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writes:HiDo I follow my head or my heart?I am with a girl, and do like her, things have been slow since weve been away from uni for the summer hols. I think we get on ok and will have some good times to come, but I don't see if going too far to be honest.But there is also this other girl though, and I feel I really ought to be with her. We did kiss once, but she didn't want to jump into a relationship at the time. I'm not sure if this the real reason if it was just since she didn't like me enough.But I really do want to try and see if I could be with this other girl - I like her a lot. I'm not the sort of person to do anything behind my gfs back, so we would have to split up first.Any ideas/thoughts/morals would be great to help me try and sort my head out...Thanks guys...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2007): I have been through this situation before and i am telling you to go with your heart..i was going through the same sort of thing when we first knew each other but i realised after a while that you should never leave the one you love for the one you like because the one you like will leave you for the one they love.i am telling you, i am so glad i went with the one i love because i don't know how i would have ended up otherwise and i love him so much it gives you more of a rush when you are with then....but it isn't up to me, it is up to YOU.. do you want to be with someone who you like but don't get that extra special feeling when you want to see them all the time and need them and feel loved or do you want to be with the real thing.. the one you know is perfect for you??.. you deside that because all i can say is that i am very happy about my desision and sure, it might hurt the girl you like but it will all work out and it will feel so much better when you are with someone you feel more attracted to.good luck!!
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reader, broken hart +, writes (21 September 2007):
just take a time out before you do anything!
how much does your gf mean to you? if it didnt work out with the new girl, would you regret what you have done?
just think about it.
good luck
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (21 September 2007):
 honestly, i think that you should do the right thing and finish your relationship with you grilfriend because the longer you stay with her, the more likely it is that she will be getting false hopes.
and once you are out of the relationship and given yourself time and space to clear your head and move on, give this other girl a call and see what happens.
best of luck
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reader, lily lousia +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Hi there
You have said yourself that you dont see your current relationship continuing for much longer, your obviously neither happy or content with your girl.
maybe it would be best to let this lady down gently sooner rather than later. Talk to her and explain that you dont want to hurt her, but continuing the relationship would be all for the wrong reason.
Dont rush into another relationship, you may find yourself in this position again 3mths down the line.
build a friendship with with the other lady. discover what you have in common (if anything) if you can understand each other, make each other laugh and more importantly if there is a chemistry between you.
dont rush from one lady to another, you WILL find what you are looking for. Remember, Rome wasnt built in a day and the best things in life are worth waiting for.
good luck
lily
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reader, i might be a girl but i can help +, writes (21 September 2007):
 i think you should go with your heart if you are not happy in your relationship its not right to carry on as the futher you go into the relationship the harder it is to get out of. why don't you talk to this other girl about how you feel and than see on from there.
good luck hunny xxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, lovejunkie  +, writes (21 September 2007):
 My advise is, never settle for "comfortable" when you can have "exciting". If there aren't many sparks with the first girl you mentioned, but you have stronger sexual or attraction feelings for the 2nd girl, then it's the 2nd girl you should be with. Good luck.
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reader, Ears4tears +, writes (21 September 2007):
 Only you can make this decision but ask yourself, is itvreally worth loosing a girl that cares for you and wants to spend her time with you for a girl who has knocked you back once already???
The thing about being with someone is the more time you spend having fun with them, the more you want to be with them!!
Dont matter whether you follow your heart or head really hun coz its gona be a 50/50 either way. If you follow your heart then you risk losin a nice girl and some good times to discover the other girl simlpy isnt interested and if you follow your head then then youll never know what would of been.
Weigh it up before you mae your decision coz you dont wanna go maing the wrong one!!! xx best of luck xx
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (21 September 2007):
 this is a tough one and all i can say is that if it was me, i would follow my heart and go after the second girl. it might not go anywhere because she has already said she didnt want a relationship but you wont know if you dont try and you are cheating yourself and your girlfriend by staying in a relationship which your heart is not really in.
brooke
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