I don't want to date him as he gets around but if I say no-he might lose interest! What should I do?
Q. Iv been friends with a boy for 5 years and ive always known he's thought of me as more. A couple of months ago he was telling me he wants to be with me and asking me if i would. iv been saying i dont know because im scared but i really want to say ...
A. 1 February 2007: If you want to keep this friendship as is you must decline the invite. If you are interested in being intimate and developing a lasting love with this man, you must address this issue directly. When he asks to be intimate be completely honest about ... (read in full...)
My bf can't make up his mind between me and his son's Mother! Should I dump him?
Q. hi i am a single mom since the breakup with the kids dad i found someone i like we have gone out a year.well he has a son and he goes back and forth between me and his son mom. he leaves me then comes back in a week or 2. well he tells me me and him ...
A. 17 January 2007: First of all you are questioning wether you should stay. Your instincts are telling you it isn't working, but you've given him control over wether you two are or aren't together. It's time to take the initiative and tell him you will not put up with ... (read in full...)
I don't get any attention from him when his 3-year old daughter comes to stay!
Q. My bf has a 3 year old daughter and has joint custody. When we have her it is like I am not even there. I don't want him to get upset because I know how much he loves and misses her when she is gone. But it is putting a strain on my relationship ...
A. 17 January 2007: If you need that much attention from a man you need to find one who has no children, siblings, parents, exes,etc. Are you so close-minded and selfish that you can't allow this man to love his daughter? This is a totally different kind of love. Did ... (read in full...)
Asked him if he'll relocate with me and he said "I don't know"! What's up with this guy?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for over 4 years now. Recently Ive been looking for another job, and may have found something in another town, which means I might have to move. He works all over the country, so I assumed that he wont have a ...
A. 12 January 2007: I agree wholeheartedly with Shandy Pop. This guy is a loser because he is not man enough to end it on his own and will force you to end it and, therefore, make you look like the 'bad guy'. Who really cares?! Show your daughter how to deal with ... (read in full...)
Are most romantic relationships lop-sided? They are with me!
Q. Are most romantic relationships lop-sided? Meaning, one person is more in love, more attracted to the other. This seems to be the case to me. When I was married, my husband was way more attracted to me than I was to him. He was always wanti...
A. 9 January 2007: No. I do not believe all relationships are lop-sided. I have seen too many working relationships to believe that. Just as we all have moments where we need to lean on each other, we also go through times where we want more affection than each other. ... (read in full...)
Do I have a low sex drive because of us fighting?
Q. I have been in a controlled relationship for almost 2 years.we are always fighting and i have NO sex drive at all and im 20 it shouldnt be like this but what can i do? Am i not wanting sex cause im unhappy or is my body telling me it isnt right with ...
A. 3 January 2007: Simply, yes. Letting this man control you is the problem. If the two of you are still fighting, instead of reasoning, after two years, it is not working. If you move on and start spending some time with a man who can treat you like an individual ... (read in full...)
We broke up 6 weeks ago but he can't afford to move out. We're in limbo and this is so hard on me. Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up 6 weeks ago because I couldnt cope with him having female friends. We stayed in the same house as neither of us could afford to move out. He has always said there is a possibility at some point we can get back together ...
A. 30 December 2006: The future is a scarry thing for most of us. Stepping out into the unknown is very brave. First, you consider what example you want to set for your son. How would you hope he would deal with this situation? (One day he'll be your age) As a mother ... (read in full...)
He has baggage..a lot of it! A bitter ex wife, a pregnant ex gf...who are constantly harrassing us! What should I do?
Q. i have finally found what i need in a man...but he has some baggage i am unsure of how to deal with! he is married but seperated...due for divorce in feb. he has two kids...the mother causes havoc because i am in his life. he was also seeing a girl ...
A. 30 December 2006: Honestly this man is not ready for yet another relationship. If he is making you feel as though you need to hang on through all of this, he is probably just leaning on you and doesn't even realize himself that he's not actually in love. Take an ... (read in full...)
He is ignoring my calls and my texts! Should I dump him or did he just 'not' get my messages?
Q. My latest relationship has been bliss, but recently after Christmas, he hasnt reply to any of my Texts or emails, he is never on msn, And i cant get through to his home phone, I have been thinking of dumping him, And i Changed my mind, part of me ...
A. 30 December 2006: Looks like you don't get the privilege of 'dumping' him. Appears he has already 'dumped' you. Only advice to give you is if you feel you are in love with this man, go ahead and move on with your personal goals and try to remain focused on that. From ... (read in full...)
My bf says he's bored with making love to me! I feel so self-conscious! How do I deal with him?
Q. My bloke of two years said i don't do enough during love making. I thought everything was ok. He says i don't touch him as much as i used to do. I just lie there and let him do everything. It's not true and has made me feel so conscious. We do ...
A. 29 December 2006: You might want to take a look at what you are feeling and how you respond during sex. Don't be afraid to ask him what he would like you to do, but use some of your own creativity. Try to become adventurous and spontaneous.
Get some ideas in your... (read in full...)
He holds grudges against me for a long time, even after I say I'm sorry! Any advice?
Q. My boyfriend has a lot of past issues and we never really argue but when we do, if i say anything nasty, which is purely heat of the moment, no matter how much i say sorry, he carries a grudge for ages, saying that i've really hurt him. i don't ...
A. 29 December 2006: Holding grudges is a control tactic. It appears to me as though he is also using a past that you were no part of as an excuse to behave in ways that upset you. You have a right to get angry occassionally. You are the only one who can determine if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he doesn't need sex!
Q. My boyfriend says he doesn't need sex, could that be true? He says he's getting old and his body doesn't function right, does anyone have a clue whats really going on? ...
A. 29 December 2006: 30 is not old but many people have a great deal of trouble not focusing on it. If you two have a good solid relationship, his focus on his age may be his biggest problem. You are probably a reminder (by your youth)of his aging body. Your focus on ... (read in full...)
How do i get over a mentally, sexually, financially abusive man
Q. ive been in love with the same mentally, sexually, financially abusive man for 10 years. how do i get over him and why am i still obssessing over him...
A. 29 December 2006: Sorry cupid friends, Let me clarify my situation. I lived with the man for 7 years. During this time, as he messed with my head, sucked me dry financially, and robbed me of many nights sleep, I still managed to purchase a home, start a business ... (read in full...)
This is a long one but it's worth it..... What is her game?
Q. Hi there... I am 25, male, please help. (This may take a while, sorry its so long). Ive been going with a girl for well over a year now, we used to be best friends, and always have been. There was always chemistry between us, but she was wit...
A. 27 December 2006: This woman is abusing you, bottom line. Runnnnn...... get focused 24/7 on anything but her. I am the last to preach this but i am also all too familiar with it. Wether she loves you or not, she will never stop abusing you. Do you want to spend the ... (read in full...)
Is the MD of my company being friendly... or sleazy!?
Q. Hi guys, i'm a happily attached lady hoping for some advice on a small problem that i am facing at work. Basically i'm wondering whether you lot think that the following is just innocent friendliness or something more sleazy...The managing director ...
A. 27 December 2006: It sounds to me that this either is something new to him or he's testing his boundaries with you. You should definitely turn him down at your next opportunity with a very honest "i'm not comfortable with that' and, if he persists with 'it's clean. ... (read in full...)
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