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writes:I graduated high school last year and lost all my friends. Most of them went off to college, and they and the ones who are still in the area have changed, so I don't really want to hang out with them anymore, and we've lost touch. My parents couldn't afford a real college so I went to community college for a semester, absolutely hated it, and dropped out. It was impossible to make any friends there anyway because no one talked to each other and everyone went home right after class, there were no events on campus. Now I'm working as a nanny, so it's not like I can make friends at work either.I'm miserable. I have no one to talk to, ever. Me and my family get along okay, but we aren't close and don't talk much, and I want other people to be around. I have no one to shop with, no one to smoke with, no one to drive around with or listen to music with or anything. I feel so pathetic. Sometimes I literally go days without saying a word. Everyone says high school sucks, well, high school was pretty good for me. I had close friends to hang out with, and even if we got busy, we still saw each other in school every day.I don't even know how to go about making friends at this point. If you can't make friends at school or work, where else can you make them? My town is tiny and mostly full of old people, so I can't make friends with the neighbors. I don't want to go to any events or anything (there are hardly any in my area anyway) to try to meet people because who goes to those alone? I would never have the confidence to do that. I'm trying to save up to go away to school, but even if I can do that, I think it'll be harder to make friends since I didn't go through all the freshman stuff and probably won't be able to afford to live on campus. I started volunteering, but even there I don't really have any "friends," just people I talk to when I'm there. I'm nice, but not very outgoing and have very low self-esteem, so that makes it even worse.I just sort of hate my life right now. All I want is some friends. I feel like I've missed out on so much by not going away to college. Where else can you make friends?
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reader, Mysterium +, writes (29 April 2013):
Hey,firstly, you know what, life goes on. The longer you will stick to your high school memories and how perfect it was, the more you will dread your situation. You are here now, and you need to improve your situation.I am a big introvert and a shy person too. And half my "best friends" never stick around. So I have learned to do something and that is- where ever I go, I make it a point to get to know 2 people. And trust me this works. the only thing is that You will have to make the effort. Forget that you are an introvert and step out of your comfort zone. And the truth is that if you don't, well then you will be miserable like this.I say you go to an event. Go once at least. You're bound to meet someone. Like seriously. And that will happen if you also make an effort to talk and get to know people. And lastly, I can assure you that if you are feeling miserable or anything, its just a phase and it will soon pass. Look ahead and dont hang on to your past.
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reader, Mysterium +, writes (29 April 2013):
Hey,firstly, you know what, life goes on. The longer you will stick to your high school memories and how perfect it was, the more you will dread your situation. You are here now, and you need to improve your situation.I am a big introvert and a shy person too. And half my "best friends" never stick around. So I have learned to do something and that is- where ever I go, I make it a point to get to know 2 people. And trust me this works. the only thing is that You will have to make the effort. Forget that you are an introvert and step out of your comfort zone. And the truth is that if you don't, well then you will be miserable like this.I say you go to an event. Go once at least. You're bound to meet someone. Like seriously. And that will happen if you also make an effort to talk and get to know people. And lastly, I can assure you that if you are feeling miserable or anything, its just a phase and it will soon pass. Look ahead and dont hang on to your past.
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