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reader, Titania70  +, writes (12 October 2007):
If he has done it to her, he can also do it to you in the future. He's just not morally reliable. I wouldnt waste my time on a man like that. It's not too late to leave and be happy with someone who is free and more respectful of relationships in the future. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 October 2007): Hey
You have got some pretty unanimous advice!
I would just say, the only exception to this advice is that is he married but separated? I mean is he effectively married in name, but that they are no longer practicing man and wife? If that is the case, then perhaps he deserves a chance to get through this.
But if he has been keeping a secret relationship going for 4 months whilst keeping his marriage going then that really is quite shocking and I'd suggest the same as all the others below.
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (12 October 2007):
 Throw him to the curb. This guy is sick he said he didnt want to loose you which means this whole thing was about him never 'us' besides he is married which means he can never fully commit to you, if you keep him you will always be the other woman is that what u want? he will use you to get what he wants especially now that you know he is married he will always use his wife as an excuse if you ask him of something. so dont put yourself in such a loosing position because no matter what you will do you are going to come last.
If this man really didnt want to loose you he should have trusted you enough to tell you the truth about his marriage so that at the end of the day its your decision to make if you want him with his baggages or you dont need any complications.
All his excuses are just lies, right now he knows its your decision to make if you will want to keep him or not, he will say a lot of things to put you in an awkward position, or just play with your emotions so that he gets what he wants, becareful if he starts bad mouthing his wife to you that is just emotional blackmail so watch out. Ive been there I know.
Jovial
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reader, Farcar  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Get out now!
This house is built on a shaky foundation. Nothing good will come of this. Spare yourself future agony.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (11 October 2007):
Dump the liar.
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Throw him to the curb.
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reader, kenny +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Yes i agree with the other Aunts, you need to ditch this guy and move on, and find someone who you can trust.
All the best x
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reader, soinlove +, writes (11 October 2007):
Kick him to the curb! This cannot be good for anyone involved
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reader, lily lousia +, writes (11 October 2007):
The Rat has decieved you and his wife. chances are he will do it again and again.Ask yourself would you ever trust him?
Best to get rid of him now. Your deserve better than him.
good luck
lily
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reader, flower girl +, writes (11 October 2007):
 I'm with the others on this one, get rid of him pronto, he does not deserve anyone acting like this.
Take care.xx.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 October 2007):
 If he feels that if you knew you would leave him, he was right. Trash the guy. You don't want to be "that woman". you don't want to be "on the side". You need a guy who isn't scummy enough to screw around on his wife, who he's supposedly committed too. If he shows that kind of disrespect to his wife, imagine how he'll treat you.
He can never be trusted, and let's face it, he's a scum.
Good luck, sweetness! You'll find someone worthy of your affection!
xxIndia
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Get him out of your life and move on. He is a user
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Throw him to the curb. You now know his true character.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2007): Hi Love,
Get rid!!!!!!!!!!
If he has done it to his wife with you then he has probably done it before, And he will do it with someone else to you so get rid hunny sorry TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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