Wants to say THANK YOU
Q. Can one ever say THANK YOU enough? WOW what an awesome site! Having vented my frustrations for the first time in writing and spent some time browsing through other people's similar experiences I feel SO much better. My inherent natural instinct ...
A. 16 December 2008: Thank you kindly you guyz......wishing you an awesome 2009 ... (read in full...)
I'm soon to be married to a she-devil.
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm a 28 year old man from India. I'm an investment banker and about to be married to a lawyer in about 60 days time. In the last 150 days of our engagement, we have gottent to know each other a little, even confessed love. But...
A. 15 December 2008: You sound like a very perceptive and intelligent man. What if I tell you that regardless of race colour creed, etc there exists a distinct class of females who exhibit all the traits you mentioned. You have every right to be concerned at the ... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair but I don't want to hurt anybody or ruin anything. Help!
Q. I have been having an affair with one of my collegues for over a year now. He has since proceeded with his divorce and it will be final at the end of the month. I have not even filed. My husband and i were only married 4 mos before i began this ...
A. 15 December 2008: Starting an affair 4 mnths into a marriage says a lot about a person's readiness to be tied down.
If you regard your husband as your best friend, maybe that is exactly the role he occupies in your life. Do the right thing & cut him loose then be f... (read in full...)
I only want an affair with him but he hesitates, what do you think?
Q. Please help. I have been married for 3 years but my husband and I are on the verge of splitting. I've come to realise I don't love him anymore and I can't stand him being anywhere near me. We have a son who is almost two. I've recently met someone ...
A. 15 December 2008: Sounds like the intented affair is not the issue here at all. You are in fact desperately looking for someone to compensate for the stress, anxiety & loss you're experiencing being right in the middle of your current marital breakdown.
This will... (read in full...)
Does anyone understand why he is now ignoring me?
Q. I need a good, clear, understandable explanation to this puzzling problem Why would a guy I've had a past with and admitted before that he liked me, text me (sometimes 5 times a day), talk to me online, tell me about his life and what he's doing,...
A. 15 December 2008: He either sounds like one confused puppy or is lying terribly ill somewhere or is quietly reflecting on his inner being or just playing childish games testing your response to his total silence.
Both guys & girls regardless of age sometimes exhi... (read in full...)
Should I be more cautious with my feelings this time around?
Q. My husband's best friend (who was also married) and I had an affair over the summer. This was not supposed to be anything more than a physical thing. It very quickly progressed to a much more emotional relationship than either of us expected. We ...
A. 15 December 2008: If only we had the proverbial crystal ball or life manual to reference that tells what twists and turns our lives will take... While some may criticise, I'm of the opinion that people in general are not inherently so evil that hours are spent pl... (read in full...)
I don't want to get naked in front of her since she told me penises are dirty and unsightly!
Q. My newish girlfriend has told me today she is revolted by penises because they are dirty and unsightly. We are yet to embark on the sexual side of the relationships and i am rather self-conscious about my genitals anyway and this has actually quite ...
A. 15 December 2008: I am so sorry to hear that. It was a terribly insensitive thing for her to say & her not taking cognisance of your feelings at all is totally inexcusable.
She doesnt sound like much fun with that narrow-minded by gone attitude & be mindful ... (read in full...)
Should I date my daughter's boyfriend's father?
Q. Help me please! My daughter is 20 and she has been dating this young man for a year and a half. I went to high school with his Dad. Well me and his dad went out this weekend and had an amazing time. I really believe this relationship could go ...
A. 15 December 2008: I have yet to come across a book of etiquette that says its forbidden to date potential partners with links via your children. Your friend's son is being an immature possessive ass. Classic chicken & egg scenario so which came first you knowing ... (read in full...)
I love bad boys! WHY??
Q. Hi! - What is it about "bad lads" that some of us girls cannot resist? I am with a guy who only calls me now and then, expects me to pay for everything when we do meet up, moans alot and also has a criminal record! The fact is I LOVE HIM!! - I...
A. 15 December 2008: I have seen firsthand what this sort of addictive behaviour can do to women. The feeling that only they can set men like this on the right path. Its delusional. You really do need the help of a professional therapist to conquer this pattern else it ... (read in full...)
My imaginary guy!
Q. Hello, Am I completely insane/ loosing it/ marbles gone missing... to get over the guy that I love I made an imaginary guy up in my head to replace him. It's actually helping me not to think of the guy I love, but I get worried... am I gettin...
A. 15 December 2008: Hey don't be so hard on yourself!
Its just a clean decent coping mechanism. Good for you!... (read in full...)
The ghost of Christmas past...
Q. So...where do I start? I will make this short and sweet. 1st love comes back into my life after 10 years, 2 kids and a soon to be ex husband. She married him because like a lot of girls she got pregnant blah blah blah. So now she decides to tell me ...
A. 15 December 2008: Short answer: you have become accustomed to & relish your freedom & 'drama-free' life too much. Karmic connotations aside, how soon will you start resenting her for 'cluttering' up your life after consenting to be with her & her kids?
Huge resp... (read in full...)
I can't handle the guilt
Q. Theres this married guy at my work. We flirt ever in a while or so. But recently it got a little more serious we made out. I know shouldn't have and I feel disgusted with myself after it. I mean dont want to disrespect his wife or myself. Im a...
A. 15 December 2008: Saying you're disgusted with yourself is a healthy sign that your head is screwed on right, you have a strong sense of conscience and you're makeing a head-based observation. Don't beat yourself about it, just let it go. Keep yourself busy and ... (read in full...)
Both married we had affair, now he's single but I'm not!
Q. We're both married and fell in love with each other. He told me he'd never leave his wife and to work on my relationship with my husband which I did. The problem is he has now left his wife and is single. He say's he loves me and wants to be with...
A. 15 December 2008: Why cant you forget him despite acknowledging the hurt he's capable of causing you? Because females are emotional beings, because in general we dont just have affairs for the sake of deliberately hurting anyone, because unless we're not downright ... (read in full...)
Can a married man/married woman be best friends?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 16 years. He works with a female and they have become friends over the last 8 years. I found an email that they wrote to each other that really scared me. They were discussing a holiday party that they were at ...
A. 15 December 2008: Yes its possible but only if one party is flat out gay/lesbian. I say this because I have dear dedicated friendships with gay males that have lasted a long time yet each time I tried having the same genuine frienship with a heterosexual male it ... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to leave his wife of 37 years for me?
Q. I'm in love with a married man. We've been seeing each other everyday now for the past 6months sex is great.how can I ask him to leave his wife of 37 yrs. No kids involved,but there is a grand child. How can his wife not expect something? ...
A. 15 December 2008: Short answer: The chances of that happening are very slim. He may NEVER leave his wife & if you continue to pressure him on it, he will most likely leave you.
People in long term relationships despite straying for whatever reasons, tend to clea... (read in full...)
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