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writes:Can one ever say THANK YOU enough? WOW what an awesome site! Having vented my frustrations for the first time in writing and spent some time browsing through other people's similar experiences I feel SO much better. My inherent natural instinct to propel myself forward has reasserted itself. How often we find ourselves limited to our own worlds so much so that its very easy to forget others no matter their demographics are also facing similar experiences.Gathered from this site so far, the following resonates deeply:People in long term relationships more often than not tend to outgrow each other and pull in different directions hence the resulting power struggle that arises chiefly because each partner wants control of their environment be it emotional, financial or behavioural. A sort of my way or no way situation which to some extent prompts people to seek fulfillment elsewhere be it in booze or porn or affairs or some form of addictive repetitive feel-good stimuli. Curiously, aside from a sometimes wicked sense of humour, I discover that I dont actually have a feel-good stimuli. Good or bad thing...I'm unsureMy way forward?I plan to turn my situation to my advantage by being shrewdly participative in this relationship power struggle I'm in. Having done a relationship audit on my current situation and taken into consideration all the positive factors I didnt acknowledge before, I now have much needed clarity of vision. I dont know why I fail to sometimes take note of the basic fact that I am indeed an attractive well educated female in a good profession who judging by their ongoing come-on's is fairly attractive to other males and am not as helpless as I presume to think. I too like everyone else have just this one lifetime to live, deserve to be happy and have a duty to myself to live out my lifetime to my maximum potential. I will be doing myself a tragic disservice if I allowed anyone or anything to fail me in that regard. Henceforth I promise to be kinder to myself while the ittle devil on my left shoulder urges me to explore in a nawty but nice way - the current external male interests coming my way. I've been so caught up feeling sorry for myself I was surprised to realise I havent even had the opportunity to be flattered by their attention. Is it any wonder they think I'm cold and unapproachable? No one knows its a form of self protection and preservation. Who knows..Maybe if I let my guard down just a little, I would experience life in real-time rather than limiting myself to my own private environment and playing the helpless victim.
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reader, SallySoMe +, writes (16 December 2008):
SallySoMe is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you kindly you guyz......wishing you an awesome 2009
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Brilliant article babes, absolutely brilliant. I hope more people read what you have said. One of our great agony aunts remind us, like you have just done about the potential of CHOICE in our lives. You've seen it, you understand it, you realise that you make your choices, and now your going to run with the ball. Brilliant. I wish you every luck in your search to make the best of your life for you. I really hope people in trouble do read your post and take on board your honest assessment that most relationship problems are to do with power, choice and the need of humans to constantly change... Take care, seasons blessings, good luck for next year...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): Hi
just wanted to say....
I love your positive attitude, just wanted to say i wish you well and hope you enjoy your life to the fullest, sure you will with this upbeat attitude. Keep smiling....
via con dios.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2008): I also want to say thankyou to the people who express themselves on this site. Both those who share their troubles, problems and worries and also to all the kind people who take time out of their day to offer words of encouragement, love, help, support and advice.
I too, on gaining valuable assistance from this site, have changed my way of thinking about my problems. I have spent the last two years pineing over a man who I love but who doesn't love me. I have rejected offers from others in the vain hope that it will be him and only him who offers me a future. It hasn't happened and will never happened. I have taken a good long look at myself, listened with an open heart to the advice offered to me and decided that enough is enough. I have ended my addiction to this man and shall now focus my attention on myself and my friends and family.
Without this sites open, honest and down right straight talking approach I would never have achieved this on my own.
THIS SITE WORKS AND IT WORKS WELL!!!
God bless you all for caring
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