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writes: My boyfriend says he doesn't need sex, could that be true? He says he's getting old and his body doesn't function right, does anyone have a clue whats really going on? Reply to this Question
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reader, Hag +, writes (29 December 2006):
30 is not old but many people have a great deal of trouble not focusing on it. If you two have a good solid relationship, his focus on his age may be his biggest problem. You are probably a reminder (by your youth)of his aging body. Your focus on sex will only put more pressure on him. The more pressure he feels the harder it will be to perform. If you can, try not to need so much physical attention. Try not to pay so much attention to him that he feels your concern. Men don't tend to be as open with their personal concerns. If you can't find a way to occupy yoursself without making him feel deserted, you have a good chance of losing him. If sex is fairly new to you, and you are desparately needing to 'play', this may be a true 'testing' period of your relationship.
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reader, dorfmeistersfan +, writes (27 December 2006):
 No man loses the ability to be ATTRACTED TOWARDS ANOTHER WOMEN!
The idea of someone saying they are not interested in sex is similar to saying he's not interested in having sex WITH YOU-unfortunately.
The interest, attraction and sparks have been lost here.
There's nothing you can do about this but be creative in hopes to winning his sexual desire back towards you, otherwise it will end up with someone else-who he may be INTERESTED IN HAVING SEX WITH!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we had lots of it in the beginning when we started dating. He says he doesn't need it and that his sex drive isn't high, he's 30yrs old and i'm 23. He doesn't really like to cuddle all the time anymore, its like he doesn't want to do anything with me, and it just feels like i'm the one whos always giving him kisses or just showing him love/being affectionate. Him looking at nude pics of women doesn't really make me feel he's genuine, though i know that all guys do look at that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): Well, like David, I don't need sex either. Though my sex drive is like Ultraman Massive horny, I still dont' NEED it. 8] Oh btw, I'm almost 28. So think about that. 8]
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (22 December 2006):
 I dont NEED sex. I like it, but I would be happy to be in a relationship without. I love being kissed, cuddled and reassured that I am loved. Love is ALL you need.
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reader, goodaz +, writes (22 December 2006):
 hi! it would help if i knew the age of your bf, but all i can say is if he is, say 40+,then this maybe true.he may feel that he is less able,depending on his health and just wants to have a cuddle from time to time.on the other hand if he is fairly young and able, i cant really see why this would be true unless he has insecurities.nevertheless he could just be genuine and truly doesnt need sex.try asking him what sex means to him despite the fact that he feels he doesnt need it.good luck.xxx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2006): Would help to know how old he is?
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