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Why can't a man take me further than my bed?

Q.   Just because I have huge boobs, a small waist and so I have been told a pretty face, can't a man take me further than my bed????I want a partner not just sex.What is their problem or is it mine????...

A.   24 July 2011: Context and what you demand will in part get a man to not see you only as a bed partner. As older woman we must be especially careful not to be thought of as sex-desperate... As most sexual-only liaisons rarely go beyond that. CONTEXT and CONTENT ... (read in full...)

How can I squirt when I climax?

Q.   I've seen porn and couldn't help but notice that some girls on there squirt while they orgasm. They squirt sometimes through the clit and sometimes through their vaginal hole. I'm still a teen and a virgin so I don't know how I can do this. I've ...

A.   24 July 2011: Ignore much of what you see in porn which often makes what on 'some' experience appear that EVERYONE does.... (read in full...)

Why does my vagina dry up after orgasm?

Q.   why does my vagina dry up after orgasm?...

A.   10 July 2011: Liquid Silk lube is great. Convenient pump bottle. Does not stain up sheets. Water-based!... (read in full...)

In my case, I hope curiosity doesn't kill my pussy......cat.

Q.   Just out of curiosity, please tell me if what I'm feeling is normal. I'm 51, by the way. This past year I've been feeling so very horny, I mean, I want sex all the time!! The slightest thing seems to turn me on. It could be triggered by som...

A.   10 July 2011: Increase libido is not unusual at peri- and full menopause time. I am experiencing it. I'm not down for swinging and prefer a monogamous relationship. I have a friend my age and we get together and it is great! I am (we're) less inhibited and feel ... (read in full...)

Does watching lesbian porn mean I'm a lesbian?

Q.   Dear people Lately I've been thinking about my sexual orientation. I used to watch porn and I stopped because I hated it and I felt disgusted every time I do it. I watched lesbian porn and I felt aroused. But I HATED it afterwards. lesbian sex...

A.   4 July 2011: All is 'tolerated' today. However, if you do not want to view or think about the homosexual option (as many simply describe it) then avoid lesbian porn. Sure, your body may respond, but if your mind, spirit and heart are in conflict you must add... (read in full...)

Does a relationship work if 2 cheaters get together?

Q.   Can a relationship work if both people have cheated to be together? Will it have a happy ending or not and how long roughly do cheaters stay together before things start to go wrong? ...

A.   3 July 2011: It could 'possibly' work if both parties are not happy about their circumstances of being cheaters, and are open to really talk about what lead them to cheat. In other words, if they DID think 'cheating' was wrong and problematic and they ... (read in full...)

How does a lover determine the loving is very successfully satisfying a woman?

Q.   hello everyone. my question is mainly for females but its okay to have different point of views, i just want to know how can a lover really make sure that the girl is enjoying sex with the lover ?! how does a man determine or know that she really l...

A.   3 July 2011: A good, attentive lover will observe and ask about how a woman feels and responds. He will ask for her feed back as to what turns her on or off. Chemistry, love and affection go along way as well.... (read in full...)

Ethnicity Problems

Q.   I am a 16 year old boy. I have a big problem with my ethnicity/background. I was born in Sweden and lived there for a few years, my mother is Swedish, then I moved to Canada. My father is Nigerian-African. However, I have a much closer connection to ...

A.   27 June 2011: I am black living in the states and have some white European blood in my lineage ala my maternal grand parents. It is not uncommon as an American to have white blood in ones family lineage. Additionally, I have bi-racial members in my immediat... (read in full...)

I really want to get pregnant -- should I?

Q.   I want to get pregnant but I know I'm young... I'll be 17 in two months and I've been in this relationship for almost three years. My boyfriend is in the Navy and I love him very very much. We've had a miscariage and it hurt both of us very badly...

A.   24 June 2011: Greetings to you... It could be that you two are mourning your lost child and that is influencing you to desire to have another child right away. As others have said, do not rush into having a child without a stronger long-term foundation. Compl... (read in full...)

Can open relationships ever work?

Q.   right, so I am a bloke with a massive attraction to this girl. she gorgeous and smart and funny and lovely and SINGLE and SHE LIKES ME...well, you know that with those combination then she's gotta have a problem if shes still single, right? right. ...

A.   18 June 2011: By engaging in this 'style' of relationship you're ENABLING her to be comfortable with sleeping with multiple partners, you being one of the multiples (which is HER choice). But if it is not something you want to 'distort' YOURSELF into do... (read in full...)

Can you use lotion as a lubricant?

Q.   I'm really nervous about giving my boyfriend a hand job. Can you use lotion as a lubricant? If so, which kinds of lotion are best? Thank you!...

A.   15 May 2011: 'Liquid Silk' brand sexual lubricant is cool too for all over use, including vaginal dryness. Does not have the glycerin that is a problem for some, does not stain up sheets. Has a 'lotion' like feel. Convenient pump bottle. Get it online ... (read in full...)

I'm 17 and my BF is 47!! Scared for the future...

Q.   I am 17 and my boyfriend is 47. Thats a 30 year age difference...now, I don't have a problem with that, by it makes me so depressed when I think about the future. He will die so early, and I don't want to be alone..I love him and he is the only man ...

A.   24 April 2011: IMO a 47 man who is with a 17 is doing so for as an advantage - to himself. He's probably not agonizing over this as he is looking towards the next. Not nice to say I know, but most men that age experienced to see a long view you cannot at your age. ... (read in full...)

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