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writes:I'm obsessing over this the whole day.I am in my early 30's, and by all accounts a skilled lover, so when I was with a man last night with whom I had been intimate with before and with whom we had simply amazing, mind blowing and most intimate love making a week before would not let me go down on him (at all) I was, to put it mildly, confused. I love doing it and I am really good at it, and this is the absolute first time I'd had to deal with a situation like this!Every man I've been with would beg for more, and he would not let me!Does anyone have any ideas, please?Thanks.p.s. I know it's not a religious thing...
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 September 2009):
 Yes, we understood what you meant by "religious", as religions frowning on oral sex. I meant that, religions notwithstanding, oral sex continues to happen, doesn't it? So don't think that religion had any role in this. :-).
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): by "religious" i was referring to some religions frowning upon sex other than traditional vaginal intercourse. Some people may, as some of you have mentioned, be guided by those convictions and refrain from offering or accepting oral sex.As for previous experiences, I have gone down on him once before with great success but our relationship seems to have changed somewhat. There does seem to be (from my perspective only) more intimacy now but we see each other so rarely that I doubt that real intimate feelings can evolve at such great distance and with such rare physical contact. I don't know...I REALLY like him and would like this to blossom into something wonderful and special and serious...but he is not very talkative and asking him why he didn't want oral sex is hard for me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): All I can tell you is that I would trade places with him in a second. And that I've *never* known a guy over 20 who would act that way. He seems unique.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): Some girls dont like having a guy go down on them and then kissing afterwards, maybe he is the same. Maybe he just wants to kiss you and be inside of you, and doesnt want you to focus solely on pleasuring him. Maybe he wants to pleasure you too. You should ask him if he would 69, and if he agrees, then its probably he just wants you both to have physical pleasure and doesnt want it to just be about him.
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reader, sf69  +, writes (8 September 2009):
I knew a guy who told me he would love to get a B-job. I said "How about your wife?" He said somthing like "Thats dirty and I would never let my wife do that" Maybe he wants one but not from somone he respects.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2009): He may consider oral sex to be dirty or degrading. So in his mind it is not something that a "proper" woman should be doing.
Or maybe as PAN said he might have had a bad experience. The phrase once bitten twice shy comes to mind.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (8 September 2009):
Something is the matter, yes, but I am afraid we can't know. Maybe he was just busy or had to go somewhere.
I wonder if you did have other forms of sex before you offered oral.
P.S.: Religious men like oral sex, too :-).
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