trustworthiness by discussing your friend's size with ANYONE while she's seeing him. I know people talk all the time but putting figures on something like that among people who KNOW a person -- it's beyond wrong.That being said, let's address some issues guys have with size and whether it matters:- WOMEN ARE NOT ALL THE SAME DOWN THEREIn much the same way men are longer or shorter, thicker or thinner, not to mention the whole conundrum of grower-versus-shower (that's right, ladies, some guys shrink a LOT and grow a LOT, with others what you see IS what you get), so women vary down there. Some are deep, some are shallow (there, not necessarily in their personalities); some are wide, some are narrow, loose, tight, etc.I'm average to just above in size and I've been with women for whom I was nearly too big... and I've been with women where *I* was asking myself "Geez, am I IN yet?!?"A woman has five main areas on which a guy of ANY size can focus and she'll have orgasms.1. Her brain -- there IS no substitute for arousing a woman mentally, emotionally and THEN physically. Seduction and foreplay don't begin an hour before sex, they begin a good 8-10 hours before sex with glances, flirtations, sweet nothings, calling her up to say you're thinking of her, a light, playful slap on the backside, etc. Seduce her mind and the rest WILL follow.2. Her SKIN -- the largest organ is often the most neglected. Touch her, caress her; learn your way around her skin and sensitive areas and she'll already be wet by the time you get to...3. Her clitoris -- LEARN TO WORK IT, and that doesn't mean "harder is better". Learn the art of the gentlest touch and the art of the smallest circle, and you WILL have her amazingly aroused and probably deliver several small orgasms before you ever touch her with whatever size you are.4. Her G-spot -- learn what it is and where (curl your finger up inside her, touching the spot behind the clitoris -- that rough, quarter-sized area is her G-spot) and how to operate it both manually and with your Happy Stick.5. Her A-spot -- this is the ONE area where size begins to really matter because you have to be able to reach this one to do anything with it. It's downward and toward the back, in a bit of a "saddle". Look it up and once more, learn how to reach it IF you can, and the size question may be hers, not yours (but it could be yours, not hers, too).______2. A woman above asked WHY men get bent out of shape over this, and the answer, darlin', is because ENOUGH women out there tell us it matters that we go and do something silly like believe them right away rather than doing our research and learning to ignore the ones who DO seem focused on Mr. Happy.It's simple human nature to feel potentially insecure in some area, and when one does it's easier to allow negative comments or disdain to REINFORCE one's already-present fears than it is to push those fears aside and overcome them.It's also a very real difference between men and women. YOU think men are downright silly for worrying over this? You're right... but WE think you're silly for worrying over whether he loved some woman in his past MORE than he loves you. Why? Because women aren't as bent out of shape over size as men but they ARE more bent out of shape over emotional bonds and ties -- so they don't see it as a big deal to let slip that an ex who was just AWFUL was also just ENORMOUS and will try to reassure a down-and-out guy with comments like "No, it's okay -- I LOVE you, he had nothing more than GREAT SEX going for him!"And she'll really mean it, too.But she'll see it as awful should he speak of an ex and get a gleam in his eye that she never saw him have for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): "it just makes sense that a bigger penis that fits would feel better, something worth BRAGGING about as one earlier poster said."Who thinks that makes sense? I know this is harder for men to realize, but they can try.Go buy a bunch of dildos, of all sizes, and then go home and stick them up your anus.Which one feels best?Is larger always better?Take 100 men and repeat.Take 100 homosexual men and repeat.Some of the men will lie, some will tell the truth, and some will like it not at all, and some will like the biggest and some will like the smaller ones. Some will like them all.Heck, some women don't even like sex, let alone large penises.What really matters is what the woman you are with likes, and why she likes it. It could be that your friend likes large ones because she is all screwed up mentally and is a lousy lover. Which, I might add, is frightfully common in women (as well as men). Women, and a lot of them, don't know how to handle a man, of any size, and think that moaning and acting like a porn star, is good sex. Christ's sake, sex is a joint proposition if you are in bed with someone.Now, I hope my penis doesn't fall off because I said all this.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (17 February 2011):
 Ok original OP you are clearly a bonehead. Your original question has NOT gone unanswered. Women in general are not less satisfied having gone from a big docked man to an average one. If she could accommodate a guys large penis an average one is adequate too.The bottom line is women do not date a penis they date a man. If he has a very tiny member and she herself does not have a tiny vagina then she may find that to be a deal breaker but if she is a woman who can't have orgasms through penetration then more than likely itvwon't matter to her.I have had several long term relationships with average to above average penis and not one did I choose for the size of his penis. There are women who do but they aren't in the majority.There is no right answer to your question. Now please stop accusing women of lying and find something bigger than your penis and more profound to yor life and relationships to think about or this questioning of this will forever hold you back.The girlfriend who talked about your friend's member has an equally small mind so who gives a rats ass what she thinks about it. That's her and her alone she's moronic.
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (17 February 2011):
 lol dirtball you have a bizarre fascination with pirates.
But then again, I'd rather talk about pirates than listen to a few bitter sounding guys hell bent on uncovering a universally secret woman's conspiracy that even if it did exist, it wouldn't apply to a large proportion of women anyways.
Seriously, this insecurity is getting ridiculous... Who the hell cares if your long john is smaller than peg-legs' over there?? Fragile ego much?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): Ok I think the reason why you are not getting the answer you want is because women are far less obsessed about penis size than men are, so when you say all things being equal, which man would you choose purely based on penis size the answer is, i think for most women, we really don't put that much importance on it because women are much more emotionally driven than men. Beyond the extremes of size, honestly the average woman doesn't really think about that. I think it is just hard for men to believe this because men are so much more driven by physical and visual cues than women are. And why do men obsess so much about something that cannot be changed? If guys really want to rock a woman in bed, it's about foreplay, and above all making an emotional connection as well as a physical one. Sex is ultimately mental so you cannot over simplify this and boil it down to body parts for most women.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): To Pirate, you assume women get excited by looking at naked penises, if this were the case there would be a huge demand for naked heterosexual male photos. There isn't, really, that's the male slant on this. You're assuming women are wired in the same way as men. We are not. Once you get that on board you might have a shot at being a decent lover but if you don't and you think that a woman gets off on the same visual stimulation that you do, you are going to have a very disappointing sex life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): You're so off the mark, you think that sex for a woman is about your penis. Size might matter if sex was static and the penis inserted was the only thing that caused sensation. The thing is that sex is not static, you move in and out (if you're the person with the penis) and the orifice in question, the vagina, grows and shrinks depending on hormones, time of month, arousal state. So a large penis can feel like bleh meh so what if the guy doesn't really move well or match his motions to yours. A smaller penis can feel like woohoo do THAT again please that was GREAT! Average is the best because most women are average and want average size. Large is interesting to look at but it is too big to be comfortable in vigorous intercourse. Having the cervix hit hurts and can cause nausea. Odds is right. You have what you have and there's no point in trying to triangulate the ideal penis size if you're not going to measure up. I feel a bit sorry for your future sex partners. You're not going to be trying to find what pleases them. You're going to be trying to figure out if they like your penis enough. That will truly detract from their pleasure.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (17 February 2011):
 Argh matey! Ye be packin' an anchor in ye britches!!!
LMAO! Sorry, I just loved the fact that a guy named Pirate was describing his penis.
Now, back to your regularly scheduled thread.
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reader, Birdman21 +, writes (17 February 2011):
LMAO, where was this honesty 7 hours go? is this what you women have been hiding behind?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): If you are looking for some exact one size fits all preference about size, go measure a dildo. They sell for a reason and the companies that sell them do extensive research and listen to feedback from women. I'll save you that experience and let you know sex toys come in all shapes and sizes, meaning different women prefer different things based on size, curve, hardness, sensitivity, pressure, duration, and aesthetic value. That's why you are getting different answers is because you don't understand women sexually and that women are all designed a bit differently so what gives them the most pleasure is a combination of things. Some don't feel a thing during intercourse and couldn't tell you if someone was 3 inches or 8 inches. Most average women can't even tell an inch or two difference. Please get educated on the female body.
By the way, sex is a mental thing ultimately and you are missing that too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): OK, I will ask about me, since I am completely selfish, and a "little fucked up" as someone else put it :)...
I am 6 inches on a good day and 5 1/2 girth average so not a pencil dick by any means, but no coke can either. I have a nice shaped head. Not small not a helmet. I am OK with my girth, and grateful for it because it seems to matter most, but wished I had another inch or so to look, well, more manly.
Ladies...if you saw a cock like I described, and it was attached to a romantic, passionate, cute (so I'm told) guy, would you be as aroused as a hot guy with an 8 incher?
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (17 February 2011):
 Fine, based out of my own experience I have been with a fully erect large penis. This gentleman did indeed know how to use it. Some of the best sex I have had. Now going from a large member back down to average, the sex was still good but not as pleasing as the well endowed man. Sure the large penis was great but he wasn't relationship material.
After a year, I had forgotten about the large penis and adjusted back down to average. Fast forward to my husband who has a little above average penis, again some of the best sex I have had. In fact as good as the sex with the large penis from the past. Yes, I would say it was better because his performance was a bit better than the well endowed one. So a well endowed man doesn't necessarily put an average to a lil above average man to shame.
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reader, DirkNowitz +, writes (17 February 2011):
DirkNowitz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust as I stated, while an informed discussion on penis size occurred here, my chiefest question went totally unanswered: If two men have equal performance, is the man with the significantly larger member better? Do most women feel less pleasure going from big to average? That was the question. Not is average acceptable, because according to the posters, most women have never been with a functionally erect large penis. All the talk is of the big guy "not knowing how to use it", well what happens when he does? Does he put the average guy to shame?
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reader, Birdman21 +, writes (17 February 2011):
So, an average size penis and above average sized penis are exactly the same for most women if used correctly? That doesn't seem right. it just makes sense that a bigger penis that fits would feel better, something worth BRAGGING about as one earlier poster said.
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reader, halawlaw  +, writes (17 February 2011):
i think he should enlarge hes penis and dump hes girlfriend even do it while he still with her so she see it grows and be very happy and that suddenly he will dump her,, and even if she tell her friends about it she will findout that shes the one that left socky
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reader, Odds +, writes (17 February 2011):
 The way I see it, there is aboslutely nothing you can do about your size. If you're three inches, you're three inches - learn to use it. If you're ten inches, you're ten inches - I hope you are actually capable of getting a full erection. Either way, more power to you.
The only problems worth putting thought to are those that you can affect in some way. You can improve your technique, you can dump a blabbermouthed trollop, you can trim your pubes to make it look bigger under the right light - but you can't change your package, so stop worrying about it.
Some women care, some don't, but enough of them lie about it that surveys are worthless. Short of setting up a controlled experiment measuring their physiological response to different penises, you will never get the truth. For that matter, same logic applies to surveys about penis length - only way to know the average is get a lot of guys to drop trou and be measured.
Just dump any girl who makes an issue of it - same as I would expect them to dump any guy who complains that they aren't tight enough.
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reader, charliesdevil73 +, writes (17 February 2011):
 Yes, size does matter to an extent. Average or close to it is great. By the way, I say average is 6 inches and I don't know the exact inches for girth, I go by how my fingers overlap when I hold it when it's hard. If they overlap a little, that's fine. A lot of overlap and I'm gone. At the same time, if my fingers don't even touch, we have a problem. That's too big.
I think it also depends on the woman. Honestly. I have met many women that say size doesn't matter to them. But, they could be satisfied with sex once or twice a month and they don't get off during intercourse, just the foreplay actions. In that case, they would be truthful in saying size doesn't matter. You also have to know, there are a lot of women that don't get off the majority of the time during intercourse. So don't knock it if a woman tells you size doesn't matter to her, just know you will probably have to put in some extra effort to please her.
If you get women like me, on the other hand, who likes sex on a very regular basis, have multiple G-spots, can get off in almost any position (intercourse or foreplay), we WILL care about size. If it is too small or way too big, it is hard to feel sometimes during sex. But, figuring out what is the perfect size for your vagina and then finding it awesome.
Just a little side question...why do men seem to be so obsessed with issue? I mean, my fiance isn't worried about his size, but he told me one day he thought he was small. I almost died from shock. What's the big deal about comparing size? I just don't get it.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (17 February 2011):
 hi
regardless of the size specifications you have listed and regardless of what us aunts think, i think your mates problem is less about size and more about the heartless individual who calls her self his girlfriend! why is she not dumped already??
but in answer to the question, yes size matters to a certain extent (in my personal opinion) but i think that your friend has nothing to worry about. a nice girl would be happy with that and would not feel the need to bitch about him to her friends
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): *sigh* if you're bad in bed, you're bad in bed. If you're hung like a horse but have no idea how to use it, then what's the point? Yes, maybe if you were miniscul in size it might make a difference but sex isn't just about a penis, there are a lot of other factors involved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): To be honest, Iv seen above average, well below average and just simply average. My initial reaction to the below average guy was shock and then holding back the laughter. And there was much less feeling for me yes and the sex was pretty dull due to only a couple of positions allowing me to feel him.
After being with a larger man, If I love somebody I'll still lust after them with an average size penis. However as shallow as it may sound I would never go for a below average guy again since it was just a disappointment. He also had severe self esteem issues and I think his size did play a part.
It's not the size it's what you do with it- true, aslong as there is enough there to do something with.
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reader, Nime +, writes (16 February 2011):
This question is so annoying. It's like men just refuse to GET IT. Any man who has to ask if size really matters to women just isn't good in bed, I can tell you that right now. They don't know what they're doing and they don't know anything about women.
I also totally agree with chigirl; I suspect your friend's girlfriend (rudely and wrongly) complained about your friend's package because he's no good (lazy, selfish and/or inept) in bed.
Lastly, ok, you wanted total honesty, so you'd better not rate me poorly for this:
If I had to design the perfect penis for my perfect guy? Honestly, it would probably be an average-sized penis. But if I had to choose between a lazy lover with a small or average penis and a lazy lover with a large penis, I'd take the large out of spite. There's no way I'd put up with indolence or arrogance in bed from someone who isn't packing something worth bragging about. I think what your friend's girlfriend did is an AWFUL thing, but I can in some way see how she might feel insulted at being neglected in bed by a guy who isn't even hung well. It's kind of like being a hot girl getting hit on by ugly short guys: how dare you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): I had to laugh about the comment below that "society forces women to lie about these things."
Good lord. I already think many women don't take enough responsbility for their actions and blame everything on the evil male-dominated society too much. Hearing stuff like that just confirms my negative ideas about women even more.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 February 2011):
Now, now Birdman..our poster wanted honest answers that aren't sugarcoated. I gave an honest answer.
If you scroll down to my first post and actually read it, I state that I am perfectly happy with my husband's a little above average penis. I just don't do below average.
Also I specify that "size queens" don't have a handy dandy pocket tape measure to make sure our judgment is correct, so the penis is compared to innate objects.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Sorry for all the posts... but yours were so long that I forgot to answer all your questions, and I probably still haven't yet. However, your last question was if, hypothetically, I have the option of choosing what size I'd prefer for my otherwise "perfect man". If I'd want him average, upper-average or so on?
And, not to brag... But I have great sex with most any penis. The only penis I've not been able to work was a guy that was really hung. His problem was he couldn't get it hard enough, not that it mattered much, it physically wouldn't fit. I've had thick, long, small, bent up and down and sideways, big head, small head, bumps, you name it. Maybe Im just great in bed, or maybe Im a great teacher, but I have good sex either way. All sizes and shapes have their ups and downs. There's no penis that really feels the same, they are all shapes differently even if they are the same length etc. If one position worked great with one guy who was larger, then another position that wasn't possible with the larger guy would work wonders with a smaller one.
It's like asking me to pick one great thing over the other. I love penises either way. And if the man knows how to work what he's got then you wont hear me complaining. You guys come here with these questions and now Im starting to think if Im just the odd one here who can have great sex with any type of penis.
And maybe Im weird, but I've never felt any satisfaction from any "fullness" really. My nerves and sensitive spots aren't located along the vagina walls I guess, but around the opening and then at the very back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): "between a man with skills in bed and a man without skills in bed"
It takes two people who don't know what they are doing to be lousy sex partners, really. Need proof, take a vibrator, see what it does if it is left in bed without any assistance from the partner.
Pretty much nothing, no matter how big, or how small it is.
Yet, same vibrator, with a woman who knows how to give it direction can give mind altering orgasms.
Also, when you look at answers on here, you are getting them from people that are pretty fucked up in general...we are on a website answering people's questions...this is not "normal" behavior.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (16 February 2011):
And Ohgetreal might want to correct it themselves, but I think what they meant was that some women haven't experienced the difference between a man with skills in bed and a man without skills in bed.
Most likely you know, your friend isn't unsatisfying because of his size. He's probably just not good in bed... yet. Needs more practice. But don't tell him I said that, the poor guy needs someone to boost his self esteem, not tear it down even more.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (16 February 2011):
If she's commenting and complaining about her mans penis to the entire world then what she lacks isn't a fulfilling sex life, what she lacks is respect. I fully understand talking to your best friends about sex, it's a great way to share experiences and get advice. But telling everyone loud and clear is going way out of whats appropriate.
In addition, if she actually cared about her man she wouldn't be unsatisfied with his penis. Such a statement implies that she lays back and waits for the guy to do all the work. Being lazy herself. If she actually cared about her man she'd be too busy having great sex and figuring out how to enjoy it to the fullest to complain about it.
And no, average sized penises usually do more than ok. It's how you use it that matters!!! If she's not pleased then.. like I said... she must be really wide down there. Women come in different sizes too, and curves and shapes, just like men. However what one man lacks in one area he tends to excel at in others.
Just one last thing. A really tiny penis doesn't do much. It can, if you work it real well. But it won't do much firework for a lady. But now we're talking small as in well below average. BUT! There's another but... even then, if the woman loves him, they CAN work something out. In most cases at least. I once had a tiny guy. I make fun of it in retrospect, but we didn't have bad sex just because he was small. And I mean small, he was the size of a thumb.
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reader, Birdman21 +, writes (16 February 2011):
So tennisstar, Your a size queen. What about a guy with an average sized dong (6x5)? is he too small for you? The OP is asking about the comparison between average and largely-above average, not small and huge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): Yes if it's very small and you've had bigger youdo miss the feel of it being bigger. Definitely is a factor for me.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 February 2011):
Actually mine isn't vague, I precisely state that I am what you call a size queen. Size matters to me. You wanted honesty, that's being honest.
Sure, the aunts do care a bit about the poster, but we have a ton of aunts who tell the truth. I usually stay away from the size questions because they're over done. (However I do like yours) No matter what the aunts say "No size doesn't matter, or yes size matters." Guys still aren't happy with what we say. The insecurity about your member won't stop.
When in all actuality, it doesn't matter what the anon, virtual aunts on this website say, really you should be asking your girlfriend/love interest/spouse/etc. what their preference is. Every woman is different. Like I said in my general second comment, you're NEVER going to get a straight factual percentage on what women size matters to versus the one who could care less and think it's more about what you do with it.
Bottom line your answer is yes and no, and it will continue to stay that way.
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reader, DirkNowitz +, writes (16 February 2011):
DirkNowitz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts good to have an expert on the subject on here. I said the stats were an average, according to one German study with a small sample or 750 women, probably inaccurate.
You stated that some women simply haven't experienced the difference between small-average average-large small-large. In this case, my friends girl has. You are saying that women may or may not enjoy the difference but that some most likely would, correct? Almost closet size queens?
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (16 February 2011):
These kinds of questions are very annoying and the rigid way you want it answered even more so.
On a strictly size basis according to a female gynecologist who has written a book about sex you are somewhat inaccurate about the female vagina. Not all women have the same size vagina. The vagina can be as little as two inches deep to about nine and not all women with shorter vaginas will accommodate a nine inch member and some women are quite long and large. So size does matter as some men will simply not fit inside a woman and may be painful to her...so it can work both ways. The old saying there is a lid for every pot is true. Still as a preference it depends on the woman and it depends on how well the two of them are skilled at sex so technique trumps size all the time some women just haven"t experienced the difference
I think it's kind of a dumb question really but now you know your info on vaginas is according to doctor's inaccurate.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 February 2011):
Tennisstar, I never knew! LMAO!!!
You know, I think one of my college professors said it best. "The very nice thing about the vagina is that it's adjustable. It's made to accomodate not just the penis, but a baby passing through it. It can shrink and expand as necessary. Guys, your size really doesn't matter."
That class was a lot of fun. Being of average size myself, I have never received complaints. I know I've been with girls who had been with men far larger than myself. Hell, a couple even told me how painful a large guy can be.
Does size matter? Not in most cases unless you're far below average. Some women have preferences, just like some men will only date women with certain size breasts. The thing is, the more this dominates their decision, the more obvious it becomes that they will be shallow in other areas of their relationships as well. At least, that's what it tells me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 February 2011): Women don't care, yeah if they had to choose between two identical they'd probably take the bigger guy, the bigger schlong fills more space and feels better its basically a better tool, but they'll take the nicer, more passionate guy with the average one over a larger one on a douchebag any day.
Tell your friend that the girl is with HIM now, so there must have been something wrong with the original guy. So what if she misses the horse-cock, she can buy a dildo with those exact dimensions or more.
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reader, DirkNowitz +, writes (16 February 2011):
DirkNowitz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionResponding to Tennisstar, I have to agree that women are indeed untruthful about such things, society has forced them to be that way. And the majority of aunts, being on this site, obviously care at least a little bit about the feelings of the person answering the question. The asker of most of the site's size questions have been males with average, low-average, to below average penises, so yes, the aunts WILL lie to make the males feel better. I want a straight answer, and yours is vague at best.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 February 2011):
Might I add you're never going to get a straight answer statistics wise on whether it does or doesn't matter to women. Maybe it's 50/50, 75/25, who knows? Some women will lie, others tell the truth.
I will say majority of the aunts on this site are telling the truth, why lie when we don't even know you? If we're saying the same thing over and over, then perhaps guys should listen.
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reader, viccra78 +, writes (16 February 2011):
Out of the last 2 men that I have been with they were pretty much the same in size, I'd say 7x5 and I loved sex with one because he was a better kisser and it was just more enjoyable versus the other.
My opinion is that size doesn't matter but rather the whole package.
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reader, Birdman21 +, writes (16 February 2011):
Also, backing up my last post, ( I feel this guy's paranoid big time), I think less than .5 percent of guys have more than 8 or 9. hes asking if going from 8 to 6 is noticeably different.
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reader, Birdman21 +, writes (16 February 2011):
Again, my question was if we assume that the two guys are equal in technique, passion and desirability. Your assuming that the techniques are the same, though I appreciate your attempt to make the average man feel better.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (16 February 2011):
I thought these questions died down...
Yes (to me at least) and I'm sure there are more women out there like that.
I will shy away from a below average penis. It's not like I carry a pocket tape measure around so I have to eyeball it. If it's looking more like a Vienna sausage instead of say a cucumber then I can't work with it. Also if the girth is below average, pencil dick that's a no too. Then again, I can't work with the guys who have a 12 inch summer sausage in their pants. Like you said we can only accommodate 9 inches. I usually have sex once before I officially start dating to make sure everything is peachy in bed. If I found out he's packing too small for my likings that will be the last time I have sex with him. Call me shallow, but it's a deal breaker. Now, that I'm married and my husband's size is sufficient (you could say he's average, to a little above) I don't have that issue anymore.
So for me and other women size does matter. Keep in mind we're guesstimating the size.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (16 February 2011):
I can't answer your question for obvious reasons. But I couldn't help posting that her girlfriend is a b*tch. And I don't think she loves your friend.
Furthermore, you have to understand that you will need a lot of answer to reach a conclusion. Because each girl's answer here will be different. Besides penis and vagina sizes, brain is a sexual factor too. And a girl being with a guy smaller than her ex, can have more pleasure because her mind makes her feel better with the new guy.
In the end, your research is good but it won't help your friend. Since his girlfriend get less pleasure from him than from her ex-boyfriend. And she is already telling everybody this. Which show she doesn't respect him.
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reader, authenticgal +, writes (16 February 2011):
Honestly, I don't know or care (atm) because I am not sexually active yet. However, if all she cares about is HER own pleasure, then dump her. Besides, you also said that she is immature and insensitive for making such comment. Dump her.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Well first off, the woman showed VERY poor judgement in talking about her bf's size to anyone (except possibly her doctor or therapist, if she's in therapy). Not only that but she apparently didn't even stick to telling just one friend........though even that was bad enough.
I would say it isn't the size that matters but the skill the man brings to lovemaking, his techniques, are what can make a big (no pun intended!) difference to sex.
So yes, my husband (I'm widowed) was "average" and someone I dated subsequently was quite small. Cannot honestly say that I really noticed a great deal of difference.......of course, how she feels emotionally about him counts for quite a lot.......
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reader, Nime +, writes (16 February 2011):
"I notice that the answers have been largely designed to make the poster feel better, rather than address the question. "
You obviously didn't really read the responses in those threads, because many women were honestly answering with what is comfortable for their own anatomy, and how they, as females, are truly able to 'get off'; how female sexuality works. I have been a poster in these threads and I remember very little coddling without addressing the issue going on from the women...
This is why we keep getting this same question over and over: none of you men really listen to what we're saying.
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reader, DirkNowitz +, writes (16 February 2011):
DirkNowitz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLet me add that I am aware that his girlfriend is insensitive and immature for making such a comment. Maybe she opened a door that males weren't meant to walk into. The fact is that the comment was made, and now there are questions. Please spare me the insults, I've already told him he should tell her how he feels and if she insults him, just dump her. He already approached her and she denied it so obviously there are trust issues. No relationship feedback, shes not my girl, this is an anatomy question.
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