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36-40,
anonymous
writes:So Its been months-maybe years and Im sat here finally recognising that maybe I have a problem. Im quite a confidant person, I can meet andtalk to anyone and thrive in busy environments. yet I cannot bare to spend a night in to myself. Everynight for months and months ive made sure I have plans, whether that be with friends out or in with one of them-I am never alone. When faced witht he prospect of a night to myself I atfirst embrace it, then when it comes down to it i get bored after an hour and start crying and feelin depressed and end up ringing a friend.Surely this would mean i am co dependant-yet in the past with boyfriends I get claustraphoic with physical contact and end up finishing with them.....please help
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reader, needygf  +, writes (6 September 2012):
It's scary that they way you decribed yourself actually sounds like me.I can't stand being alone. I want people to talk to me, even though I don't like to social. I just want some attendtion. Things got worse when I got boyfriends. I'm just being very very needy by wanting their attention all the time. When I walk on the street alone, or in the subway, food court, I will have the feeling that people will think that i'm a loser with no one to be with.When I stay home alone, I will cry and cry, I can't read can't even finish a movie online. I feel uneasy. But somehow I don't want to hang out with my friends. Some of them I don't think they're interesting enough to be with. Some of them I wanna but they're always busy.I can't take rejection so if someone (even just friends) rejected me once I'll never ask them out.
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reader, sf69  +, writes (5 November 2009):
Many people are in the same boat. I think it is important to love yourself first. A little time just for you. Time to get to that book or go jogging...watch that movie. I deeply cherish the few hours I get to myself, Im lucky inthat I know what I like to do somtimes by myself somtimes with others but my time is special to me. You need to find out what you like to do on your own. If you dont like what you are doing then dont do it. Practice these things and get good at them. When you can be completly happy by yourself you have won the game of life...BUT when you get to that point ..oddly anough..Somone will come and screw it up (LOL) Good luck and GOD BLESS.........sf69
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