Can a relationship recover from infidelity if the cheating partner still denies it?
Q. I know that my husband cheated on me. However he denies it. I do love him and want to move past this but if he will not admit it can we move on? We have been together for 15 years. Now this just happened after he started this job about 2 years ag...
A. 3 January 2010: Yes you can, Im proof.but there will be problems. trust...the foundation of all relationships wont be the strongest. many of your energies will be spent thinking about this instesd of building and growing. the vows of for better or for worse may be ... (read in full...)
I'm depressed about what I've done!
Q. My husband and I have been together since I was 14. I'm now 21. Please don't judge and call me a horrible person. I know the mistakes I've made. I've been paying for them everyday. Anyway, back to the problem. When I was 17 I told my husband I ...
A. 3 January 2010: All you can do with guilt is promise yourself you will never do it again. You said when your husbands mind drifts back to the bad time you give him a hug and apolagize. Being a husband who was cheated on I can say that would mean the world to me. ... (read in full...)
Last night I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. I have a terrible dilemma--I cheated on my husband last night and I don't know if I should tell him or not. We have been together for over seven years (married two), I met him when I was 18 and he's the only guy that I had ever slept with or even ...
A. 5 November 2009: My wife never told me but I found out anyway..So The relationship can suffer from lies and deciet (not telling him) Or you can tell him and that may be his dominant thought for the next 10 or 20 years. Either way somthing not good will result. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Family: Where does your priorities lie?
Q. Wife Question to husband Who do you see as our family? Husband Answer to wife You and the two kids of course Wife to husband No one else? Husband to wife No. No one else Husband to wife Who do you see as our family? Wife to ...
A. 5 November 2009: The best answer I ever heard was this priority list 1ST is God..2nd is spouse..3rd is children always keeping in mind to honor the parents. When people confuse this priority list just sit back and watch the destruction and try to stay out of its ... (read in full...)
I can't stand being alone in the room with .... myself!
Q. So Its been months-maybe years and Im sat here finally recognising that maybe I have a problem. Im quite a confidant person, I can meet andtalk to anyone and thrive in busy environments. yet I cannot bare to spend a night in to myself. Everynight ...
A. 5 November 2009: Many people are in the same boat. I think it is important to love yourself first. A little time just for you. Time to get to that book or go jogging...watch that movie. I deeply cherish the few hours I get to myself, Im lucky inthat I know what I ... (read in full...)
I want help to get over my inhibitions about performing oral on a man.
Q. Okay, I've never givin a blow job, and im kinda nervous on it cause well i think its kinda nasty to put ur mouth on the guys dick, if u think about it.....anyways i want to but im to shy, and idk how to get over it, i mean part of me wants to but ...
A. 5 November 2009: Try to think of it like this. Sex in a large part should be about making your partner feel good. Learning what they like and how they like it. This takes time and love to work really well. I think it will come naturally in time..You should not feel ... (read in full...)
I found out she cheated 2 years ago, now all she does is cry. How do I deal with this?
Q. Hi Guys, If your partner of 20 years cheated on you just once and you found out by chance would you forgive and forget. She is the love of my life and a great mother. Apparently it happened with a mutual so called friend. I confronted her with thi...
A. 3 November 2009: This hurt you and it hurt her too. She is in pain over this. She regrets it. She wants to make it up to you. Remember she hurt herself and you and is suffering because of that. Love her and learn to forgive her. She made a mistake and she knows it. ... (read in full...)
Just wondering...for those of you who were cheated on...how did you find out.
Q. To those of you in long standing relationships who have been cheated on by your better half, HOW did you find out?...
A. 3 November 2009: I first had a suspicion when she said "we are just friends, I dont know why people assume somthing is going on just because I spend time with somone" A few weeks later she moved in with him....I should have known long befor...rushing to erase the ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be the fall back guy for my ex
Q. Well this is my problem my high school sweetheart and i have been dating or been together for 4yrs we have a son together. I eventually broke up with her first cause in a way i was immature saying that i needed to know if she was the one i know i ...
A. 11 October 2009: From my experiance ...unfortionately I can tell you, you are right. When you get back together things are not the same. For some people things are better but only when both people put the greatest priority into the relationship. Not just the getting ... (read in full...)
Should I ignore what I think are lies and try to move forward in our marriage?
Q. Several years ago my wife and I had a real problem. My wife moved in with another man. We had 2 young children (2 and 3). At first she asked me to move out and take the kids with me. Anything my wife really wants I will do (within reason). A good ...
A. 14 September 2009: I am ending this thread now. Thank
you all for the responses sf69... (read in full...)
Should I ignore what I think are lies and try to move forward in our marriage?
Q. Several years ago my wife and I had a real problem. My wife moved in with another man. We had 2 young children (2 and 3). At first she asked me to move out and take the kids with me. Anything my wife really wants I will do (within reason). A good ...
A. 14 September 2009: It looks like my wife (Mrs sf69 ?) Has found this site (hi honey) I dont hide things so finding this is easy for her.......Anyways many of the people who commented (Thankyou all) Are probably on target with one common but difficult ... (read in full...)
Should I ignore what I think are lies and try to move forward in our marriage?
Q. Several years ago my wife and I had a real problem. My wife moved in with another man. We had 2 young children (2 and 3). At first she asked me to move out and take the kids with me. Anything my wife really wants I will do (within reason). A good ...
A. 11 September 2009: Thankyou so much everyone for the kind words and encouragment. All of the comments I have thought hard about. Somtimes the people who respond seem to really be on to somthing. One of the responses was an anynonamous f respondent who really got me ... (read in full...)
Divorced and remarried, but I am still in love with my ex-husband
Q. I was married for 30 yrs. We divorced, and I remarried almost a year later. He has not. The problem is we still love each other, and I dont think I love my new husband like I do my first husband. I dont think it is fair to keep this marrige going ...
A. 11 September 2009: I will add my two cents worth but first I need a little more information. How and why did the first marrige end. Are you happier now than you were before? Are you a christian? are there kids. Please message me and I will try to help if I can...good ... (read in full...)
What can I get my 15 year old boyfriend for his birthday?
Q. I need help on what to get my 15 year old boyfriend for his birthday! It is on holloween and he likes guitars, hunting and drinking monster. I am having trouble thinking what he will like and when I ask him what he wants he says nothing, but I can ...
A. 11 September 2009: This isnt usually the kind of question I answer But I have a 15 year old son who loves hunting...And he complains (to me) about most of the gifts he gets.. Try this Go to the local sporting goods store with him. (Dicks or gander mountain or ... (read in full...)
What did he mean by wanting me to be submissive?
Q. My question is, what are dominant male and submissive female relationships all about. I was dating a dominant male who says I wasn't submissive enough and that I always had something to say. What did he mean? We hung out for 6 weeks and when I ...
A. 11 September 2009: I think I know what 1 perapective is biblically speaking a woman should graciously "submit" to her rusband. (in Corinthians I think) This is a line some husbands use on there wives...But in return there are "things" a husband should also do (like to ... (read in full...)
Cheating girlfriend what do I do
Q. i recently completly broke up with my son's mother that was with for about 3 years. i found out she cheated on me. i had a feeling something was going wrong with our relationship when she started going out to the bars with her single friends. i ...
A. 9 September 2009: I think you will get another chance at this relationship. She has some issues to work out. She will likely find out her new superman isnt really superman. He (by definition) is a home wrecker these types of relationships usually result from troubble ... (read in full...)
Missing my childrens father
Q. i miss my ex the father of my children we have been spit up 7 mths his father was told he has cancer since hearing this it made me realise how i would feel if anything happened him. i believe i really truely love him and i miss him so much. i cant ...
A. 9 September 2009: You have children with this man. That means you have regular (or at least somwhat regular) contact with him. That means you can have an impact on him. You have more of an affect on him than you may know. When he leaves (after seeing you) he is ... (read in full...)
Should'nt we still be hugging and kissing?
Q. I have problem, my live in husband wont kiss or hug me or even touch me in any kind of way, what can I do, what can I say, he hasnt touched me in over six months! please help could he be cheating on me, we are 48 years old and shouldnt we still be ...
A. 9 September 2009: Im a little younger than you but this sounds just like somthing a close friend told me (they are a 10 year coupple) He said (we havent had sex in 6 months...whats wrong?) I didnt have any new formula or anything to offer him. Several weeks later he ... (read in full...)
First man ever to not want oral sex! Why?
Q. I'm obsessing over this the whole day. I am in my early 30's, and by all accounts a skilled lover, so when I was with a man last night with whom I had been intimate with before and with whom we had simply amazing, mind blowing and most intimate lo...
A. 8 September 2009: I knew a guy who told me he would love to get a B-job. I said "How about your wife?" He said somthing like "Thats dirty and I would never let my wife do that" Maybe he wants one but not from somone he respects.... (read in full...)
Cheated just before we got married, and now he wants a threesome to even the score!
Q. I cheated on my husband 2 years ago a few months before we got married. I had sex with another man one time (the biggest mistake of my life). Now he wants to make me feel the same way that I made him feel back then by having a threesome this weekend ...
A. 8 September 2009: This threesome idea IMO is bad news. If you BOTH want to be happily marrried this is not the thing to do. It sounds as if he is very angry about the cheating (rightly so)But this is more than punishing you...This is risking the marrige and I think ... (read in full...)
Should I ignore what I think are lies and try to move forward in our marriage?
Q. Several years ago my wife and I had a real problem. My wife moved in with another man. We had 2 young children (2 and 3). At first she asked me to move out and take the kids with me. Anything my wife really wants I will do (within reason). A good ...
A. 8 September 2009: Since my wife came back she has tried very hard. She practices the things we learned in counseling. She is great with the children.I have learned how to listen...I know when my wife needs a break fron the everyday stresses that build up.I know how ... (read in full...)
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