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writes: hello there. i really would be so grateful of some help. Me and my boyfriend met in march this year in our first year of university. We got together in May, and stayed together all summer, although he lived 300 mile away, we managed, he came to see me and i went to see him...and eventually we have fallen in love. However, latley i have been quite insecure and this has caused a few problems so we are not as stable as we could be, but like i said we have so so much love for eachother.i believe that i have met the person i would like to spend my life with and my boyfriend, without me mentioning it has said exactly the same.However, i found out that i have failed university, and cannot afford to live nearby. I only live about 75 minutes from him but its not the same as seeing him every night. We met for chat the other night and i got the impression that he may want to leave it, so i played along. He said he didnt think he would ever love anyone so much again and he was crying so much. Then he was just going to walk away. Walk away with the knowledge that he would never see me again!! I had to stop him. I oouldnt bear that thought for one minute. So i said that he couldnt love me as much as he says if he was willing to walk away!!We are now giving it another try.im going to drive up/him drive down to see me at least twice a week.i love him more than anything and cant imagine my life witout him.please be honest with me do u think its possible that it can work between us.hes such a catch, a good looking medical student who everybody loves.im just scared hes going to find someone else.help! im so sorry it was so long..its breaking my heart though x x x
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reader, lily lousia +, writes (9 October 2007):
hi there
my man and I live over 200 miles apart, we have been together for 4 years and are very much in love.
it isnt easy, we both have children so it means we dont get much time on our own even when we are together.Although its not an ideal situation we cannot change things as we both have work and family commitments that keep us apart.
we talk every night on the phone, even web cam on msn sometimes which bridges the gap.
We usually get together for a weekend once or twice a month. The secret is to communicate well, trust and value each other and be as close and romantic as you can when you get the opportunity to be together.
So yes, long distance relationships do work, you just need to be prepared to work at it.
good luck hun
lily
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reader, elicastillo3 +, writes (9 October 2007):
Hi, yes it is possible for long relationships to work, i had one myself a while ago we lived in different countries, but we managed, the key to the relationship is the trust, faith and hope youve got for oneanother and for the relationship, talk to him tell him how you feel that you are worried but u know that youll be fine, always be honest that is one important thing in a relationship, if you really love one another i believe in love can do miracles if its really felt. so go ahead love without fear and trust your heart and the journey is taking you always walk firm and sure of yourself and of what you do, youll be surprised with what you can achieve..
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