I feel like I am second prize and he is with me because he can't get the porn models he looks at
Q. The man I’m dating looks at a lot of porn . (I’ve seen it when I visit his home ) it’s just glamour model after glamour model and women way out of his league . Much younger and models . It makes me think he’s dating me only because I’m all he can ...
A. 5 March 2019: Hello!
Well to be honest, Porn is really just all about fantasy. It’s unrealistic. I don’t really think you have to compare yourself to these models or younger women. You’re beautiful exactly the way you are and what is key is that you start be... (read in full...)
I feel suffocated but can't say anything becausethey will be hurt!
Q. Hi all I am a student studying abroad for the past two years. I have grown up enjoying a healthy and close relationship with my parents and family. But unlike the rest of my family I am a complete introvert. I am an artist so I go into these phase...
A. 17 May 2015: Thanks all for the helpful advice, esp Ruby birtle...I never thought of it like that and Ive put it into practice. Thanks! ... (read in full...)
I'm a classic introvert, have friends but often turn down or regret going to do things with them. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi all, This is not relationship related, but a personality related question. I am an artist and a classic introvert. I love interacting genuinely getting to know people in the hope to learn something from them.. I don't do well in groups...
A. 17 May 2015: I know this is a little late but thank you all SO much for all the advise!!! It has really helped me rethink some ways in which I behave. Thank you! Usually the answers on this site console you, make you feel really good or really bad. But rarely do ... (read in full...)
Post Break-Up Blues....
Q. Hi all So I met this guy through my friend and we started hanging out a lot. Anyway, so I really liked him as a friend and I had just come out of a painful breakup so I was strictly not looking for anything. He started liking me and started to...
A. 13 May 2014:
Dear WiseOwle,
Thanks a lot for the comforting reply. I know I shouldn't feel sorry for my feelings and I am sincerely working on it! I happen to be visiting my family over the summers and I can't wait to spend time with them. As you rightly p... (read in full...)
Am I being foolish by holding out for Mr Right?
Q. I grew up in an abusive family and as a consequence I've always been incredibly cautious about romantic relationships. So much so that I've never had a boyfriend or even gone out on a date. Quite a few guys have asked me out, but I've never been ...
A. 28 May 2013: Oh my God! I came on dearcupid to ask/write something similar to your question!
I feel like I am the same way and because we have such set choices and we are so serious about them, not a lot of people, the kinds we would like, come across our way.... (read in full...)
How can I make friends? I feel that I missed out so much by not going away to college!
Q. I graduated high school last year and lost all my friends. Most of them went off to college, and they and the ones who are still in the area have changed, so I don't really want to hang out with them anymore, and we've lost touch. My parents ...
A. 29 April 2013: Hey, firstly, you know what, life goes on. The longer you will stick to your high school memories and how perfect it was, the more you will dread your situation. You are here now, and you need to improve your situation. I am a big introvert and a... (read in full...)
How can I make friends? I feel that I missed out so much by not going away to college!
Q. I graduated high school last year and lost all my friends. Most of them went off to college, and they and the ones who are still in the area have changed, so I don't really want to hang out with them anymore, and we've lost touch. My parents ...
A. 29 April 2013: Hey, firstly, you know what, life goes on. The longer you will stick to your high school memories and how perfect it was, the more you will dread your situation. You are here now, and you need to improve your situation. I am a big introvert and a... (read in full...)
My friend's behavior hurt and embarrassed me. Does everyone think I'm just a fat slob begging for food?
Q. So there's this girl, whom I'm friends with. We're not best friends, but we do go out for coffee, we hang out with other friends, etc. I though she was so nice, and that she liked me also. Today she was with some people (who I also know). I sa...
A. 29 April 2013: You know what, do not think of yourself as a fat slob. People tend to stereo-type fat people, and I dont understand why. If someone is fat must mean they are hungry all the time. No! So Please do not bother. Let people think whatever they want to.... (read in full...)
I hate the guy who will be the best man at our wedding! How do I deal with this?
Q. Ok so I've been with my partner for 8 years, just recently got engaged. His best friend used to make my life hell but I dealt with it. His previous girlfriend would flaunt herself all over my boyfriend and I would spend night after night crying bec...
A. 9 February 2013: Some people can be total jerks. From what you've written this person sounds like a complete pain. Jealousy is very common amongst best friends too. They might be best friends but maybe he's jealous that you guys got engaged and settled while he is ... (read in full...)
I am so bloody angry at my dad!
Q. I'm really angry at my dad. He is so bloody annoying. I'm like 22 and I can't enjoy my bloody life. My parents want me to live life the way they think is right. They want to stuff me with goodies and fatty food and sit at home and join the fucking ...
A. 6 January 2013: Anyway thanks all. This session of intense questioning and answering has helped me. I was really mad when I wrote the question, I was actually venting hence it sounds a bit rash. I'm the last person to be against my father. Bit its just that I can't ... (read in full...)
I am so bloody angry at my dad!
Q. I'm really angry at my dad. He is so bloody annoying. I'm like 22 and I can't enjoy my bloody life. My parents want me to live life the way they think is right. They want to stuff me with goodies and fatty food and sit at home and join the fucking ...
A. 6 January 2013: Okay. So calling people immature makes you more of a mature person? You know at times people find themselves in situations like these and will ask for advice or some kind of calming words. If you don't do it then well good for you, you're real ... (read in full...)
I am so bloody angry at my dad!
Q. I'm really angry at my dad. He is so bloody annoying. I'm like 22 and I can't enjoy my bloody life. My parents want me to live life the way they think is right. They want to stuff me with goodies and fatty food and sit at home and join the fucking ...
A. 6 January 2013: So very confused---NO I DON'T!!! I wouldn't ever. I'm not so stupid!!! And hence my anger. If I haven't ever done anything careless to anger him or give him a reason to be concerned why does he have to make such a big deal out of it and not just ... (read in full...)
I am so bloody angry at my dad!
Q. I'm really angry at my dad. He is so bloody annoying. I'm like 22 and I can't enjoy my bloody life. My parents want me to live life the way they think is right. They want to stuff me with goodies and fatty food and sit at home and join the fucking ...
A. 6 January 2013: Ok are you guys not reading what I've written? Firstly, I just abided here. I haven't said a word to him. And what triggered it was this: I've moved to another country for my second BA. And i have relatives here in this country. Now other than ... (read in full...)
I am so bloody angry at my dad!
Q. I'm really angry at my dad. He is so bloody annoying. I'm like 22 and I can't enjoy my bloody life. My parents want me to live life the way they think is right. They want to stuff me with goodies and fatty food and sit at home and join the fucking ...
A. 6 January 2013: Hey Denise32--- yeah I guess it's a delayed rebellion. As a teen my parents were pretty strict and I was only allowed to grow up in a kind of a boundary. Like I had to be a certain way else it was hell. It's not like he doesn't notice it. I'm 22. ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with the fact that my sister seems to copy everything I do?
Q. Hey This is about my sister. She is 26 and I am 22. We get along really well but lately she has started copying me a lot. I am an introvert, shy and creative. She is all about friends and partying and she's pretty outgoing. But,she latches ...
A. 16 December 2012: Thanks for replying, So_Very_Confused and Cerberus.
Cerberus, that's a good way to look at it I guess. Thank you for that! But its just that I feel so ignored and being the younger sibling, I always struggle to establish my identity in my family... (read in full...)
What can I do to turn things around? My hot taller older cousin gets the girls. I get zilch. I'ts making me jealous of him
Q. I am intensely jealous of my older cousin. He is very tall about 6'2 and is called handsome by so many girls who meet him. He has hooked up with many girls. I am only 5'8 and i am not anything special. We both have steady futures so I cant use that...
A. 2 November 2012: hey
i totally agree with CindyCares!
you should make some morefriends you know. who you wouldnt bother you so much. And go out have a good time with them. You would actually have a good time and trust me, when you're not looking, things ... (read in full...)
What other topics can we talk about?
Q. I've been talking to the guy I like for about 7 weeks, we like the same music, have similar hobbies and are just generally interested in the same things. however recently the conversation has been the same. For example, when were texting its the ...
A. 2 November 2012: hey
maybe you've spoken enough and should spend time together!
like go for a movie or a concert or do some recreational activity together!
you could listen to music together or something.
I mean do stuff together, as friends of cour... (read in full...)
Girls seem to like me as a friend. So why can't I convert any of my friends into a Genuine Girl friend?
Q. I’ll be turning 27 soon and have never had any sort of romantic relationship with a woman. I just can’t seem to figure this out. From what I hear from friends and family I should have no problem attracting women. I’m told that I’m an attractiv...
A. 2 November 2012: Hey
Even though you seem like you have everything a very good potential boyfriend a girl would consider, it seems you're too willing.
Everyone likes to get what they cant have. and so maybe you shouldnt be so available all the time to any girl.... (read in full...)
It seems that I'm always the one tying to maintain the friendships. How do I cultivate friends who seek me out to go places and do things?
Q. I don't know what is it with me and friends. A little about me: I just graduated and now I'm going to start my second BA. I paint, I'm also a singer I am into mountaineering. I have friends when I am a part of an institution eg. College or a sch...
A. 19 October 2012: Hey Dorothy, Thanks a lot for your advice! It means a lot that you took time to let me know what you think. I am actually going to move into a new city for my next course, so I am eagerly awaiting that! I think there is a great monotony which ... (read in full...)
How much are we responsible about the bad things in our life?
Q. What do you think, how much are we responsible about the bad things in our life? I feel ,I tried my best regarding to raising kids,and marriage, and my health. But in almost every of those areas, I had tragic outcome. Including death of a child from ...
A. 24 April 2012: Hi,
I know these are testing times for you. But I feel you should start looking at the best of a bad situation. Easier said than done, I agree.
I wouldn't blame fate for anything. We are responsible for our own actions. Its, as you said, easier... (read in full...)
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