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Thanks for taking the time to read my profile. I am lily louisa and I'm proud to say that I am a devonshire dumpling.
I have nothing that qualifies me on a proffesional level to help others, all I have is life experience in many avenues.
On a personnel level I was sexually abused as a child, in my twenties, I endured three years in a violent relationship, I later married what I thought was a wonderful man, but it appears I spent 18yrs with what turned out to be a serial adulter!
I am now a single mum of two teenagers,(who bring their own problems) in a long distance relationship with a widower who has children.
Nursing has been my life, working in areas such as learning disabilities, general/medical, accident and emergency, community and palliative care, the latter being my prefered area.
There have been many times in my life when I have needed someone to turn to for help and advise, resourses such as the internet were not available in the 70's and early 80's.However we did have jackie magazine and majory proops in the daily paper!
Its not always possible to confide in or ask friends and family about things that are sensitive or that worry you.Recieving help and advise from someone who is neutral and will not judge you is often easier.
So folks although I do not confess to know everything about anything, I will do my best to help you.
I like you am only human and may not always get it right, but if I can easy your burden in some small way then I have succeeded just a little.
Remember: "look for the sunshine in everyday"
take care
lily
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I can't get over my fathers death
Q. hi guys my father passed away this year im ohnistly down about it i never had time to grief i had to go to school 3 days later for some reason my mother thought after 3 days everything would be fine at school a week or so later i had to go to ...
A. 8 January 2008: Hi there,
Do not be ashamed or feel guilty about grieving, it is perfectly natural and normal.
I am considerably older than you, and lost my father 3 years ago next month.
Sometimes I am a wreck emotionally, I wake crying in the night,or i am... (read in full...)
After dating me for 4 months he says he is married! What should I do with him?
Q. My boyfriend just told me he is married after dating me for 4 months he said he didn't tell me because he did not want to lose me. He feels that if I knew I would leave him. What should I do with him. Keep him or throw him to the curb??...
A. 11 October 2007:
The Rat has decieved you and his wife. chances are he will do it again and again.Ask yourself would you ever trust him?
Best to get rid of him now. Your deserve better than him.
good luck
lily
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Could I be paranoid?
Q. I got a yeast infection and my boyfriend bought a tablet in the pharmacy for me. When I asked how he knew what tablet to buy he said he got advice from the guys in work. I might be paranoid but what guy knows what tablet to buy for a yeast ...
A. 10 October 2007: Your not paranoid, you are sensible. Dont ever take any pills or medicines that are not in original packaging or are not from the pharmacy or a doctor.
It is possible to treat thrush (yeast infections) with a one off oral capsule/tablet these days... (read in full...)
Is it possible that this long-distance relationship can work?
Q. hello there. i really would be so grateful of some help. Me and my boyfriend met in march this year in our first year of university. We got together in May, and stayed together all summer, although he lived 300 mile away, we managed, he came to ...
A. 9 October 2007: hi there
my man and I live over 200 miles apart, we have been together for 4 years and are very much in love.
it isnt easy, we both have children so it means we dont get much time on our own even when we are together.Although its not an ideal... (read in full...)
My bf put his penis in and pulled it back out, I'm 14 - how do I get a pregnancy test without my mum knowing?
Q. hi im onli 14 years and i would like to ask a question me and my boyfriend didnt want to hav sex and he put his penis in and pulled it back out, it was 5 days ago when i done it what shall i do and how do i get a pregnancy test at my age without ...
A. 9 October 2007: Hi honey
If you boyfriend hadnt ejaculated before entering you or while inside you, the chances of you being pregnant are slim.
You dont have to go to a chemist to get a pregnancy test these days as most supermarkets sell them.I believe t... (read in full...)
His daughter is lonely and clings to him.
Q. what should my bf do about his pregnant daughter? she has a child and a husband but apparently her husband does not meet her emotional needs so she tries to get these met by her father. she is very lonely and has something definitly missing from ...
A. 9 October 2007: Hi there
It sound to me like your boyfiends son in law is quite selfish in the way he conduct his life. He has his life and leaves her to get on with hers.
Would it not be possible for your boyfriend as a concerned father to have a chat with... (read in full...)
How can I satisfy him?
Q. Hi there... ive been with my boyfriend for three months now and everything is fantastic. He actually told me for the first time that he loved me the other day. We got chatting about bedroom antics and he said that even though he doesnt always r...
A. 9 October 2007: hi there,
I dont think you need to worry yourself over this, being vocal tends to be more of a woman thing, and not all men need to climax everytime they make love to be satisfied.
If you have a man thats worth anything, then he will be more ... (read in full...)
My wife became depressed after having our first child. She has now met new male friends over the internet. Is there a cause for concern here?
Q. My wife and I have been married three years and we've had a great relationship. She was recently depressed after having our first child and turned to the internet to find happiness. She has new male friends, should I be concerned? She told me she ...
A. 22 September 2007: you wife needs to seek help as she may well have post natel depression.
I myself suffered with it for 2 years after my sons birth before a friend of mine suggested i get help.
its a lonely exsistance, you put a smile on for everyone that wa... (read in full...)
Should I shave "down there" for him?
Q. I'm 15 and I wanna let a guy go down there. I want to shave but I don't because I don't have the right equipment and I don't wanna pay the consequences. The boy I'm planning it with really likes me and I like him and I know he really does because ...
A. 22 September 2007: dont feel that you have to shave because you think thats what you man wants.
by all means trim yourself up alittle if will make YOU feel better.
Remember, this is your body and you should do only what makes you feel comfortable and not what you... (read in full...)
I'm scared I'll do it wrong and he'll dump me! It'll be my first time.
Q. Im 13 and my Boyfriend wants to make out with me, I want to but im scared I'll do it wrong then he will dump me. All my friends have done it. I dont know what to do, should i try and risk it or should i wait. I would be my first make out! Mizz...
A. 22 September 2007: when it comes to it, you will find that things happen quite naturally.
However, you are only 13 and under the legal age. Please dont be in a rush to make out just because all your friends have done it(or say they have!)
have some respect and ... (read in full...)
He's very withdrawn, emotionally detached even with me, I'm thinking our LD relation won't work due to this aspect of his personality?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for less than a year. We have a long distance thing at the moment, but we've met and have established that we're dedicated to each other. But (argh why must there be a but!) he's so emotionally detached and generally cold ...
A. 22 September 2007:
oh dear, if you are in a relationship that is making you depressed it is not a good sign.
maybe your man has been hurt before so is afraid it will happen again if he allows himself to get close with anyone.
or maybe if he has lacked love and ... (read in full...)
Do I follow my head or my heart?
Q. Hi Do I follow my head or my heart? I am with a girl, and do like her, things have been slow since weve been away from uni for the summer hols. I think we get on ok and will have some good times to come, but I don't see if going too far to be...
A. 21 September 2007: Hi there
You have said yourself that you dont see your current relationship continuing for much longer, your obviously neither happy or content with your girl.
maybe it would be best to let this lady down gently sooner rather than later. Talk ... (read in full...)
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