Found a long black hair in his shower...is he cheating?
Q. About 2 or 3 weeks ago I found a semi-long black hair in my boyfriends shower. Kinda on the wall stuck from the water. I have very blonde hair and his hair is black but very short. None of his friends have black long hair and neither do any o...
A. 21 October 2008: If you are so unable to communicate that you have to ask this question, either see a counselor and work on your communications or file for divorce.
Most people don't exist in a vacuum, people shed hair, it's a fact, and sometimes other people e... (read in full...)
What made the matter worse...he cheated on me twice!!
Q. My husband sent text messages to my sister before as if he's courting her. I confronted him and he said it was just a joke and no big deal. Recently, he played "Peeping Tom" to my youngest sister. What would I do? I'm thinking of leaving him, but...
A. 21 October 2008: A guy that isn't disposed to monogamy isn't going become monogamous as the result of talking to a counselor.
One of the questions you need to ask, is what is the larger issue, the lack of fidelity or the lack of honesty?
If it's the former ... (read in full...)
I have all the symptoms.... Am I or am I not???
Q. I have not gotten my period in about 4/5months. I haven taken a test yet but I'm not sure if I am pregnant, my period was always quite irregular but I have never gone this long without my period in a long time. I have been getting back pains and I ...
A. 21 October 2008: Get a test, you don't want to be drinking if you are pregnant, and proper care at this point can make the difference between a healthy intelligent baby and a retarded unhealthy child.... (read in full...)
Could my boyfriend be gay?
Q. I have been dating this extremely nice thoughtful almost perfect guy, but I can't help to think that he might be gay. He is 32 years old, has never been married and has very little dating experience. He has some female mannerisms such as crossing ...
A. 21 October 2008: Being effeminate does not necessarily equate to gay. There are gay guys that are as macho as you might find anywhere.
Instead of worrying about gender preference, concern yourself with your relationship, the relationship between you and him.
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My parents need to realise we're NOT kids any more!
Q. Hello, This is a question for my sister. She is turning 21, and having major issues with our parents. They complain of her not acting like an adult, and only thinking of herself. These traits, I see in her, she is decietful and usually will on...
A. 21 October 2008: When my daughter left home it was the most painful moment of my life; but I can also say it was the day I finally understood she was no longer a child.
In my experience that is pretty much universal; and telling your parents that your mature i... (read in full...)
Everyone wants me to divorce him, but I love him so much!
Q. Dear Cupid , My name is Randee, I married a 42 year old man when i was only 18, and everybody wants me to get divorced. But i love him too much, we also had a baby together. He also did drugs. What should i do?...
A. 21 October 2008: Drugs is a broad term, are we talking a joint now and then or a heroin addiction? Is it something that affects his ability to function or endangers him or people around him?
I've got a relative that married someone 30 years her senior, they've ... (read in full...)
In College and confused about my sexuality!
Q. So for as long as I can remember I haven't ever really thought a guy was, "cute," "hot," or anything like that, but I have always thought girls are pretty. I went all through out high school without a boyfriend, and didn't think anything of it. Now ...
A. 21 October 2008: You are not obligated to label yourself. Just follow your heart. There's no reason you can't have both, many people do. That doesn't necessarily mean you have to hop from relationship to relationship either. Many people find happiness in ... (read in full...)
Prob. saying no
Q. I have a small issue, there are quite a few guys that like me but i really don't date i prefer being single but with so many school dances and the like, the guys are pestering me to go with them, but i don't attend school dances. It's too loud and ...
A. 21 October 2008: Don't feel guilty about your preferences. If you're not interested in something say so. If you're using the pretext of potential sex in order to obtain friendship, what you get isn't going to be genuine friendship. Friendship is based upon ... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to have sex and dismisses all my suggestions!
Q. My wife has never been greatly interested in sex. Now, after 13 years of marriage and her suffering a bout of depression and flirting with a work colleague, she tells me she is sexually frustrated - doesn't want to have sex with me - but wants to ...
A. 21 October 2008: There are so many possibilities.
If she isn't willing to work with you to resolve the issue you've got a number of options.
1) You can suffer with it.
2) You can file for divorce.
3) You can ask if she objects to you having a
relationshi... (read in full...)
Should I get a divorce or stick it out?
Q. I have been considering a divorce for some time (years). My husband and I have been together for almost seven years and he has a son from a previous "one night stand" that we see often because of me. He lives on the other side of the country, but ...
A. 21 October 2008: If you're not happy with someone who is unwilling to be monogamous then perhaps a divorce is what you need. He clearly isn't willing or able to be monogamous.
There is an old line, women marry men expecting that they will be able to change t... (read in full...)
Why is it such a big deal to me to think about my boyfriend's sex life with his ex'es?
Q. My boyfriend has had two girlfriends before me, both of which were long-term relationships. Naturally, he was intimate with both of them. And I totally understand that. However, it really bugs me to know the extent of their physical relationships. ...
A. 21 October 2008: I can think of several troubling aspects.
If he is volunteering the information without your asking, it may be that he is trying to pressure you to do things you are not comfortable with that his previous girlfriends would do with him.
In that... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and worried that I will bore my boyfriend in bed... how hard is it to make a guy climax?
Q. hi everyone, i feel kinda wierd asking this, but my boyfriend and i are talking about sex, im a virgin, and he definately isnt. i want to be good for him, and not be known as the boring virgin who just lied there. i have no idea what to do. how hard...
A. 21 October 2008: Communication is central to any relationship. If you're not comfortable enough in your relationship to talk about sex, it's probably not the right time to have it.
Express yourself own preferences, ask about his. A guy who loves you will want you... (read in full...)
I wake up feeling miserable and my chest hurts. What is it, and how can I avoid it?
Q. Do you ever wake up feeling angry or miserable? This morning, like many mornings, I woke up in a sort of "I just don't care" sort of mood. Also, there's this sort of... tight feeling in my chest, which worries me. What is this?? I got probably ju...
A. 21 October 2008: I disagree with previous advice, don't go to a GP, go to a reputable psychiatrist. A GP will prescribe the SSRI of the week and send you on your way. They're not adequately trained to deal with depression and anxiety.
While chemical treatmen... (read in full...)
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