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writes:hello I have a question and I feel so confused I've had this bf for 7 yrs; we do not live together I'm 30 hes 42 i loved him with all my heart and soul. He went away to another state for work and came back after almost 2 yrs while he was out of state he had little to no contact with me. I had no way of contacting him and now hes back I've seen him once on jan31 and we had sex but i did not feel the magic like before and now I see him it feels like hes not the same person I think I even see him to old for me.My question is do I still love him? I don't wanna be with another man it's just like if he's someone else....please help me understand what I'm feeling here..I hope I made sense here. Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2011): well, i think you should be honest and tell him about whatever you feel and if he feels the same then perhaps you guys shoud consider breaking up and if he is willing to try again and again then you guys should try your best to work it out...
and best of luck
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reader, halawlaw  +, writes (17 February 2011):
already in the begining i knew what you are talking about and what will be the problem. well. the fact he left makes it somekind of seperation. it obviesly weaked the relationship somehow. and made the fact hes beind older then you so much being more clearer. i dont think before he left you didnt somehow considered 2 years from there if he wasnt flying to be so critical. for him on the other hand it was still the same love. so it was hard for you to get in the full love picture.. i think you should treat it in a way that you still miss him and from there see...
and maby you can understand how you actually can feel you can be with other guys..if you will relate to the situation you can get some answer.. try to raise outside expression of your worries and see how your write or wrong and see he can! understand you. !godspeed!
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (16 February 2011):
 Well if you don't know how are we strangers to know we don't know either of you.
All I have to offer is that he wasn't thinking about you for the last two years and the first time you see him you have sex with him. How smart is that? Why are you hung up on this guy after two years? He left you moved away and did not give you a way to contact him and now he's back like a bad penny? Was he in jail? That's my guess. This relationship is over so naturally it isn't going to come Rudi g back but you both are rushing things. Get reacquainted or decide to move on for good. Yes I can see why you think he's too old for you...so maybe he really is too old. Something wrong here that you're not telling.
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