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writes:hi everyone,i feel kinda wierd asking this, but my boyfriend and i are talking about sex, im a virgin, and he definately isnt. i want to be good for him, and not be known as the boring virgin who just lied there. i have no idea what to do. how hard is it to make a guy, uh, climax?my next question/concern is, if were using a condom, how do i know when he comes? i mean, if you use a condom, how are you suppose to feel it when he...you know...?i know im 18 and should probably know all this by now, but i guess im too embarased to ask my (experienced) friends, and i don't need to be judged, i would just like sincere answers, thanx to all.
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reader, answermanguy +, writes (18 May 2009):
it's not really hard to make a guy climax. Depending on how experienced he is it will take a long time or it will not. If he masturbates before he has sex with you he will last longer. If your having sex with a condom that will prevent you from having his ejacultion\sperm (cum whatver you call it) from going inside of you which will most likely give u a baby. You don't want to feel his ejaculation inside of you unless you want a baby. Hope this answer your question
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (22 October 2008):
I remember my first time, he was on top and as it hurt so much I just lay there and did not move. He still came and enjoyed himself, but he could tell it was uncomfortable and horrid for me. As for the cumming, well you can feel his penis moving slightly differently inside you when he cums. It's hard to explain and plus you can tell just by the look on his face and then he will just slow down and stop so don't worry about it. Let him do the work for your first time, as it hurts too much to be on top of the guy, as it goes in too deep. Take it easy and enjoy it as much as you can. The second time you do it you can take control and decide what you want to do, as you will feel more comfortable and it will just generally feel nicer. When I say 2nd time, I don't mean straight after the first time. It can take a day or 2 for you to feel less sore. Sorry if this sounds horrid, but when I first had sex I wish someone had told me all of this, as the after effect was abit scary, as I didn't understand why it was so painful until reading other girl's experiences.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Stop worrying, because he'll climax whether you just lie there like a log or get really active, and it'll be the easiest thing in the world for him. The idea is that he thrusts in and out, so all you do is move your hips up and down an inch or so at the same time - if you feel like it.
When he comes, his breathing will get deeper and more rapid, his nostrils will flare, he'll ram himself hard inside you, you'll probably feel his penis twitching as it pumps out and he could well let out a grunt of ectasy that might sound like he's in agony - but he won't be. You might even think that he's having a heart attack but don't worry - that won't be the case. Basically, you'll know!
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reader, Nanook +, writes (21 October 2008):
Communication is central to any relationship. If you're not comfortable enough in your relationship to talk about sex, it's probably not the right time to have it.
Express yourself own preferences, ask about his. A guy who loves you will want you to be happy and your happiness will make him happy.
Exploration and experimentation is a part of the process, and if you're sufficiently comfortable for each other to be able to do so in a relaxed manner, it will be an enjoyable, not a boring aspect.
Orgasm isn't the end all and be all of sex. It feels good, but the context is more important than the climax. Context, can make the difference between climax being 15 seconds of transient pleasure and an experience that you will remember, and hopefully share, for a lifetime.
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reader, dee119 +, writes (21 October 2008):
I was like you once, so I can understand your questions. If you want your boyfriend to climax he needs to see you enjoy. So even if you don't know what to do, act like you do. Be secure of what you want, and try to be yourself but sexier. Show him a part of you, he doesn't know, and he will go crazy (in a good way).
And don't be afraid of asking when he cums. It is important that you communicate without being embarrassed. Sometimes when you talk about it, you learn more about his/your needs, and it gets exciting to talk about the "prohibit" things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): you're a girl and hes a guy, girls dont need to do anything really to be honest for just to make him climax, he can just have sex with you and his own motions will make him climax
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reader, VictoriaK +, writes (21 October 2008):
 Well, first things first, To make it more "fun" then you just laying there, try getting on top of him, I know that my boyfriend loves this. You get on top, and you move up and down, alternating between pace, such as start off slow, then go fast, then slow again. Or you could ask him to get behind you. Remember, YOU are the virgin not him, it needs to be comfortable for YOU, it may hurt a little bit, but if it feels unusually painful then ask him to stop. He should respect your wishes. Next, You'll know when he comes when he stops. If you happen to be looking at his face when he's coming, then you'll notice his pupils will get really big, he may start to shake a little bit, or make some sort of noise. In my experience I find that with my boyfriend when he's coming he kinda pushes harder, and then starts going really slow. That how I can tell. Just remember to take it slow, and do this for YOU, not because someone wants you to. Keep up posted on how things went. Best of Luck to You.
Victoria~
P.S. If you ever need to talk you always message me! Have fun time, and stay safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): first of all...you're boyfriend shouldn't expect you to be great because you haven't experienced sex. my advice is to watch a couple amateur porn videos to get an idea and do whatever feels comfortable and good to you. ask him what kind of positions he would like you to be in. some may be a little painful and many will be pleasurable lol after you get the hang of it...then experience more or dress up or foreplay. etc...for your next question...you never really know if a guy's coming unless you actually see it come out lol but you can somewhat feel it and watch how he reacts. from my experience...my boyfriend like to watch us getting it on then his eyes closes when he's about to come and he penetrates more and is faster. have you thought about taking any birth control?
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