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My married boss suggested no strings sex, should I take his offer?

Q.   Hi,for the last one year i have been attracted towards my Boss. I am unmarried 28 Y female and he is 35 Y married male. He is also attracted towards me. He has asked me for sexual relations with him without any emotional involvement.He never forces ...

A.   3 December 2008: what makes you think you have any right here? he is married. he is someone's husband. that means out of bounds.... (read in full...)

I slept with my wife's sister and best friend, one is now pregnant...what can I do?

Q.   Hi all This is all a complete mess!!! I slept with both my wifes sister and her best friend and dont know what i can do now. They both came onto me and are so hot that i could not resist either of them... The problem i have now is t...

A.   2 December 2008: duskyrowe is right, you don't shit on your own doorstep. She'll never keep up the story that it is her partner's child, you are kidding yourself. Bless the child, kids don't deserve to be born into such devious and messed up situations. You need to ... (read in full...)

Do I have a reason to be upset that he contacts his ex when I'm not around?

Q.   Not sure if I'm just being jealous or if I have a reason to be upset. My BF who is recently divorced, no kids, shares a dog with his ex. She had him over Thanksgiving and on Thanksgiving Day he waited until I was in the shower to text her to ...

A.   1 December 2008: you are not being paranoid, he is contacting the ex and lying about what was said! it is not as if they have a kid together, its just a dog. i reckon you are much better than what he is expecting you to put up with! go girl!... (read in full...)

Should I give up on my marriage or keep trying?

Q.   Hi My husband has left almost three months now. We have a 14 year old daughter. I want so badly to have my family back. He says he doesnt love me anymore. I have found out he has slept several nights at another womens house that use to work with him ...

A.   27 November 2008: im so sorry to hear your trouble, but for your own self esteem and respect maybe it would be best to try and start again on your own. it is awful that your husband has slept with other women and that you have had to beg him to take you back. it ... (read in full...)

Is there a way I can tell I am pregnant...this soon after having sex?

Q.   I recently had a one night stand with a very very good friend of mine and well we kind of had a problem with the condom. I went to the doctors and took a morning after pill but there is still a niggling feeling in the back of my head... what if?...

A.   27 November 2008: i have had a couple of scares and this is what i know loulou84, the morning after pill has most probably worked,however you could now buy a test from the chemist. it usually takes around 14 days from the date of the sex until these hormones show up ... (read in full...)

What do his texts mean? Is he flirting big time? He's married!

Q.   So I have been texting this married man, who is 9 years older then me. I am 17, I will be 18 next October. I texted him because I needed advice. He told me what to do, tell the kid I like him as a friend. I told him that I told him that, and im in ...

A.   27 November 2008: stop texting married men this is wrong of you. how will you feel when you are married and your husband starts texting some teenager? just stop it before you wreck someone's marriage.... (read in full...)

Can I give or receive oral sex without passing on my oral herpes?

Q.   if i have oral herpes and i have no outbreaks can someone give me oral sex without me giving it to them?also can i give oral to someone without passing it on if i have no outbreaks at the time?or can i never have oral or give oral ever?...

A.   20 November 2008: the herpes virus lies dormant in the body whether you have an outbreak or not! you MUST use condoms!... (read in full...)

Would you call it cheating on his partner when we are only phoning?

Q.   Guys:- Why does a guy say he'll ring on a certain day or time and then not? I am keeping in touch with a guy I adore(who has a partner who he says he doesn't get along with) so he only rings me as and when. For obvious reasons I can't re...

A.   20 November 2008: its cheating and you know it. as the other post says, wait until you are happy with a man, then you find out he has been phoning another woman, it is not right to mess with another woman's man. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is pregnant but I also have feelings for another...

Q.   I am in the armed forces and left for deployment with my relationship being rocky at best. Half way through I managed to get home for a week and all seemed better. 3 weeks later I recieved the news my partner was pregnant I was overjoyed and still ...

A.   18 November 2008: You're not a scumbag this is just so unfortunate. When it comes to it, can you stay with your partner if she's really not the one? She will be devastated if you leave, of course you would have to support your baby even if you left her, but she may ... (read in full...)

My husband has always had porn in his life and I'm aggravated and tired.

Q.   i'm tired and confused and need help. i've been married for 15 years, my husband has always had porn in his life since i've been with him, everytime i find it i cry i get furious and he says he'll stop and does for maybe a week or 2 till i find ...

A.   18 November 2008: i think you should leave him! its an addiction yes but the fact that he knows how distressed you are and doesnt care is awful. it might totally ruin your self esteem, and you shouldnt risk that. could family and friends help you with the children ... (read in full...)

If he really does love her then should I feel threatened by this?

Q.   Hi. I've known this woman at work now for about 2.5 years and we have started dating for the past 12 months. Our relationship has grown out of friendship. Anyway, the other day she told me that she thinks that someone else (who may not know about me ...

A.   14 November 2008: hi, the first thing i think is why didnt she tell you this 3 months ago? and, how does she know that he is in love with her? did he tell her? if someone else told her,then it must be known in the place where you work and so why haven't you heard ... (read in full...)

What does this 19 year old boy want with a 30 year old single parent???

Q.   I got drunk at a Halloween party. 2 days later I got a message from a guy at a party saying we had had a nice discussion though i was drunk and he was very friendly. i couldn't reslly remember him so I sent a friendly reply. we started talking a ...

A.   13 November 2008: at your age you should know he only wants a bit of fun... more to the point, he has a girlfriend, so really you should ignore his texts. it may be flattering to have a nineteen year old's attention but he has a girlfriend and you have a kid so its ... (read in full...)

How do I make my wife agree to sleep with other men?

Q.   How do I make my wife agree to sleep with other men? This is my deepest fantasy and will give me immense pleasure in seeing her having sex with others....

A.   13 November 2008: Are you serious!!!! This is pretty digusting of you. I feel sorry for your wife. Why not get divorced then sleep with whoever you want? Marriage says 'forsaking all others'. You should talk with a councillor.... (read in full...)

I need my ex - but my boyfriend can't cope with it

Q.   Hiya i wrote up afew days back about the fact that my bf did not like me being friends with my ex husband although i was clean about it from the start and he was ok now he's changed. This is the link to my last question: ...

A.   13 November 2008: i reckon you have answered it yourself. you said you 'cant go on without your ex'. why on earth have you got a boyfriend then? two guys around you may boost your ego but its really unfair to your boyfriend, im surprised he's even still around! ... (read in full...)

A woman should shud her mouth and sit in the corner - he's abusive and strange. what's goin on?

Q.   Hi My husband just beat me down to the floor last night and held me there. I refusd to be held down so I fought to free myself. He told me to calm down and stop being angry I was calm and I was not angry. I was fustrated I was being accused ...

A.   16 October 2008: for goodness sake! this man is abusing you, start planning how to leave.... (read in full...)

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