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anonymous
writes:My husband sent text messages to my sister before as if he's courting her. I confronted him and he said it was just a joke and no big deal. Recently, he played "Peeping Tom" to my youngest sister.What would I do? I'm thinking of leaving him, but he said he loves me and I love him too.One more thing is that we have kids. Oh! and what made the matter worst... is that he cheated on me twice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Thanks, for the response. I really appreciate it. I think my problem now would be how to convince him that we need to undergo counselling for that matter.
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reader, Nanook  +, writes (21 October 2008):
A guy that isn't disposed to monogamy isn't going become monogamous as the result of talking to a counselor.
One of the questions you need to ask, is what is the larger issue, the lack of fidelity or the lack of honesty?
If it's the former you probably ought to just file for divorce and get on with life and because guys are genetically predisposed not to be monogamous and aren't likely to change in this respect during their lifetime.
If it's the latter, a counselor might be helpful. It's a lot easier to be honest with someone who is loving and non-judgmental than it is with someone who just looks for an excuse to explode. It's a lot easier to be honest if you are able to communicate. Those are issues a counselor can help with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): This guy needs help. If you want to hold onto him you deserve a medal, but insist that he goes for counseling.
You are strong and yes, love can conquer lots, but you will have to learn to forgive and to trust him again. Do you think that is possible?
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